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UPDATE ON THE SITUATION!
Alright so all charges were dismissed on my friend. Order of protection dropped because it was "unfounded". The prosecutors side didn't do anything they were supposed to do (didn't get any evidence over 4 months) because they really didn't have any. So the result:
No conviction. No charge. No order of protection on record. The only problem is he now was "1 arrest" from when he turned himself in. Which he can get expunged before the next application cycle. It would go under "getting expunged because you were innocent". When getting something expunged you are legally allowed to pretend it never happened when applying for jobs or schools. The only people that will have it on record are things like the FBI and CIA etc.
Correct me if I'm wrong in any of this. And thanks for your unwavering confidence!
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Sup ya'll. I'm writing this for my buddy because he wants to stay anonymous. He wants to know if any of this will come up on background checks or interviews or anything so I'm just going to copy paste this. It happened in NYC.
"Hey guys, so long story short I have an Order of Protection put on me from a judge because of an incident with my last gf. I've never been convicted of any crimes. But I did have to turn myself in for "processing" a week after the incident, which I think was considered an arrest. My ex and I were going out on and off for about 4 years and sometime in the last year she became a really crazy drunk. She swore she was developing a higher tolerance but really she was just getting so bad that she lost the ability to know how bad she was getting. One night we were out and we got into an argument at a club. She swung at me a few times, but she's half my size so most missed and the few that connected didn't really do anything. I calmed things down in the club, got us a taxi and made sure she got home safe because it was her birthday. I told her I was just going to sleep on the couch, and to go to her room so we could talk in the morning, because no good would come from fighting now (I was seriously debating ending everything but I knew that moment would be a very bad time). Well she started screaming at me anyway, and hitting me and telling me to leave. So I ran to grab my duffle bag while under the assault, and her door ended up with a 2 by 2 inch dent in it. She used that as an excuse to call the cops and so that she "could get the door on record and make sure I had to pay for it" (a $40 regular white door, lol.) and so when the cops came it all went under domestic violence. 5 days later when we were fine and we thought everything was over and she admitted to all her mistakes, we both got a call from a detective saying that I had to turn myself in. So I did. There was no evidence I did anything, and she literally put in a statement saying that everything was her fault because she was drunk. BUT. The District Attorney and the judge both ordered a temporary order of protection just to give the court something to use as a tool in case I did anything. The problem with these is that "temporary, really means "forever" if the girl doesn't feel like going through the trouble of taking it off. So now I'm a premed with 1 "arrest", zero convictions, and 1 Order of protection. The Order states that I just can't contact her in any way, but I don't think it has anything stating a radius or something.
If it sounds like bull****, I promise you it's not. That's just how the law is in NYC against men. And honestly, I can "kind of" see why. The detective that called me looked over the whole case, and talked to my ex, ended up sympathizing with me. He explained that NYC had a lot of cases where guys were beating up women, and every time the police or courts stepped in, these women with Stockholm syndrome and would beg the police and courts not to do anything, and would just say they fell down the stairs or something. Finally in one case a guy dropped a girl down an elevator shaft, so now no matter what happens they drop the hammer on men full force no matter what, even if you didn't touch the girl. She could drop a cup and she could say you broke it and you'll end up with one for breaking property. So thanks to everyone that's read this, please keep my story in mind when dealing with unstable women, I appreciate it your help"
UPDATE ON THE SITUATION!
Alright so all charges were dismissed on my friend. Order of protection dropped because it was "unfounded". The prosecutors side didn't do anything they were supposed to do (didn't get any evidence over 4 months) because they really didn't have any. So the result:
No conviction. No charge. No order of protection on record. The only problem is he now was "1 arrest" from when he turned himself in. Which he can get expunged before the next application cycle. It would go under "getting expunged because you were innocent". When getting something expunged you are legally allowed to pretend it never happened when applying for jobs or schools. The only people that will have it on record are things like the FBI and CIA etc.
Correct me if I'm wrong in any of this. And thanks for your unwavering confidence!
EDIT OVER
Sup ya'll. I'm writing this for my buddy because he wants to stay anonymous. He wants to know if any of this will come up on background checks or interviews or anything so I'm just going to copy paste this. It happened in NYC.
"Hey guys, so long story short I have an Order of Protection put on me from a judge because of an incident with my last gf. I've never been convicted of any crimes. But I did have to turn myself in for "processing" a week after the incident, which I think was considered an arrest. My ex and I were going out on and off for about 4 years and sometime in the last year she became a really crazy drunk. She swore she was developing a higher tolerance but really she was just getting so bad that she lost the ability to know how bad she was getting. One night we were out and we got into an argument at a club. She swung at me a few times, but she's half my size so most missed and the few that connected didn't really do anything. I calmed things down in the club, got us a taxi and made sure she got home safe because it was her birthday. I told her I was just going to sleep on the couch, and to go to her room so we could talk in the morning, because no good would come from fighting now (I was seriously debating ending everything but I knew that moment would be a very bad time). Well she started screaming at me anyway, and hitting me and telling me to leave. So I ran to grab my duffle bag while under the assault, and her door ended up with a 2 by 2 inch dent in it. She used that as an excuse to call the cops and so that she "could get the door on record and make sure I had to pay for it" (a $40 regular white door, lol.) and so when the cops came it all went under domestic violence. 5 days later when we were fine and we thought everything was over and she admitted to all her mistakes, we both got a call from a detective saying that I had to turn myself in. So I did. There was no evidence I did anything, and she literally put in a statement saying that everything was her fault because she was drunk. BUT. The District Attorney and the judge both ordered a temporary order of protection just to give the court something to use as a tool in case I did anything. The problem with these is that "temporary, really means "forever" if the girl doesn't feel like going through the trouble of taking it off. So now I'm a premed with 1 "arrest", zero convictions, and 1 Order of protection. The Order states that I just can't contact her in any way, but I don't think it has anything stating a radius or something.
If it sounds like bull****, I promise you it's not. That's just how the law is in NYC against men. And honestly, I can "kind of" see why. The detective that called me looked over the whole case, and talked to my ex, ended up sympathizing with me. He explained that NYC had a lot of cases where guys were beating up women, and every time the police or courts stepped in, these women with Stockholm syndrome and would beg the police and courts not to do anything, and would just say they fell down the stairs or something. Finally in one case a guy dropped a girl down an elevator shaft, so now no matter what happens they drop the hammer on men full force no matter what, even if you didn't touch the girl. She could drop a cup and she could say you broke it and you'll end up with one for breaking property. So thanks to everyone that's read this, please keep my story in mind when dealing with unstable women, I appreciate it your help"
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