Argh. I feel like applicants are at such a disadvantage in this process 🙁
I will say, however, that I have heard of sites setting a deadline but then granting more time if needed.
Out of curiosity, when you contacted your #1 site yesterday, did they let you know exactly where you stood (i.e., you're ranked #_ on our list) or just approximately where you stood (i.e., you're pretty high up there)? I don't know what to expect from sites.
Best of luck to you in making these tough choices!
They gave me explicit rank information, not approximate info.
Now I am trying to contact #2, but can't reach anyone.

I hope you are right that I may get an extension of time with the early offer.


They were kind enough to agree to wait 'till Wed afternoon if necessary.
I have a friend who ended our conversation last night with the comment that she needed to go to bed. She didn't want to stress herself out being awake all night fretting over today. She was relatively calm, thinking optimistically "even if" the worse happened. She's now "freaking out." Apparently she didn't get much sleep after all. 