Seeking advice

[thegreatjaspy]

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I currently have what you would call a good problem... I have heard back from 9/20 schools and have recieved 7 ii, one hold, and one pre interview rejection. Today one of those ii turned into an acceptance (ACOM). My problem is that I do not have the time to go to every interview because I have to ask work off for each one... My top 3 schools are comp (hold), tuncom (interview tomorrow), and kcumb (interviews 10/3, waiting on decision). The next 17 schools are pretty much a tie. I loved ACOM but am afraid my significant other would have a hard time finding work in such a small town. So SDN, out of the interviews I have scheduled which schools did you like/dislike? Which are worth going to with an acceptance in hand?
Campbell
Marian
Pacific Northwest
Liberty

Thanks!

 

[baxt1412]

as much as you may not want to hear it, the school you should select should depend on YOUR feelings, not your significant other's. you have to be the one to live with that decision for not only 4 years but for the rest of your life. obviously depending on how serious you guys are then their feelings would likely come into play, but still....

as far as the actual schools, you might try looking in the school-specific threads for each of these schools. many people comment on their opinions on the interview day, the campus, etc.

could also look up board pass rates, average indebtedness, etc

 

[costales]

What if you break up and realize you don't like what she picked for you?

 

[baxt1412]

What if you break up and realize you don't like what she picked for you?

my point exactly.

or you go somewhere that he/she wants you to go, but you aren't totally stoked about and the fact that you regret doing it causes you to be unhappy and makes you two break up. then not only are you losing the significant other that you clearly like but you're at a school that you didn't really want to go to the most in the first place.

 

[PlaqueBuster]

Pick your top school and let your SO deal with her decision. Choosing a top medical school happens only once in your life and you don't want to regret the decision you make. If you had a wife and children then this would be a different story because you have to accomodate them, but in your situation I recommend talking with your SO and letting her know how much going to this school means to you and I am sure she can adjust her work for it. If she really cares for you then she will think about you just as you are thinking about her.

 

[thegreatjaspy]

Pick your top school and let your SO deal with her decision. Choosing a top medical school happens only once in your life and you don't want to regret the decision you make. If you had a wife and children then this would be a different story because you have to accomodate them, but in your situation I recommend talking with your SO and letting her know how much going to this school means to you and I am sure she can adjust her work for it. If she really cares for you then she will think about you just as you are thinking about her.

Thanks for advice everyone, my SO (my boyfriend, I'm a girl) is in no way making the decision for me, he is 100% supportive of me and knows that this decision is important and that I need to make it. With that being said, our relationship is very serious (been together 5 years) and we have every intention to get married during med school. I am the one that is concerned with him liking the place because he is a huge part of my support system. He has an awesome job right now and I do not expect him to leave that job to follow me to a place with no work, so if I end up in a place like that we will likely have a long distance relationship during medical school. Even if I were single I would still have a decision about what interviews to attend, so just cut the SO out of the equation.

 

[baxt1412]

Thanks for advice everyone, my SO (my boyfriend, I'm a girl) is in no way making the decision for me, he is 100% supportive of me and knows that this decision is important and that I need to make it. With that being said, our relationship is very serious (been together 5 years) and we have every intention to get married during med school. I am the one that is concerned with him liking the place because he is a huge part of my support system. He has an awesome job right now and I do not expect him to leave that job to follow me to a place with no work, so if I end up in a place like that we will likely have a long distance relationship during medical school. Even if I were single I would still have a decision about what interviews to attend, so just cut the SO out of the equation.

that is what we are saying for YOU to do. (don't factor in their opinion... or at least factor it in very minimally if two schools were essentially a tie)


again, i'd suggest looking at the individual school pages. you will be much more likely to get more of a response there.

 

[Goro]

Definitely strike LUCOM off the list!


I highly recommend MUCOM.

I currently have what you would call a good problem... I have heard back from 9/20 schools and have recieved 7 ii, one hold, and one pre interview rejection. Today one of those ii turned into an acceptance (ACOM). My problem is that I do not have the time to go to every interview because I have to ask work off for each one... My top 3 schools are comp (hold), tuncom (interview tomorrow), and kcumb (interviews 10/3, waiting on decision). The next 17 schools are pretty much a tie. I loved ACOM but am afraid my significant other would have a hard time finding work in such a small town. So SDN, out of the interviews I have scheduled which schools did you like/dislike? Which are worth going to with an acceptance in hand?
Campbell
Marian
Pacific Northwest
Liberty

Thanks!

 

[avivace]

If you'd rather stay in larger cities, you might not want to interview at COMP-NW. It's in a small town in an agricultural area several hours from Portland. At the interview, the school seemed to focus on its family atmosphere. The students spoke of studying together and playing together (tubing). The school is very involved with the community, particularly the local schools. Socially, the students seemed very outgoing to me, and they described themselves as chill.

@Goro, can you give any more details on why you'd recommend MUCOM?

 

[Goro]

They know what they're doing.
They're tied tightly into the business community in Indy, hence a good donor base.
Good relations with the IU med school
Rotations sites lined up with a big IN hospital chain
Research opportunities at IU and IUPUI while they get their own facilities up and running
Very forward thinking leadership.

If you'd rather stay in larger cities, you might not want to interview at COMP-NW. It's in a small town in an agricultural area several hours from Portland. At the interview, the school seemed to focus on its family atmosphere. The students spoke of studying together and playing together (tubing). The school is very involved with the community, particularly the local schools. Socially, the students seemed very outgoing to me, and they described themselves as chill.

@Goro, can you give any more details on why you'd recommend MUCOM?

 

[wxman393]

First off, congrats on the acceptance to ACOM! If you don't mind sharing, what line of work is your boyfriend in? Dothan isn't huge (nothing like Indy) but it's not a complete farmland either.

As some background, I am married with two young kids. My wife works full time just outside of Dothan. My viewpoint is a bit different because we decided on ACOM not only because it's a great fit for me as a medical student but also it's a great fit for our family (school, personal relationships, community involvement, etc).

However, I completely agree with the above posters about choosing a school that fits your needs while also realizing the needs of your future family, regardless of plans for children (I consider married couples without children a family as much as couples with children). There's no arguing that five years is a committed relationship so I would have an honest and open conversation with your boyfriend because even if you don't consider it an issue, it's something I would address now and after you get additional acceptances.

Before I started withdrawing my apps, I had 12 interviews, of which I attended 4. I chose those four based on these criteria:

1) location
2) community involvement
3) research opportunities
4) student support services
5) board scores (if available)
6) residency placements (if available)

Sorry to ramble but it's probably one of the most significant decisions you'll make in your adult life.