PGY-2 heading into my 3rd and final year. I am sitting in an airport with my flight delayed and I have had far too much time to think. I got called yesterday from my mother "call me as soon as you can, it's not urgent but please call me." I woke up from my night shift and called her back. She was crying and got out the simple words "your dad has died".
My father wasn't the healthiest man and his chart would read; patient with a history of DM, HTN, HLD, PE (on coumadin), and MI admitted with X. Still he's my dad l I am at a loss and am not sure where to go from here.
I wonder if this is really worth it. When I was 18 I moved away to college to get my pre-med degree. I worked a full time job to try and pay for school. I barely made it home. I thought that I would be home once my education was done.
Then came Medical School and another move across the country and endless work. I promised myself and my family that I would be there. Still I missed countless holidays, birthdays, and family get togethers. I thought that I would come home once this was done.
Then residency came and I was totally set on coming home. My number 1 was in my hometown. My number 2 was a reasonable drive away. I matched at my number 3 some 20 hours away. Great program and great place but it wasn't home. I knew that once I was done with residency I would come home.
Some 2 months ago I interviewed and signed a contract to come home. Just one more year and I would be back and could have the family dinner that I have missed out on all these years. It was soo close but before I could do it my father died.
Now I am pissed. I am pissed that I gave up 10 years (and 1 to come) chasing a "dream" while giving up my life. I am pissed that I missed thanksgiving, christmas, easter, and getting a page while wishing my father a happy birthday making me cut our phone conversation short.
I dreamed of making a dinner for all my family in my house and sitting together and laughing. I have dreamed of sitting on my parents deck and not realizing I had to return to the **** hole of residency. I could have done that. Yet I gave it away to study and train for 11 years to listen to meth heads tell me they need narcotics for their bull**** tooth pain. **** YOU.
My father wasn't the healthiest man and his chart would read; patient with a history of DM, HTN, HLD, PE (on coumadin), and MI admitted with X. Still he's my dad l I am at a loss and am not sure where to go from here.
I wonder if this is really worth it. When I was 18 I moved away to college to get my pre-med degree. I worked a full time job to try and pay for school. I barely made it home. I thought that I would be home once my education was done.
Then came Medical School and another move across the country and endless work. I promised myself and my family that I would be there. Still I missed countless holidays, birthdays, and family get togethers. I thought that I would come home once this was done.
Then residency came and I was totally set on coming home. My number 1 was in my hometown. My number 2 was a reasonable drive away. I matched at my number 3 some 20 hours away. Great program and great place but it wasn't home. I knew that once I was done with residency I would come home.
Some 2 months ago I interviewed and signed a contract to come home. Just one more year and I would be back and could have the family dinner that I have missed out on all these years. It was soo close but before I could do it my father died.
Now I am pissed. I am pissed that I gave up 10 years (and 1 to come) chasing a "dream" while giving up my life. I am pissed that I missed thanksgiving, christmas, easter, and getting a page while wishing my father a happy birthday making me cut our phone conversation short.
I dreamed of making a dinner for all my family in my house and sitting together and laughing. I have dreamed of sitting on my parents deck and not realizing I had to return to the **** hole of residency. I could have done that. Yet I gave it away to study and train for 11 years to listen to meth heads tell me they need narcotics for their bull**** tooth pain. **** YOU.