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Emiloo, I hate to ask this but...do you give him ideas of what you WOULD like? Or is he just being purposefully dense?
Emiloo, I hate to ask this but...do you give him ideas of what you WOULD like? Or is he just being purposefully dense?
He's a great guy, just a PITA sometimes
Aren't they all sometimes??
Probably not any worse than us
Ha! Yeah right. If the lame gifts were a new thing I might agree with you, but he just sucks at it plain and simple Still love him like crazy though
Thanks
I think you should get him perfume and girly things for gifts!
I think you should get him perfume and girly things for gifts!
We're probably worse considering our hormones go nutso once/month
I think you should get him perfume and girly things for gifts!
Get him a hairdryer
Throw some roses in with the mix too. He won't know how to respond.
There's a painful lack of male input, or comprehension of the male perspective, on this thread.
Here's your chance, ladies.
Q and A.
Absolutely anything you want to know about:
-The male mind
-Our decision making process
-What we mean when we say "X"
-What we mean when we do "X"
-How you really look in those jeans
-All other minutiae
I have a dull night, and I want to help you learn.
You're back!
There's a painful lack of male input, or comprehension of the male perspective, on this thread.
Here's your chance, ladies.
Q and A.
Absolutely anything you want to know about:
-The male mind
-Our decision making process
-What we mean when we say "X"
-What we mean when we do "X"
-How you really look in those jeans
-All other minutiae
I have a dull night, and I want to help you learn.
There's a painful lack of male input, or comprehension of the male perspective, on this thread.
Here's your chance, ladies.
Q and A.
Absolutely anything you want to know about:
-The male mind
-Our decision making process
-What we mean when we say "X"
-What we mean when we do "X"
-How you really look in those jeans
-All other minutiae
I have a dull night, and I want to help you learn.
I'll bite also. As a guy, would you date a girl that is taller than you?
Oh, where have you been all my life?
Ok I'll bite. . .does it really freak guys out if the girl says the "L" word first, or is that just a stereotype?
Oh, where have you been all my life?
Ok I'll bite. . .does it really freak guys out if the girl says the "L" word first, or is that just a stereotype?
I'll bite also. As a guy, would you date a girl that is taller than you?
Why are you all so obsessed with kicking/punching each other in the balls?
It depends if you say it under the 4-6 month mark.
Then... yes. Because that's probably a crazy thing to do.
If you say it after that, and he freaks, he probably doesn't love you, and he probably won't.
Ever.
That's how long it takes to know.
So no, it's not bad to go for it, but I would say that ladies might want to err on the side of caution. Better to take it a little slower than risk spooking him.
For background, we've been together 10 months now and neither one of us has said it yet. But I think (hope?) we're both feeling it and waiting for the other person to say it first.
I might have to be the one to grow a pair and take the plunge.
I'm 5'7''. I have absolutely no problem dating a tall woman. I may not be physically taller than you, but I'm likely one of the biggest people in the room. Unless the room is exceptionally awesome.
But I've found on several occasions that women have a problem dating someone who isn't, at least, of equal height. While the mantle of shallowness seems to rest squarely on the masculine shoulder, the real issue is often decided by the female inability to differentiate height from character or suitability as a mate.
It's vaguely frustrating to know that, were we 2-4 inches taller, we'd be your dream date. Skip the heels, and we're a Nicholas Sparks character.
The vast majority of men appreciate you taking the lead on emotional/romantic benchmarks.
If you've been together for 10 months, it's a 99% certainty that he knows how he feels about you. And unless there's some kind of awesome sex, or he has hyperbolic abandonment issues, he probably loves you back.
But... there's a stigma attached to the kind of guy who drops the L word first, especially if it's unsolicited. We're often painted as the emo, hyper-sensitive sissy who can't Clint Eastwood his feelings.
If you do the momentary hard part, and actually declare the emotion, it's much easier for the guy to release the emotions that are already likely there.
It goes both ways too--my very first boyfriend said it after 2 months. We broke up after 3 months. He was married to another girl within a year. Seems to me like he was looking for a girl to marry...I was totally not on the same page.
Had a guy say it at the end of the first week. Following a conversation where he invited me to move in with him. And he said he was applying for jobs in an area where I'd like to live after vet school, because he knew I liked that area and he wanted to settle down somewhere I'd be happy.
I ran. Very quickly. And never looked back.
Oh dear...
Well speaking of relationships in general.
New life plan:
Find med student whilst in vet school. Marry. Done.
Oh dear...
Well speaking of relationships in general.
New life plan:
Find med student whilst in vet school. Marry. Done.
Oh dear...
Well speaking of relationships in general.
New life plan:
Find med student whilst in vet school. Marry. Done.
Substitute "already making the big bucks doctor" instead of "med student" and you are completely on to my plan
Oh dear...
Well speaking of relationships in general.
New life plan:
Find med student whilst in vet school. Marry. Done.
My bf and I joke about this a good bit since we're both vet students. He's declared himself and equal opportunity gold digger.
As for going with the idea of marrying a med student, that's totally my back up plan. Marry my ex in England who is currently in his 4th year and will have very little debt when graduating. He wants to possibly move to the US in the future, so it could totally happen not that I expect it to or anything like that.
Haha. Except there is really no gold to dig if you guys are both at penn! But I'm secretly still rooting for you and your Brit boy.
The stereotype is that when a girl says "nothing's wrong" something actually is wrong, and when a guy says it, it's really that nothing's wrong.
True for the guys?
(I can't say for all girls, but for me about half the time nothing's wrong, and half the time I genuinely don't want to talk about whatever's wrong.)
My grandmother went to Barnhart when it was the women's school for Columbia. She said the strategy back then was for the women to "study" at Columbia's law and medical libraries. She and my Mom used to jokingly reprimand me for not doing the same when I was at undergrad.
One of the vets I work with did this. It's a valid, achievable plan!
Her choice was extra good from a financial standpoint because while the guy's a great physician, he also has business acumen and spends part of his professional life consulting. You'll want to be looking for a fellow like this, I imagine.