Should I Feel Guilty?

[GoBuckeyes913]

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Ok, I need some feedback. Tune-in your attention spans, I apologize for the long post. Honestly, I really hate to even bring this up, but it's bothering me and it's happening to me.

I'm a DO student, and over the past week I've been getting teased from a close friend (a DO EM attending), and a few other attendings (DOs) because I have decided to do the allo Match. I know they mean well and I roll with the punches and friendly one-liners (i.e. "Oh, you don't want to be with us?" or to an MD colleague jokingly: "GoBuckeyes is doing that other Match, you know, she hates DOs".) Even my MD attendings feed off it: "Yea, we've converted her to the dark side", which will in turn spark another response from Dr. X, D.O.: "Yea, GoBuckeyes, you don't want to venture over to the dark side, better rethink your choices". I NEVER get offended. Ever. I've never let it show that it's started to make me feel guilty, I just joke back and laugh with them. But for the past 2 days it's been nonstop, like they are joking, but they really aren't at the same time. It's like if you were to ask a fellow resident to stay an extra hour to do you a favor, you know they really don't want to and they say "Dude, it's ok, don't worry"... but you know deep down it's not okay and they are hating you for the next 60 minutes. I'm getting that vibe. Make sense?

Its now made me feel bad. Really bad.
But should it?

Maybe I just have pre Match-Psychosis, and am overanalyzing for nothing. Maybe it's just the hospital I'm in right now. Any input would be great. I hate feeling like Hester Prynne in The Scarlet Letter.

 

[Apollyon]

Sk-huh-rooo anyone that might give you any guff. You do what's right for you. It would be nice, but do you really think any of them will be thinking of you in the next 10 years?

 

[drguy22]

Ok, I need some feedback. Tune-in your attention spans, I apologize for the long post. Honestly, I really hate to even bring this up, but it's bothering me and it's happening to me.

I'm a DO student, and over the past week I've been getting teased from a close friend (a DO EM attending), and a few other attendings (DOs) because I have decided to do the allo Match. I know they mean well and I roll with the punches and friendly one-liners (i.e. "Oh, you don't want to be with us?" or to an MD colleague jokingly: "GoBuckeyes is doing that other Match, you know, she hates DOs".) Even my MD attendings feed off it: "Yea, we've converted her to the dark side", which will in turn spark another response from Dr. X, D.O.: "Yea, GoBuckeyes, you don't want to venture over to the dark side, better rethink your choices". I NEVER get offended. Ever. I've never let it show that it's started to make me feel guilty, I just joke back and laugh with them. But for the past 2 days it's been nonstop, like they are joking, but they really aren't at the same time. It's like if you were to ask a fellow resident to stay an extra hour to do you a favor, you know they really don't want to and they say "Dude, it's ok, don't worry"... but you know deep down it's not okay and they are hating you for the next 60 minutes. I'm getting that vibe. Make sense?

Its now made me feel bad. Really bad.
But should it?

Maybe I just have pre Match-Psychosis, and am overanalyzing for nothing. Maybe it's just the hospital I'm in right now. Any input would be great. I hate feeling like Hester Prynne in The Scarlet Letter.

simple answer to ur questions: NO do what you want!😀

 

[dmunorse]

As someone in a DO EM residency, I concur with the above sentiments. Do what's best for you, and try not to let others get you down about it.
I have no animosity whatsoever for DOs going into the allo match, and I don't think others should have enough to warrant them making you feel bad about it.

 

[domer621]

Should you feel guilty? Just because some d-bags are teasing you? Hell no! What kind of a question is that??

 

[kungfufishing]

Clearly they knows what is best for you. You should quickly pull yourself out of the allopathic match and jump into the osteopathic match, hopefully you still have time to please everybody. The only person who knows what is best for you is everyone else.

 

[GoBuckeyes913]

Clearly they knows what is best for you. You should quickly pull yourself out of the allopathic match and jump into the osteopathic match, hopefully you still have time to please everybody. The only person who knows what is best for you is everyone else.

Haha, I know I know.... I definitely didn't want to come across like I was going to change my mind, not even close to doing so. I would never let anything like that affect my decision. The manner in which things are said to me and how often just makes me wonder if there's some underlying disappointment lingering. That's all 😉

 

[jbp100]

Haha, I know I know.... I definitely didn't want to come across like I was going to change my mind, not even close to doing so. I would never let anything like that affect my decision. The manner in which things are said to me and how often just makes me wonder if there's some underlying disappointment lingering. That's all 😉

If it gets you too down just remind them....

Osteopathic match = 200K mistake!!! (if choosing a 3 yr program in allo land).

 

[roja]

You have no reason to feel guilty. Of course, often when one is made to feel guilty there is no reason... but still. Your faculty is acting a touch inappropriately. You must make the choices that are best for you.

Others are either insensitive or they are projecting thier own issues onto you. Neither of which should you spend time thinking about.

 

[RxnMan]

...Others are either insensitive or they are projecting thier own issues onto you. Neither of which should you spend time thinking about.

I am constantly amazed at how quickly attendings will air out their insecurities to me, the impressionable student they met 10 minutes ago.

I would not feel guilty in your position. If I've learned anything in medical school, it is that one has to take control and make sure their education doesn't get in the way of their learning.

 

[dchristismi]

Sk-huh-rooo anyone that might give you any guff.

If I had to stay that out loud to figure it out, does that mean I've been working too much, or am just out of touch?

Sigh. Being a country bumpkin at Podunk General does have its perks though. I haven't had to quone anyone in awhile. (Unless it was the RSI/panscan kind of quoning... I think I have a new favorite term.)

And Buckeye, you do what you need to do. Try not to let it bother you, but come here and vent when it does.

 

[QofQuimica]

Haha, I know I know.... I definitely didn't want to come across like I was going to change my mind, not even close to doing so. I would never let anything like that affect my decision. The manner in which things are said to me and how often just makes me wonder if there's some underlying disappointment lingering. That's all 😉

Why do you care if they are disappointed? There must be some reason that it matters so much to you to have these people's approval. Are they docs you really admire, or great mentors of yours, or what? If none of the above, and it's not going to affect your grade in the rotation, get one of your friends to grab you by the shoulders and shake this nonsense out of you. 😉