QofQuimica said:
How would you guys say you have changed the most since childhood? Do you think those changes are positive or negative overall?
I was always the tallest/biggest girl in my primary school class. Looking back at the photos I was not fat or even chubby at all, just big because I was tall, even taller than the boys. But, because of my obvious difference, I was picked on a lot. Viciously. I was beat up by the boys and laughed at by the girls because of it. It's a strange reason to cause bodily harm, now that I think of it. Anyway, my mom went back to school when I was approaching puberty (I hit it at 10.5 - yes I was a very early bloomer) and because she was gone and my dad was on call all the time, we became latch-key kids, and I threw myself into every sport available and became one of the top players in basketball, volleyball, softball, and swimming in my city by 8th grade.
Then I went to a Catholic high-school an hour from home and commuted every day. No one knew me there, so all they knew of me was that I was an A-student and a great athlete (started varsity V-ball, B-ball, and S-ball my freshman year). Also, my junior and senior years I could finally drive. With my parents' busy schedules I treated high school almost like a job - Got up at 6am, out the door at 7am with a cup of coffee and bagel and my bag for sports/school. Finish at 3pm with athletics afterward. Grab dinner on the road and be home between 8-11pm depending on the schedule. Homework to follow, up the next day and repeat 5 days a week.
So I think the biggest thing I learned from my parents and my situation was independence. At an early age I learned my "friends" could turn on me, which is why I currently only keep one or two close friends to confide in, and everyone else is just an acquaintance. I learned through independence to make things work for myself.
This has both good and bad consequences: The good ones are that I am a self-starter and go-getter. When I decide to do something, I'm not afraid. Be it build something, new job, back to school, move to a new country, whatever. The downside is that I'm a type-A personality and can be very critical of other people. Because I try to give my best, I demand excellence from other people, be it in the drive-through or in the doctor's office, and I get irate if I don't get that. I think it's good, too, that I married the man I did, because there are a lot of men (including the last one) that can't handle a female partner striving to be in such an authoritative role, both professionally, and at home. I've had complaints from men that "I don't listen" to them enough and that I make a wonderful friend for them because I have the same "male" interests, but they can't see themselves married to a woman like me. Whatever.
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Anyway, I'm pretty happy with the way I've turned out, and very happy with who my parents are. I, too, have the weight issue going on, but that struggle has mostly been since I had my thyroid removed and ablated. When I was in high school, I was hot, baby, yeah!. Now, not so much
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