Argh. I feel like applicants are at such a disadvantage in this process
I will say, however, that I have heard of sites setting a deadline but then granting more time if needed.
Out of curiosity, when you contacted your #1 site yesterday, did they let you know exactly where you stood (i.e., you're ranked #_ on our list) or just approximately where you stood (i.e., you're pretty high up there)? I don't know what to expect from sites.
Best of luck to you in making these tough choices!
They gave me explicit rank information, not approximate info.
Now I am trying to contact #2, but can't reach anyone.
I hope you are right that I may get an extension of time with the early offer.