I disagree with your opening statement. You would be surprised at the number of patients and their families who appreciate the inclusion of prayer, for example. Even though I'm not particularly religious, if a patient asked me to pray with them you better believe I would. After all, aren't we in it for them?
A more appropriate statement might be to suggest that we be flexible.
Come on now. If you call someone an idiot, you're calling them an idiot. And how are you going to play the victim while coming out against the beliefs of others?
let me make the "be an atheist..." thing more clear in a new thread i'll post soon.
And i'll explain the idiot part here. But it may be a bit confusing.
I get what you guys mean by "
if you call someone an idiot, you're calling them an idiot."
And I used to think like that before too. However, I learned that's not what I mean by calling someone an idiot by watching/listening to others.
We are too quick to judge people and call them different things, such as idiot, dumb, *****, rude, and etc [insert w/e you want] (unless you are the type of person who doesn't say those things. I applaud you for that but I say those things sometimes).
Now, when do we say those things? In most scenarios, when someone says or does something that we find stupid, idiotic, or w/e.
If I call someone an idiot after he/she says something like "Oh, the sun goes around the earth," I am saying that the idea/thought that he/she has is idiotic, not the person him/herself because I don't know anything about that person except that he/she thinks the sun goes around the earth.
Does that makes sense? The person who thought the sun goes around the earth might know how to design a building so it can resist earthquakes. Is that person really an idiot? No. But the idea/thought that he/she had about the sun... is idiotic.
I am not going to generalize an entire person based on what he/she said or did just once or twice. Now, if that person makes consistence mistakes, then I would give them the appropriate title that they deserve.
I might say "you are an idiot" in situations because I don't feel like saying "I find the statement you said idiotic" and explain the whole thing.
Let me make this more clear if that did not make sense.
Lets say there is a murderer.
That murderer (for w/e reason) helps an old lady cross a street and I saw it.
I might say "oh he/she is nice." But what do i actually mean?
I mean that the
act that the murder did was nice. Not the person. How can I judge that person is a genuinely nice person just by seeing him/her do something nice once? I'd have to get to know him/her a lot more/better to make those claims.
Of course you guys wouldn't know that since I did not explain it to you. I don't expect you guys to and I shouldn't have expected you guys to.
Just like how there is a saying "don't judge the book by its cover" or "appearance isn't everything" (something like that), I try not to.
This is just my philosophy and something I will try to live by. That why I said, "If '
I' call you an idiot, that means '
I' find your ideas idiotic, not the person you are."
Does that make any sense?
