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This is a question from a friend of mine. Please see if I can pass
on some advice to him, collected from here.
His wife is currently extremely stressed-out over the issue of
finding a medical residency for herself. They fell in love almost
at first sight, while he was on his oversees trip over a decade ago
and she was doing her research fellowship, after the MBBS medicine
degree. They got married and she started living in America. And,
because of her attachment with her profession and ambition to be
a practicing doc in this country, she has been taking on one
challenge after another and it has resulted into a stressful
situation all along, in an otherwise loving and respectful marriage.
She passed her ECFMG by 1998 and applied for residency for a couple
of years to no avail. Then they had a child, who needed some medical
attention, so she didn't even bother to apply for 4-5 years for a
residency job. She was also dejected to apply in these past few years,
after looking at the simply-wasted efforts of finding a residency, by
many of her offshore educated doc friends. Now that
the kid is better and older, her old career instincts sprung-up
again and the old stresses returned full-fledge to the family.
But, a lot of time has elapsed now, and she is finding that, most
hospitals' doors are now closed wide-shut for her (not to mention
75% of the states' licensing deadlines have passed, so many hospitals
won't look at her case at all). And, she is feeling like a total
wreck.
All these factors are taking extreme toll on my friend as well, since,
looking at her plight, he started feeling guilty ... "Why did
he bring her here to America, to have to go thru this he**!. She could
have been a well-respected, practicing doc, managing a hospital with
more than 25-beds, in her native place!" He makes a very good living in
other profession and income is not the issue here. Its just
that, his wife is unwilling to give up the hope and does not want to
get dissuaded from her goal. And, working so hard at trying to find
a residency now, she is suffering like a fish out of the
water! Looking at her quandary, he does not know how to help her now,
since, he does not have any connections with the medical field folks.
He especially feels lousy, when some of her less-deserving friends
get-in, because of the couple-match option offered by many residency
places. He would like to know what can he do/tell her, about her options,
other alternatives -or, should she hold on to her mission, how many places
should she apply, when to quit etc., that can get the family out of this
jam.
on some advice to him, collected from here.
His wife is currently extremely stressed-out over the issue of
finding a medical residency for herself. They fell in love almost
at first sight, while he was on his oversees trip over a decade ago
and she was doing her research fellowship, after the MBBS medicine
degree. They got married and she started living in America. And,
because of her attachment with her profession and ambition to be
a practicing doc in this country, she has been taking on one
challenge after another and it has resulted into a stressful
situation all along, in an otherwise loving and respectful marriage.
She passed her ECFMG by 1998 and applied for residency for a couple
of years to no avail. Then they had a child, who needed some medical
attention, so she didn't even bother to apply for 4-5 years for a
residency job. She was also dejected to apply in these past few years,
after looking at the simply-wasted efforts of finding a residency, by
many of her offshore educated doc friends. Now that
the kid is better and older, her old career instincts sprung-up
again and the old stresses returned full-fledge to the family.
But, a lot of time has elapsed now, and she is finding that, most
hospitals' doors are now closed wide-shut for her (not to mention
75% of the states' licensing deadlines have passed, so many hospitals
won't look at her case at all). And, she is feeling like a total
wreck.
All these factors are taking extreme toll on my friend as well, since,
looking at her plight, he started feeling guilty ... "Why did
he bring her here to America, to have to go thru this he**!. She could
have been a well-respected, practicing doc, managing a hospital with
more than 25-beds, in her native place!" He makes a very good living in
other profession and income is not the issue here. Its just
that, his wife is unwilling to give up the hope and does not want to
get dissuaded from her goal. And, working so hard at trying to find
a residency now, she is suffering like a fish out of the
water! Looking at her quandary, he does not know how to help her now,
since, he does not have any connections with the medical field folks.
He especially feels lousy, when some of her less-deserving friends
get-in, because of the couple-match option offered by many residency
places. He would like to know what can he do/tell her, about her options,
other alternatives -or, should she hold on to her mission, how many places
should she apply, when to quit etc., that can get the family out of this
jam.
