Okay then, what is modest?

[Roy7]

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Okay, this is kinda off that other post on modest people...

If you do well on something, but you dont want to go come across as cocky or falsely modest (because you dont want to piss off your classmates) - and someone asks you how you did after an exam what do you say? If I say "I did well", then they'll (generic for people that are calling others gunners) assume that I'm being cocky. If I said "allright", and end up w/a 100 then I'm falsely modest.... If I dont show my score, and they see my 100 when scores are posted they'll think I'm just being a jerk (because people are more curious when you dont want to talk about things, also not wanting to show gives the impression I did poorly therefore the falsely-modest-thingy comes up again).

Actually, now that I think about it I think doesnt matter much since I'll probably fail the next exam anyway.

 

[TRUE]

The standard response when I've done well on a test (which isn't often nowadays...haha), is I did "OK". Scores here are not posted, and I don't let people see my test scores. If scores are posted at your school, are they posted under your name or what? We have one or two classes post when I was a freshmen, but that was under some special security number we got from the school. No one knew anyone else's number unless you told someone...

 

[Amy B]

I never gave out any of my scores at school. People would come up and ask me how I did... I would say "I did ok." Some would follow that up with .."What grade did you get?" I always said the same thing......"Sorry, nothing personal, but I never give out my grades." Most people knew this about me, so they usually didn't ask my score.

Not giving out your grade on exams is a good thing to start and keep up with. I also used this policy not to give out my total MCAT score.

It is not wrong or being false by not telling people. Quite frankly I think it is rude for people to ask what grade someone else got. I mean, who cares how everyone did, it is your performance that matters and not everyone else's. Now if someone wants to ask me how I did on a certain problem from the test, well, that's different and I am more than happy to talk about that.

 

[elias514]

Modesty is not taking yourself too seriously and realizing that, regardless of your efforts, the person next to you will always be better than you at something really important. Modesty involves the recognition that you are inherently flawed just like everyone else. Most importantly, modesty entails emotional sensitivity--i.e., knowing how people will react to your statements--and genuine compassion. Keep these things in mind and you won't come across as an arrogant jerk.

 

[Roy7]

The standard response when I've done well on a test (which isn't often nowadays...haha), is I did "OK". Scores here are not posted, and I don't let people see my test scores. If scores are posted at your school, are they posted under your name or what? We have one or two classes post when I was a freshmen, but that was under some special security number we got from the school. No one knew anyone else's number unless you told someone...

Some of my professors just post scores with names. Other (like my organic), announce who got the highest first score, then post them by student id numbers... Well, if you know what and who got the highest first score doesnt matter much what his number is - you can see his scores right away.

In response to Elias - i'm really bad when it comes to knowing how people will react to things I say - I always just did the "walk in someone elses shoes" gig, and since it takes an awful lot to bother me the "put yourself in his shoes" just never worked.

 

[DMBFan61]

i always say i did ok when someone asks, then if they ask about my score ill tell them....i kinda treat school like golf: in all reality, im only competing with myself.

 

[No Egrets]

Once I got to college, I didn't really have classmates asking me how I did out of curiosity... If anyone has asked about my grades it's because they're a friend and genuinely care, and then we just discuss it openly. I suppose if I found myself questioned by an annoying acquaintance I would say something like "I did better than I expected! It was a pretty hard test." Or something like that. I guess I'm lucky not to have that problem at my school...

 

[gschl1234]

i always say i did ok when someone asks, then if they ask about my score ill tell them....i kinda treat school like golf: in all reality, im only competing with myself.

I'm always worried that if I don't answer the "score" question, they'll think I'm stuck-up or something, like grades matter so much to me that I can't trust them with the information. It's a catch-22. I never ask people and I wish they would do the same because I agree with you that it should just be a competition with yourself to do your best.

 

[bigdan]

I usually tell people exactly what I got when they ask. It's honest, and they asked. And I'll always tell the truth - be it 100 or 50 as the test score.
The more chat with folks the more I get to see that I can't influence entirely how they see me, and if I'm honest, at least I'm honest.
My perception of arrogance is the idea that the world revolves around that person. For example, the test couldn't have been hard; the arrogant student complains of bad questions...and in the same vein, the arrogant student can't believe that everyone didn't ace the exam. Arrogance seems to take away the consideration that others are important too.

dc

 

[UCLAstudent]

I just say that I did well. "Well" just implies that you are pleased with your grade. It shouldn't come across as bragging.

 

[TRUE]

Some of my professors just post scores with names. Other (like my organic), announce who got the highest first score, then post them by student id numbers... Well, if you know what and who got the highest first score doesnt matter much what his number is - you can see his scores right away.

In response to Elias - i'm really bad when it comes to knowing how people will react to things I say - I always just did the "walk in someone elses shoes" gig, and since it takes an awful lot to bother me the "put yourself in his shoes" just never worked.

If you don't want others to know what your grade was, ask those professors to remove your grade from their grade sheets or ask them to use some sort of non-name ID system.

 

[mikeyboy]

i always say i did ok when someone asks, then if they ask about my score ill tell them....i kinda treat school like golf: in all reality, im only competing with myself.

I do the same, kind of. If I got a really high (absolute) score I'll say I did "pretty well." But if, say, the mean is a 60 and I score 80, I'm just going to say I did "alright." I won't volunteer my score, but I am not going to say "no, I won't tell you" because then it seems like I'm teasing them or something. Then again, most people that know me understand that I am modest, and those that don't know me so well usually won't confront me and ask me for my score.

 

[Gleevec]

I am the most modest person to have ever existed in this or any other universe.

I scored a 45T on my MCAT (Modesty Comprehensive Analysis Test).

😉

 

[Buckeye(OH)]

I usually tell people exactly what I got when they ask. It's honest, and they asked. And I'll always tell the truth - be it 100 or 50 as the test score.
dc

Exactly, if they ask I tell. Whether I get a 10 or a 100, it really doesn't matter to me who knows. However, I don't ever ask people their scores just so they will ask me mine.



Adrian

 

[exmike]

There is some "family education privacy act" thing that states student grades are confidential. Technically professors arent supposed to post any grade related data with identifying numbers such as name - and even SSN nowadays.

I remember in early college we used our SSNs. Then later on we has to use a randomly generated number assigned to us.

 

[exmike]

Okay, this is kinda off that other post on modest people...

If you do well on something, but you dont want to go come across as cocky or falsely modest (because you dont want to piss off your classmates) - and someone asks you how you did after an exam what do you say? If I say "I did well", then they'll (generic for people that are calling others gunners) assume that I'm being cocky. If I said "allright", and end up w/a 100 then I'm falsely modest.... If I dont show my score, and they see my 100 when scores are posted they'll think I'm just being a jerk (because people are more curious when you dont want to talk about things, also not wanting to show gives the impression I did poorly therefore the falsely-modest-thingy comes up again).

Actually, now that I think about it I think doesnt matter much since I'll probably fail the next exam anyway.

Like i said in my previous post, if your school is following privacy regulations, there is no way anyone should know your grade unless you volunteer it. If they are posting name linked grades, they are in violation of privacy laws and should be made aware of it.

 

[Eraserhead]

Modest = BerkeleyPremed