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what are the main sacrifices and things people have to give up that are involved in the journey of becoming a physician.
Ya but once at attending level from there on out it will be easy to catch up to ones friends at the money level and possibly surpass them as well.I think most things you don't "have" to give up. It's just easier if you do. Things like having a family prior to or during med school.
But one thing that comes to mind is money. You probably won't be making any real money until your thirties (and that's if you go straight through) whereas your friends from college will have a solid decade of earnings by then.
Ya but once at attending level from there on out it will be easy to catch up to ones friends at the money level and possibly surpass them as well.
You can still get engaged and married though! Definitely agree on the kids thing though, I think it will only get harder as we get further into school.The toughest sacrifice for me has been postponing my desire for a family. I'm not going to lie, it hurts when I see Facebook postings for engagements and pregnancy announcements. I get really lonely sometimes, but then I realize that I'm doing something I've dreamed of since I was in first grade, and appreciate how awesome it is that I became one of those kids whose dreams came true.
My long time girlfriend broke up with me shortly before school started.. HahaYou can still get engaged and married though! Definitely agree on the kids thing though, I think it will only get harder as we get further into school.
My long time girlfriend broke up with me shortly before school started.. Haha
You have to have someone to get married to in the first place. I have a personal rule to not date other medical students, so dating is a serious challenge.
Now, for you OP. If you have a solid SO, lock them down now.
Then again, you could easily cram in enough drinking and partying before matriculation that you don't really have an interest in it anymore come time for medical school. Speaking for myself, I really don't have the desire to "party" anymore, got it out of my system from probably too young of an age.
Well, that would depend on the nature of your friends' jobs. Finance/consulting/tech jobs pay very well - if they haven't washed out by then, their salary will be in the six figures as well.
+1, dont date within your class.
You just need to find your Sloane Peterson, Ferris.The toughest sacrifice for me has been postponing my desire for a family. I'm not going to lie, it hurts when I see Facebook postings for engagements and pregnancy announcements. I get really lonely sometimes, but then I realize that I'm doing something I've dreamed of since I was in first grade, and appreciate how awesome it is that I became one of those kids whose dreams came true.
HeheheThen again, you could easily cram in enough drinking and partying before matriculation that you don't really have an interest in it anymore come time for medical school. Speaking for myself, I really don't have the desire to "party" anymore, got it out of my system from probably too young of an age. I'd also argue that the majority of people that "party" through their late 20s are not usually the most happy and driven bunch.
Also, your income as a physician will allow you to very comfortably vacation in a much larger portion of the world than I'd expect >95% of other professions. Yes, it's later in life, but you can afford comfortable accommodations instead of having to travel like a peasant.
Attrition is pretty high in those fields though (well at least finance, not sure about the other ones). They kind of have an up or out mentality. Also if you go finance, you usually have to go to business school eventually so it's not like you have less post under grad school time. Although, you do have a few years of 100-200k salary at that point so you probably won't need a loan/your parents' money
+1.Then again, you could easily cram in enough drinking and partying before matriculation that you don't really have an interest in it anymore come time for medical school. Speaking for myself, I really don't have the desire to "party" anymore, got it out of my system from probably too young of an age. I'd also argue that the majority of people that "party" through their late 20s are not usually the most happy and driven bunch.
Also, your income as a physician will allow you to very comfortably vacation in a much larger portion of the world than I'd expect >95% of other professions. Yes, it's later in life, but you can afford comfortable accommodations instead of having to travel like a peasant.
+1.
Seriously, I did a bit too much of this in high school and undergrad (a wonderful on-campus intoxication and a few underage alcohol charges, which I blame for my failure to be accepted sooner than 2 gap years), and I have no desire to continue that sort of lifestyle up into my 30s. By end of senior year, I would much rather just have a beer at a bar with a few friends than go to anymore house parties or the downtown bar streets.
And seriously, you can still travel at an old age. My father is a successful physician, and he literally travels like 2x a month. Africa hunting trips, Greece, Spain, Italy, Cabo, European cruise, Argentinian dove hunts, etc. He is upper 50s and has no problem doing all this. In fact, I'd say his more luxurious travel is far more fun than being broke and backpacking through Europe once in your mid 20s.
Moral of the story, you're not really giving up that much of your youth.
Family and kids... that's another story. Ya this kind of sucks - especially for women who enter medical school later due to child bearing age, etc. I won't pretend to know what to think of that whole situation. However, I've talked to many students who got married and even are having kids right before residency. Sounds crazy to me, but all their peers say they're some of the more well-balanced and dedicated students of all.
This is a good question.what are the main sacrifices and things people have to give up that are involved in the journey of becoming a physician.
dont date within your class
Specialty?+1.
Seriously, I did a bit too much of this in high school and undergrad (a wonderful on-campus intoxication and a few underage alcohol charges, which I blame for my failure to be accepted sooner than 2 gap years), and I have no desire to continue that sort of lifestyle up into my 30s. By end of senior year, I would much rather just have a beer at a bar with a few friends than go to anymore house parties or the downtown bar streets.
