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Let's take a poll of people planning to enter medical school in fall 2005. Will you be single, taken, engaged, or married?
PineappleGirl said:I won't respond to the poll since I'm not entering med school in 05, but I this poll is just too funny considering your user name.
Looking for all the single chicks, huh?
cammy1313 said:My priority is med school but I would welcome a relationship. Although, I am pretty dead set against dating doctors, present and/or future, so looks like I'm destined for spinsterhood
cammy1313 said:My priority is med school but I would welcome a relationship. Although, I am pretty dead set against dating doctors, present and/or future, so looks like I'm destined for spinsterhood
sdnstud said:I think one of the biggest joy in life is to spend a lifetime with someone you truly love. True, medicine is very important for many of us. But, when you're 35 years old and an extremely sucessful doctor, will you truly be happy if you don't have that special someone to come home to? Someone whose presence melts away all your stress and problems?
sdnstud said:I think one of the biggest joy in life is to spend a lifetime with someone you truly love. True, medicine is very important for many of us. But, when you're 35 years old and an extremely sucessful doctor, will you truly be happy if you don't have that special someone to come home to? Someone whose presence melts away all your stress and problems?
entering medicine is a committment, not only in terms of time and effort but also in terms of your love life. Most would agree that the prime of your love life is when you're 21-30. Well, while many other 21-30 year olds are livign it up romatically, us future doctors are enjoying our time in the library/hospital.
January Friend said:I think we should add the "Single, because the prospect of going to med school ruined my relationship" option on this poll. Can you tell I'm bitter?
I agree....to an extent. I absolutely want to meet a man, fall hopelessly in love and live happily ever after. But at the same time this doesn't have to happen for me to be happy and feel my life has been complete. I WANT it, not NEED it. Course, this is because I'm still young. We'll see if I'm singin' the same tune after 30.I think one of the biggest joy in life is to spend a lifetime with someone you truly love. True, medicine is very important for many of us. But, when you're 35 years old and an extremely sucessful doctor, will you truly be happy if you don't have that special someone to come home to? Someone whose presence melts away all your stress and problems?
As a matter of fact, there are two prime pairing-off periods in life: one between the ages of 18 and 25, the other between 35 and 40 (or there abouts). The 18-25 year old category has an over 30% divorce rate whereas the 35-40 has almost none. Just a little something my father shared with me to help ease the lonliness. Not sure if I'm more upset that my dad thought I was lonely and needed this consolation, or the fact that I'm officially in between those two age groups in some sort of dating pergatory?entering medicine is a committment, not only in terms of time and effort but also in terms of your love life. Most would agree that the prime of your love life is when you're 21-30. Well, while many other 21-30 year olds are livign it up romatically, us future doctors are enjoying our time in the library/hospital.
ad_sharp said:I'm married and things are going great. I love medicine, and I love my wife. Who ever said that you can't do both (no pun intended) at the same time. I study like a machine, but I always try to set aside a little bit of time everyday to spend with my wife. It's just a matter of priorities. If I weren't in med school, I would probably be at some crappy job working nearly as hard as I do now, but be unhappy doing it. You budget time. You have to eat every evening....so do it with the person that you love. It's all about time management. I refuse to put my life on hold for the next however many years that this ride will take. You only get to live once and then you're dead. I can't imagine throwing a decade away not doing what you want to do. Believe it or not, romance can happen anywhere, even in med school. All that you have to do is find someone with some understanding of your crazy schedule and meet them halfway with your committment to the relationship. It's always going to be complicated, med school or not, I'm not saying that you should run out and get married, but you'll be incredibly unhappy if you don't find a balance. Nobody will come to your funeral and say, "that guy studied like a mule, the world will suffer without him." Medicine itself and the doctor that you will become is dependent upon little more than relationships-loved ones, colleages, and patients. The premed world will scare the crap out of you about how you can't do anything about these things, don't listen to it.
ad_sharp said:I'm married and things are going great. I love medicine, and I love my wife. Who ever said that you can't do both (no pun intended) at the same time.
cammy1313 said:spinsterhood
Blue Scrub said:Spinster is such a cool word...is there a guy equivalent of spinster? Like Spinner? Will I be a spinner?
MedicineBird said:hmmmm.....
If Spinst + her = spinster......
how about Spinstim??
Blue Scrub said:Spinster is such a cool word...is there a guy equivalent of spinster? Like Spinner?
Rugger81 said:Well put. But my question is this: What could the "other" category in the poll refer to?
