I hope I didn't come off as "more holy than thou." That wasn't my intention. If I have contributed to a sanctimonious attitude on this thread, I apologize.
Look, I have two and a half months left of medical school, and I'm pretty much over it. If anyone should be jaded about the medical school process, it should be me, since I've been through, well, most of it. I admit that I am pretty ordinary, by my own standards, and I didn't at all gun my way through medical school (but I'm not too shabby either). I definitely tried to balance learning, school performance, and enjoying my life as much as the process would allow, anyway. There were plenty of times where I traded the possibility of doing better in class so that I could go out and have a good time with my buddies, teach martial arts, or hang out with family. It kept my sanity through difficult times. Those are important, too, not just school work. I think it's equally as bad to care too much about school and let yourself go. There's a balance that needs to be found. And it's personal.
In a program as rigorous as medical school, you have to make your personal life a priority as much as your education. That's how you stay focused and happy. Life simply doesn't stop just because you are in medical school. You just learn how to triage things better and recognize the trade offs that sometimes need to be made. You aren't necessarily going to cause your future patients to suffer just because you didn't perform well in some pre-clinical classes. That's ridiculous, of course. Grades don't matter like that.
What bothers me the most is not so much the OP's original question, but some of his responses, which I found a bit troubling. I am concerned mostly with an attitude that I see from his posts here. It's one thing to have as goals, making money, wanting to have a good life, and taking it easy, which are all perfectly fine and healthy, but it is quite another to come into medical school with a baseline lackadaisical attitude toward medical education and to devalue, jaded or not, the point of medicine, which to care for patients. If you feel that way, why attend medical school in the first place? There are a lot easier ways to make money and live a good, prosperous life. Whether you like it or not, medicine IS about caring for patients. The point of medical school is that it is a step along the way so that you can become a competent doctor and can use your skills to provide the best care you PERSONALLY can for your patients. That should be one of your primary goals, not just lip service so that you can get into medical school. If it's not, then I imagine that it will be difficult to be happy with your chosen profession.
I certainly had times of feeling very disgruntled with the process and have flaunted a jaded attitude, sometimes publicly. It might be egotistical for me to say this, but I think I earned that right, having plowed through the trenches with the best of them. It's not necessary right, but it's just the way it is, because of how challenging the process is. Few come through the gauntlet unscathed. But to start out that way, even before stepping foot into medical school...
Basically, I agree that there is nothing wrong with wanting to have a good life, while in medical school and beyond. I encourage that. We should not deny ourselves all the great things life has to offer, especially the very ordinary things that everyone enjoys. We have a responsibility to our patients, to do the best we can for them. But you also have a responsibility to yourself to keep yourself happy and healthy.
However, you should not come in wanting to avoid the work and doing the bare minimum necessary to get by, because you think you can, secondary to the idea that your chosen specialty is easier to match into. This attitude can get you into trouble pretty fast, academically and on the wards. Say what you want, but medical school is not easy. Lots of people try really hard and only end up doing average. And that's okay, because they tried and will keep trying. If you aren't careful, you could end up shooting yourself in the foot. I've seen people fail out because they thought they could just surf all day and put in the bare minimum. Your maximum may only get you average, okay? And if you display this attitude on the wards, you will not be well-liked, that's for sure. I know one third year at my core site that kept skipping and ducking out as soon as he could do it, consistently, sometimes right after morning report, leaving all of us who did give a hoot to clean up the mess. Guess how much we liked him? Wanna bet he is going to continue this as he goes further on in his career, assuming he makes it past third year? Is this the kind of doctor you want to work with? The kind you want to be your doctor?
Grades certainly don't determine the kind of doctor you are going to be. However, your attitude does. Learn that good medicine isn't like working at a cash register. You have lives in your hands and lots of people who depend on you to do your best in the interest of their health or their ability to deliver competent care. If you aren't going to be there for them, a lot of people are going to suffer, including you. Even if you aren't the brightest bulb out there, merely competent, you can still provide excellent care for your patients. Not because you know more necessary, or can do more, but because you care about your patients. That's the only thing they can't teach you in medical school.
I'm not saying you can't make it through medical school half-assed. You can. And people do. I've seen it. That's fine. I don't care. It's your life. If that's acceptable to you, so what? I even don't care if you are all about living an easy life and getting the big bucks. I don't care if you don't like seeing your patients or even being there. Do me and your future patients a favor, however: keep that to yourself and don't carry that attitude with you when you are actively caring for your patients. Your job is to advocate for their health to the best of your ability. If you can do that, what you do on your own time or how you think is not my business.
Skate through school if you want. It's your life. Live it how you want. Medical school is just a small, albeit, important step along the way. And life isn't all about medical school, anyway. If you want to do the bare minimum, fine. I'm just saying that it isn't as easy as you think. Don't get yourself into academic trouble on account of the lack of trying. Also, don't treat your patients that way. Better to develop good habits now and keep them. And learn that medicine IS about caring for patients and if do care about your patients, it will be easier for you and everyone else. If nothing else, being less of an ass means you might get sued less.