And seriously, you can still travel at an old age. My father is a successful physician, and he literally travels like 2x a month. Africa hunting trips, Greece, Spain, Italy, Cabo, European cruise, Argentinian dove hunts, etc. He is upper 50s and has no problem doing all this. In fact, I'd say his more luxurious travel is far more fun than being broke and backpacking through Europe once in your mid 20s.
Moral of the story, you're not really giving up that much of your youth.
Family and kids... that's another story. Ya this kind of sucks - especially for women who enter medical school later due to child bearing age, etc. I won't pretend to know what to think of that whole situation. However, I've talked to many students who got married and even are having kids right before residency. Sounds crazy to me, but all their peers say they're some of the more well-balanced and dedicated students of all.
Specialty?
Travels twice a month internationally??
This is correct. He established a private practice that he has owned for about 20+ years, so he now takes on fewer patients while the younger docs in the practice take on more.I think it probably has less to do with specialty and more to do with the fact that he's almost 60 and has probably been in practice for almost 30 years.
The toughest sacrifice for me has been postponing my desire for a family. I'm not going to lie, it hurts when I see Facebook postings for engagements and pregnancy announcements. I get really lonely sometimes, but then I realize that I'm doing something I've dreamed of since I was in first grade, and appreciate how awesome it is that I became one of those kids whose dreams came true.
What age are people going to med school? If straight out of college, they're in school from 22-26, then residency until maybe 30. If it's the median age, then it's 24-28, then residency until 31-33. Mid to late twenties are some of the best years in one's life because one's old and "mature" enough to do whatever they want, and their bodies are young enough to handle the stresses. Med school usually means giving up some of the best years physically you have. You want to drink and party a lot at 25? Sure! Try that at 45 and you'll be the one seeing a doctor. You want to travel the world? It's a lot easier in the body of a 25 year old. You can have a spouse any time. Father time always wins, and you'll never ever have your youth again. That's just my two cents.
Umm, no. Any woman of mine will be as independent-minded as I am, and will have her own goals and ambitions in life. I won't care about spoiling her a little, but she better be able to function as her own individual. I'm not out for some shallow chick who only wants to bag a doctor.two words: trophy. wife.
What if you're not weird and your personal life isn't weird? Then why would it be weird? Ha I'm just kidding. I totally get it.This is true everywhere. Unless you want to make it weird (and it will ALWAYS get weird), this is never a good idea. Unless you're all about people you don't know suddenly being very aware of your personal life. This applies to school, workplace, anywhere where the possibility of dating people that either already know each other (or may come to know each other) exists.
Save the drama for prime time TV.
The proverb is "Don't $h!t where you eat".
Props for saying this, man. We need more guys like you, who respect women and want a girlfriend/wife who will pursue her own interests, whatever they may be.Umm, no. Any woman of mine will be as independent-minded as I am, and will have her own goals and ambitions in life. I won't care about spoiling her a little, but she better be able to function as her own individual. I'm not out for some shallow chick who only wants to bag a doctor.
Props for saying this, man. We need more guys like you, who respect women and want a girlfriend/wife who will pursue her own interests, whatever they may be.
two words: trophy. wife.
Umm, no. Any woman of mine will be as independent-minded as I am, and will have her own goals and ambitions in life. I won't care about spoiling her a little, but she better be able to function as her own individual. I'm not out for some shallow chick who only wants to bag a doctor.
Exactly how I feel. There are days I actually cry about it. In my family, as a woman starting a family is a really big achievement. But I remind myself - how many people can actually say they're studying to become a doctor? And I wouldn't change being a med student for the world.The toughest sacrifice for me has been postponing my desire for a family. I'm not going to lie, it hurts when I see Facebook postings for engagements and pregnancy announcements. I get really lonely sometimes, but then I realize that I'm doing something I've dreamed of since I was in first grade, and appreciate how awesome it is that I became one of those kids whose dreams came true.
Given that the median age for marriage and children ticks ever higher each year, I don't think medical students have to be all that "behind" in the life goals department.
It's not rising by much. And you don't have to do all the research and 5 PGY years- those are choices. Just as matriculation later is a choice. If the time commitment bothers you, choose a shorter path, it isn't rocket science.Median age for matriculation is rising every year, and what if you do an extra year for research and then do the typical 5 PGY years? You'll be finishing up in your mid 30s, which is definitely later than the average American
So far I have given up cultivating good friendships, and starting a family. Sometimes I feel very lonely. I just keep remembering that to receive good grades and do all the extracurricular stuff, these sacrifices are needed. I can attribute this to my major as well, where the professors have acknowledged that their classes require 3x more work than any other major.
Well I may not be as smart as others, and get distracted more easily than most. Through self-awareness I make up for it with work ethic. Everyone is different.You can definitely get good grades even in difficult majors and start a family/cultivate friendships. This neurotic premed attitude that all distractions from getting that 4.0 and 528 MCAT should be avoided is just that--neuroticism. I graduated with a good GPA while raising two children under two years old and working 70 hours per week, in addition to my ECs. And I am not the only one. I know people who managed to do it and have higher GPAs.
Well I may not be as smart as others, and get distracted more easily than most. Through self-awareness I make up for it with work ethic. Everyone is different.