Possible to withdraw a LOR??

[paulzidane]

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Is it possible to withdraw a LOR? (Don't ask why.)

What if the person who submitted it asked?

 

[HumbleMD]

Is it possible to withdraw a LOR? (Don't ask why.)

What if the person who submitted it asked?

😱 Just don't send it in. Otherwise, you calling and telling a school to shred an LOR would be one of these numbers:

 

[paulzidane]

It would be a red flag anyway. A major red flag. So I'd rather it be a not-there and ill-defined one than in there.

Put it this way. Let's say, in some hypothetical situation, I got a peer recommendation.

And let's say I was stupid enough to get one from my ex, who promised to write a charming letter. Right. Now, can she call them up and say sorry, I was being really bitter, please pay no attention?

Some of my profs' reference letters are not the greatest, but I can deal with that, I guess.

Great situation, right? Someone give me some help here.

 

[Dr.Inviz]

It would be a red flag anyway. A major red flag. So I'd rather it be a not-there and ill-defined one than in there.

Put it this way. Let's say, in some hypothetical situation, I got a peer recommendation.

And let's say I was stupid enough to get one from my ex, who promised to write a charming letter. Right. Now, can she call them up and say sorry, I was being really bitter, please pay no attention?

Some of my profs' reference letters are not the greatest, but I can deal with that, I guess.

Great situation, right? Someone give me some help here.

heh, i wonder if i can withdraw my premed letter.

why did u get one from your ex?? is he a doctor or something?

 

[noshie]

That was kind of a bad idea to get one from someone you dated anyways. It is close to getting one from your family member. I would think that you will not be able to get it taken out of your file, and even if you called and they did do it, they would still be reading it so it really wouldnt matter. It cant be that bad, unless they find out you had someone you dated write you one. Just let it go is my advice or when you get an interview tell them you never asked for that person to write you a letter and they must have done it anyways. Yeah that is a bad idea too, I guess there is no good answer to this question, sorry.

 

[HumbleMD]

That was kind of a bad idea to get one from someone you dated anyways. It is close to getting one from your family member. I would think that you will not be able to get it taken out of your file, and even if you called and they did do it, they would still be reading it so it really wouldnt matter. It cant be that bad, unless they find out you had someone you dated write you one. Just let it go is my advice or when you get an interview tell them you never asked for that person to write you a letter and they must have done it anyways. Yeah that is a bad idea too, I guess there is no good answer to this question, sorry.

So, first of all, lying is never a good idea, especially in medical school admissions. Remember that silly little integrity thing?
Second, noshie, do you even understand how LOR's work in allopathic school admissions? That doesn't make a shred of sense. Did the person "accidentally" supply them with a form, and "accidentally" submit the LOR to the school?

 

[paulzidane]

Yea, I don't see how I can claim it was an accident when she had my AAMC number and everything.

But seriously people, what am I supposed to do?

I could maybe get her to send an "updated" letter or something, if that would be better received than just withdrawing a letter altogether (if withdrawing one is even possible). An update that just happens to go against all the **** said in the first letter. Or... maybe that would just draw more attention to it?

I'm so desperate. This is such a bad situation.

 

[pennybridge]

is it too late to move to another country and try there?

 

[Dr. Josh]

is it too late to move to another country and try there?

sorry, I had to laugh at that comment, but the situatuion is so pathetic, I couldn't help it.

I mean who asks an ex to write a LOR. Unless there was lying as calling her a doctor or professor you worked with (even if she is a doctor or professor) which I doubt, then why even ask her? Something smells fishy around here.

 

[paulzidane]

I just thought, you know, peer references are good. So, why not? Well, now I know why not. But help me, here.

 

[Captain Fantastic]

I don't believe trying to retract an LOR would be helpful. You'd just be putting a neon sign above your application pointing out your poor judgement in selecting LOR writers and compounding it with poor judgement in trying to retract it.

 

[whykiki]

I just thought, you know, peer references are good. So, why not? Well, now I know why not. But help me, here.

It's not possible to withdraw a LOR. Your main focus should be coming up with an excuse as to why you a) requested one from a peer, and b) felt confident enough to send it in. That's only if you get an interview in the first place.

If not, better luck next cycle (I'm assuming you applied for 2007).

 

[paulzidane]

I've got some interviews. That's how I found out about this crap.

But honestly, what do I do now? Wouldn't some kind of "update" note from her saying I-take-that-all-back help, or... ? I can't believe that admissions people would be so unreasonable as to believe all she said is true, I mean there has to be some way of letting them know it's not. I know no ways are good ways, but it's better than having them believe it's all true. If she sent them a note, wouldn't they at least believe it? So....

