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two things:
one: will...not..feed...troll...soooo..hard...must....resist....
Two: to the OP. i'm in a sort of related situation. didn't have time/$ to visit all the schools that i applied to before i did it. based my app's on websites/books. have gotten into one MD program (and one DO and waiting on one DO). the MD program made me cry when i was there for interview. the town was little and sad. there weren't ANY of the little things around that give me small joys (an independent bookstore that gets author readings, an indie record store, a decent non-chain coffee store, etc.). the school itself was a few tiny run down buildings. it was depressing to be there a day, no matter years. the prof's that i met were great, but the other students/interviewees were blah. i couldn't see anywhere that i'd have any social support there (i'm a hetero girl who socially defines as queer...i'm a drag hag and a faux queen in my free time). and then there were all these intangibles that were so off for me. i saw myself being absolutely miserable, and maybe having a really hard time, maybe falling back into major depression. plus, there are people who really really want to go to this school, and i really don't, and me taking it when i know i'd be unhappy, when another would be happy to have it, is bad karma.
i'm waiting on the second DO program (which i LOVED! please take me!!!), and will go there if i get in. otherwise, i'm reapplying next year. but here's the thing i thought long and hard about: what if i never, ever get in anywhere else. what if this was my one shot. will i regret turning it down? and i know, in my case, in my gut, i will not. it was that bad of a fit for me. yes, long term goals and bearing through things is a show of strength of character. but i've been there, done that when i went to grad school somewhere i hated. and in the end, your life is made of yesterday, today, and tomorrow, and there has to be a balance between going for future goals and having a good today. because who knows when you could get hit by a bus?
so yeah, that's what i say. if he knows he'd be miserable, and he can live, without regret, with himself if he never gets in anywhere else, then he shoudl reapply. if not, then go. AND: DO NOT APPLY ANYWHERE YOU AREN'T 100% SURE YOU WILL GO!!!
one: will...not..feed...troll...soooo..hard...must....resist....
Two: to the OP. i'm in a sort of related situation. didn't have time/$ to visit all the schools that i applied to before i did it. based my app's on websites/books. have gotten into one MD program (and one DO and waiting on one DO). the MD program made me cry when i was there for interview. the town was little and sad. there weren't ANY of the little things around that give me small joys (an independent bookstore that gets author readings, an indie record store, a decent non-chain coffee store, etc.). the school itself was a few tiny run down buildings. it was depressing to be there a day, no matter years. the prof's that i met were great, but the other students/interviewees were blah. i couldn't see anywhere that i'd have any social support there (i'm a hetero girl who socially defines as queer...i'm a drag hag and a faux queen in my free time). and then there were all these intangibles that were so off for me. i saw myself being absolutely miserable, and maybe having a really hard time, maybe falling back into major depression. plus, there are people who really really want to go to this school, and i really don't, and me taking it when i know i'd be unhappy, when another would be happy to have it, is bad karma.
i'm waiting on the second DO program (which i LOVED! please take me!!!), and will go there if i get in. otherwise, i'm reapplying next year. but here's the thing i thought long and hard about: what if i never, ever get in anywhere else. what if this was my one shot. will i regret turning it down? and i know, in my case, in my gut, i will not. it was that bad of a fit for me. yes, long term goals and bearing through things is a show of strength of character. but i've been there, done that when i went to grad school somewhere i hated. and in the end, your life is made of yesterday, today, and tomorrow, and there has to be a balance between going for future goals and having a good today. because who knows when you could get hit by a bus?
so yeah, that's what i say. if he knows he'd be miserable, and he can live, without regret, with himself if he never gets in anywhere else, then he shoudl reapply. if not, then go. AND: DO NOT APPLY ANYWHERE YOU AREN'T 100% SURE YOU WILL GO!!!
