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Does anyone else find that when out socializing/trying to make friends that they attract more people with mental health issues? In an effort to create more balance and make self care a priority I've been trying to attend more social events, meet new people, and hopefully make friends. I'm trying new things (meetup groups, local festivals, live music, anything that seems interesting) and not always sticking with the same venues or activities and I rarely talk about work. I just want to unwind, have a good time, and for the most part I do.
However it seems like many of the people I'm meeting on my ventures out have mental health issues (sometimes they're seeking treatment and other times not) and want to start in on their struggles. While I work in a social work capacity I don't do any kind of therapy and wasn't trained for that, but even if I were I don't want to sit around doing that in my social time anyway. Since no one has raised any suicide/self harm/harm to others red flags I've handled this by just suggesting they consider talking to a licensed professional and calling their insurance carrier or 211 if they need a referral, then ending the conversation. I get that being in a helping profession I may just give off a vibe that makes people feel comfortable talking to me, but are any of you having similar experiences? Sometimes I just want to have a drink and listen to some tunes, not be helpful you know? I'm starting to think I'm nuts for wanting friends I can just chill out with and not feel like I'm providing constant mental health support. It's starting to seem like that isn't even possible.
However it seems like many of the people I'm meeting on my ventures out have mental health issues (sometimes they're seeking treatment and other times not) and want to start in on their struggles. While I work in a social work capacity I don't do any kind of therapy and wasn't trained for that, but even if I were I don't want to sit around doing that in my social time anyway. Since no one has raised any suicide/self harm/harm to others red flags I've handled this by just suggesting they consider talking to a licensed professional and calling their insurance carrier or 211 if they need a referral, then ending the conversation. I get that being in a helping profession I may just give off a vibe that makes people feel comfortable talking to me, but are any of you having similar experiences? Sometimes I just want to have a drink and listen to some tunes, not be helpful you know? I'm starting to think I'm nuts for wanting friends I can just chill out with and not feel like I'm providing constant mental health support. It's starting to seem like that isn't even possible.