?

 

[alwaysaangel]

If you have interviews then they already saw it and it either wasn't that big of a deal or they wanted to meet the guy who had his recent ex write him a letter (j/kl).

Adcomms aren't going to put that much stock into a peer letter anyway (which is why in general its a poor idea to send them).

Honestly, if I were you, I would probably just do nothing and explain it at the interviews (I was a big idiot, I don't know why I asked her for a letter, but its not true I had just dumped her and she was still bitter).

Other than that, you learned a new lesson (namely, don't trust ex-girlfriends or anyone in your age group with something so important to your future) and if it keeps you out of medical school then good luck next year.

Maybe you can take it to Judge Judy and get money out of a civil suit - suing her for all the money she lost you by decreasing the number of years you can practice as a doctor???

 

[alwaysaangel]

Oh and out of curiosity I have to ask - please please tell us what she wrote?

It will be good for the morale of all your fellow SDNers.

 

[Disinence2]

well if u got interviews with the letter, maybe they will still accept you! Any waitlists?

haha, just hope schools don't keep the same letters on file for next year.

 

[NervousNed]

im pretty sure that when you write a recommendation letter (please correct me if im wrong) you have to write what your relation to the recommendation writer is, if you didn't put that the person was your boyfriend girlfriend, you cant really explain why they shouldnt trust the letter, because if you do, it will further go to show that your a dishonest person, i cant say whats best to do in this situation, but if you talk about it, i think they will drill a hole into infront of them in the interviews

 

[foofish]

Second, noshie, do you even understand how LOR's work in allopathic school admissions? That doesn't make a shred of sense. Did the person "accidentally" supply them with a form, and "accidentally" submit the LOR to the school?

...and, let's not forget, "accidentally" sign the waiver regarding their rights to the LOR...

Even putting the fact the OP asked their ex for a LOR aside, why did the OP get a "peer recommendation"? I've never even heard of that in the context of medical school (the closest I've heard are LORs from random MDs/friends of the family that are MDs, which most schools hate).

Edit: Okay, so the OP just thought it would be a good idea. I agree with the others that saying she's a liar or trying to "take it all back" wouldn't reflect very well on you....not only the honesty issue, but the whole thing smacks of a little immaturity. I wouldn't bring it up, but I'm not sure what I'd suggest you say should your interviewer bring the LOR up...

 

[HumbleMD]

If you have interviews then they already saw it and it either wasn't that big of a deal or they wanted to meet the guy who had his recent ex write him a letter (j/kl).

Adcomms aren't going to put that much stock into a peer letter anyway (which is why in general its a poor idea to send them).

Honestly, if I were you, I would probably just do nothing and explain it at the interviews (I was a big idiot, I don't know why I asked her for a letter, but its not true I had just dumped her and she was still bitter).

Other than that, you learned a new lesson (namely, don't trust ex-girlfriends or anyone in your age group with something so important to your future) and if it keeps you out of medical school then good luck next year.

Maybe you can take it to Judge Judy and get money out of a civil suit - suing her for all the money she lost you by decreasing the number of years you can practice as a doctor???

Hey, I'm the boss applesauce!

 

[Doctor of Genes]

Oh and out of curiosity I have to ask - please please tell us what she wrote?

It will be good for the morale of all your fellow SDNers.

Actually it wont. Harmful words are never good, so op do not tell. For the help to all sdners do not tell us.

 

[stixx]

Thanks for sharing the story at least...I think we all..uh..learned a valuable lesson. No seriously, I mean, I can't really imagine me ever getting into that kind of a mess, but I'm sure you didn't either...damn...and I'm so unlucky that is just SO the kind of thing that would happen to me.

Ahem. No peer LORs, no ex-bf LORs. note taken.

Good luck OP sounds like the rest of your app must've been amazing to get interviews anyway...you'll get in somewhere

 

[Cirrus83]

lol, it's definitely possible...I've heard of a professor actually calling up grad schools and telling them to ignore the letter he wrote, and screwing up this poor kid's app. Obviously, the professor was kind of a dickhead, but still, it happens.

So...if you think your professor is a psychopath, umm find another prof.

 

[alwaysaangel]

Actually it wont. Harmful words are never good, so op do not tell. For the help to all sdners do not tell us.

Oh good lord, its the troll again. When are you gonna get a life??

Blissful ignore feature. Ta ta.