January Friend said:I think we should add the "Single, because the prospect of going to med school ruined my relationship" option on this poll. Can you tell I'm bitter?
cammy1313 said:My priority is med school but I would welcome a relationship. Although, I am pretty dead set against dating doctors, present and/or future, so looks like I'm destined for spinsterhood
ad_sharp said:I'm married and things are going great. I love medicine, and I love my wife. Who ever said that you can't do both (no pun intended) at the same time. I study like a machine, but I always try to set aside a little bit of time everyday to spend with my wife. It's just a matter of priorities. If I weren't in med school, I would probably be at some crappy job working nearly as hard as I do now, but be unhappy doing it. You budget time. You have to eat every evening....so do it with the person that you love. It's all about time management. I refuse to put my life on hold for the next however many years that this ride will take. You only get to live once and then you're dead. I can't imagine throwing a decade away not doing what you want to do. Believe it or not, romance can happen anywhere, even in med school. All that you have to do is find someone with some understanding of your crazy schedule and meet them halfway with your committment to the relationship. It's always going to be complicated, med school or not, I'm not saying that you should run out and get married, but you'll be incredibly unhappy if you don't find a balance. Nobody will come to your funeral and say, "that guy studied like a mule, the world will suffer without him." Medicine itself and the doctor that you will become is dependent upon little more than relationships-loved ones, colleages, and patients. The premed world will scare the crap out of you about how you can't do anything about these things, don't listen to it.
cadoc said:If any of you are wondering: can it be done? It can. I am a fourth year about to match on March 17th. When I started med school, my boyfriend of 3 years weren't sure if we could pull off the long-distance thing. Well, when he joined the Marine Corps I didn't think that we would stand a chance. Well, he's been overseas now for a year, and we've been long-distance for four years. We were married last summer! The great thing about a long-distance relationship in med school: you never feel guilty about the long hours studying or the hours spent at the hospital during third and fourth year. And when you see each other on vacation: MAD SEX! The crazy thing is, we're thinking about keeping the long-distance thing going for the first year or so of residency, depends on the gods of the match! Good luck to us and the rest of you in long-distance relationships!
medstyle said:Is it just me or does it seem like finding good people to settle with are everywhere? Seriously, I am dating a girl now, but I mean, I meet her friends and they are hot and cool. I go out and I meet chicks and the same thing.
I would stay with someone if there were no options out there, but I mean, there are so many sexy and interesting people out there...why toture yourself? I am for long distance relationsihps when the time apart is relatively small and there is a foreseeable future, but I dunno about taking on 4 years of seperation for a maybe. Or hell, even a sure thing.
Most med schools are in places where u will meet plenty of other graduate students. Why limit urself? I don't work out so my gf 300 miles away can say "my boyfriend's hot".
January Friend said:I think we should add the "Single, because the prospect of going to med school ruined my relationship" option on this poll. Can you tell I'm bitter?
UT_mikie said:Hey! Join the club, it is ruining mine right now.
redbeans said:I second this motion. But I'm not bitter. It's more the... I know I'm leaving and I can't take you with me situation.
sdnstud said:Most would agree that the prime of your love life is when you're 21-30.
lulubean said:Originally Posted by cammy1313
My priority is med school but I would welcome a relationship. Although, I am pretty dead set against dating doctors, present and/or future, so looks like I'm destined for spinsterhood
why?
cammy1313 said:My priority is med school but I would welcome a relationship. Although, I am pretty dead set against dating doctors, present and/or future, so looks like I'm destined for spinsterhood
sdnstud said:what bothers me most is that as med students, we do not have time to meet someone new and develop a relationship. no more intense honeymoon period when the two of us see each other everyday, talk until sunrise, take romantic trips on the weekends. People tell me that med students get lots of girls. I do not think so. Most girls would date someone who has time for them, esp. at the beginning of the relationship.
UT_mikie said:Thats what scares me the most about dating after I enter med school, given that I'm dead set against dating any other meds, that leaves me with the arduous task of trying to explain to some other nonmed girl why I won't be able to spend as much time with her as I'd like.
Alot of people on this thread say that (for guys meds at least) its easy to find a date. But would any nice intelligent talented successful girl (and not some gold digger) be willing to accept your time constraints?
January Friend said:I think we should add the "Single, because the prospect of going to med school ruined my relationship" option on this poll. Can you tell I'm bitter?
sdnstud said:I think one of the biggest joy in life is to spend a lifetime with someone you truly love. True, medicine is very important for many of us. But, when you're 35 years old and an extremely sucessful doctor, will you truly be happy if you don't have that special someone to come home to? Someone whose presence melts away all your stress and problems?
entering medicine is a committment, not only in terms of time and effort but also in terms of your love life. Most would agree that the prime of your love life is when you're 21-30. Well, while many other 21-30 year olds are livign it up romatically, us future doctors are enjoying our time in the library/hospital.
juniper456 said:actually, i think that having a profession that allows one to feel productive and make a difference is one of the biggest joys in life. any kind of romantic relationship will always be second to my career.
sdnstud said:Sorry for bumping this old post, but I'm having some relationship issues lately. I've been with my gf for 3 years, and lately we've been fighting a lot. The more we fight, the more I don't see myself with her. I want out of this relationship.
Yet, I am hesitant to break up with her. Even though I am the one who's going to initiate the split, I need several months to recover my feelings. After all, it is a 3 year relationship I am ending. The reason I am hesitant to break up with her is because I will be starting medical school this fall.
In a way, this is de vaju for me. Before I began college, I was in a 2-year relationship that I wanted to end. I ended that relationship before I went to college, and the split devastated me my freshmen year. I was in a whole new environment with few friends, no families, and a heavy courseload (which means I didn't have much time to socialize and make new friends).
I am hesistant to break up with my gf because I don't want this to happen to me again. I will be going to a medical school where I will know nobody, far away from my family.
Is anyone in the same shoe as I am? Nearing the end of a relationship, but don't want it to end cos' you don't want drama as you enter medical school?