

As always, Midlife makes another good point.
Thanks.
Can I make another? To speak to Nasrudin's point, I get very uncomfortable with the idea of a 20 year old from the pre-allo crowd in the examination room, bored and missing their ipod, not interacting with the patient, waiting to be told what to do. Shadowing for the purpose of checking a box is *****ed and yeah, it's rude and invasive. If it's primary care, or gyn, psych or urology, that's just not cool at any age.
For this nontrad, on my 3rd clinical surg shadowing experience today, I'd argue that it's a different thing. I'm still getting something out of it, and I've figured out how to give a bit. I interact with the patients as much as is appropriate - maybe that's just complimenting her shoes, or maybe it's talking her through the pain of a shot in the knee, or maybe it's being another set of eyes with which to make eye contact when describing an ailment. There's standing there, and there's being
present. I think the distinction might be lost on a younger crowd. Furthermore I have the cajones to not be insulted if I get confused for a nurse. Try that one on a female 20 year old premed...
I was introduced as a student to each of 40 patients today, and most of them said "welcome" as in "welcome to my space that I could kick you out of if I wanted to." These were pre-op and post-op visits, very quick, very methodical. I would have stepped out at any waft of a hint that my presence was a problem, and trust me I'm GREAT at knowing when I'm not wanted. Maybe 15 patients interacted with me directly, asked me how my apps were going, asked advice for their 16 year old who wants to be a doc. I was very careful to stay within my bounds, as in, I am not who you are here to see, but I am here, you are more than your ailment to me, and it's lovely of you to allow my presence.
Lastly, the nice thing about being a 41 year old woman premed, observing the actions of a 42 year old male orthopod, with his 20-70 year old male and female patients is that everybody expected me to act like a... 41 year old who is interested in medicine, which I did, so no problem. The orthopod expected me to know the fine points of Hillary Healthcare 1994 vs. Hillary Healthcare 2007, which I do, so no problem. I wanted to be able to discuss a medical career as a mature adult who has done her homework and footwork, and honestly, I think the orthopod was relieved by this, and enjoyed the discussion. With the average 20 year old it must be a lot like babysitting, and tedious for all involved.
Just like everything else, you get out of it what you put into it.