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So I have a little dilemma. Actually, I don't have one as of right now, I'm just trying to troubleshoot so that I don't have one in the future. I'm sure some of you had to deal with this, so I'd like your input about what you did and/or what you think I should do.
Here's my situation:
I'm originally from the west coast. I interviewed at a school out there (School A) and was accepted. I loved the school, the location, the program, and the people. The school isn't that close to my family or where I'm from, but it's in the same state and felt just like home. Ok great, so there's a nice story with a happy ending, right?
Actually, not so much.
See, I live on the east coast now. I came out here for a post-bac program 4 years ago and was counting the days until I could go back home. That is, I counted the days until I met the love of my life - a girl who was also in the post bac. Although she, too, is from the west coast, she got into school out here. So, instead of going back home when I finished my program, I decided to suck it up and stay in the east a while longer to be with her. She is now a second year med student.
So here's my deal. I applied to the osteopathic school out here (School B) and have been waitlisted. If I were accepted, she and I could continue to live together (we've lived together for about two years) and everything would be great. Except for the fact that I didn't really like the school, the facilities, or the location. My girlfriend is upset because she really wants me to stay and thinks that School B should be my number one choice. I am happy because School A is my number one choice and I don't have to feel guilty about it because School B hasn't even accepted me yet.
But what if it does?
My thinking was that if I go to School A, my girlfriend and I would really only have to be apart one year (her third year) because she could probably do some of her rotations in our home state. In addition to giving her a better chance to get a residency on the west coast, she could also be closer to all of her friends and family (not many of them live on the east coast). She always complains about how much she can't wait to go back home, but when I pitched my idea to her she said she would rather be on the east coast with me than be back on the west coast but be without me for a year or more. So I'm not really sure if it is better to go to a school that I love and be away from my person or go to a school that isn't my number one choice and be close to her. My heart tells me to go to the school that fits me, but it also tells me that I will probably be very sad and lonely being away, even though "away" is home. It doesn't help matters much that both schools are awesome (at least in my mind).
School A is Western.
School B is UMDNJ-SOM.
I'm kind of hoping I stay on the waitlist - that way things just work themselves out.
Thoughts?
Here's my situation:
I'm originally from the west coast. I interviewed at a school out there (School A) and was accepted. I loved the school, the location, the program, and the people. The school isn't that close to my family or where I'm from, but it's in the same state and felt just like home. Ok great, so there's a nice story with a happy ending, right?
Actually, not so much.
See, I live on the east coast now. I came out here for a post-bac program 4 years ago and was counting the days until I could go back home. That is, I counted the days until I met the love of my life - a girl who was also in the post bac. Although she, too, is from the west coast, she got into school out here. So, instead of going back home when I finished my program, I decided to suck it up and stay in the east a while longer to be with her. She is now a second year med student.
So here's my deal. I applied to the osteopathic school out here (School B) and have been waitlisted. If I were accepted, she and I could continue to live together (we've lived together for about two years) and everything would be great. Except for the fact that I didn't really like the school, the facilities, or the location. My girlfriend is upset because she really wants me to stay and thinks that School B should be my number one choice. I am happy because School A is my number one choice and I don't have to feel guilty about it because School B hasn't even accepted me yet.
But what if it does?
My thinking was that if I go to School A, my girlfriend and I would really only have to be apart one year (her third year) because she could probably do some of her rotations in our home state. In addition to giving her a better chance to get a residency on the west coast, she could also be closer to all of her friends and family (not many of them live on the east coast). She always complains about how much she can't wait to go back home, but when I pitched my idea to her she said she would rather be on the east coast with me than be back on the west coast but be without me for a year or more. So I'm not really sure if it is better to go to a school that I love and be away from my person or go to a school that isn't my number one choice and be close to her. My heart tells me to go to the school that fits me, but it also tells me that I will probably be very sad and lonely being away, even though "away" is home. It doesn't help matters much that both schools are awesome (at least in my mind).
School A is Western.
School B is UMDNJ-SOM.
I'm kind of hoping I stay on the waitlist - that way things just work themselves out.
Thoughts?
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