Thin Envelope: Rejected. How To Deal?

[lisichka]

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all of us are going thru difficult time. most students on here worked really hard to get to this point in their life. this thread is about dealing with rejections from medical schools. there is a stigma attached to the word "rejection", but in fact many successful doctors have been rejected by a med school at least once.

Please share how you deal with such rejections, give advise, and most of all, i hope this is a productive thread that will help others😀 go thru this grueling waiting game.

and remember we only need one acceptence to become doctors 😀

lots of luck

P.S. if this thread is repetetive, please feel free to delete 🙂


ok i'll start: as i mentioned in the other thread, i tear those thine envelopes. for some reason, it gives me joy to do that.

 

[armybound]

my friend Jim Beam brings his friend Coke over and we have a little party. just for the night though.. any longer than that and it might be a little unhealthy.

 

[Phenol312]

Violence...certainly not the most constructive but it feels a little better after i tape a rejection letter to the punching bag and reduce it to shreds 🙂

if im not in that kind of mood i watch this

[YOUTUBE]http://youtube.com/watch?v=UX6e7sO1ss0[/YOUTUBE]

just try to be depressed about a rejection letter after watching that. you will smile. i guarantee. unless youre a robot then all bets are off.

 

[Dendrite]

my friend Jim Beam brings his friend Coke over and we have a little party. just for the night though.. any longer than that and it might be a little unhealthy.

Since I don't party too much or drink or anything, I get myself some ice cream. Kinda lame, but I'm ok with that. 😀

 

[LadyWolverine]

I saved mine, and had a trashcan bonfire at the end of the application cycle, complete with my friends Jose and Jack.

 

[armybound]

Violence...certainly not the most constructive but it feels a little better after i tape a rejection letter to the punching bag and reduce it to shreds 🙂

if im not in that kind of mood i watch this

just try to be depressed about a rejection letter after watching that. you will smile. i guarantee. unless youre a robot then all bets are off.

that video makes me want to get violent.

 

[ChubbyChaser]

Violence...certainly not the most constructive but it feels a little better after i tape a rejection letter to the punching bag and reduce it to shreds 🙂

if im not in that kind of mood i watch this

[youtube]UX6e7sO1ss0[/youtube]

just try to be depressed about a rejection letter after watching that. you will smile. i guarantee. unless youre a robot then all bets are off.

I enjoyed that!

 

[Phenol312]

that video makes me want to get violent.

rofl...yeah its quite the double edged sword.

wait until it gets stuck in your head for 12 hours thats when the fun begins.

 

[PlumpyJeaneze]

If I get one I'll just read it, shove it in a drawer, and move on. Not everyone can get in everywhere. No sense in dwelling on something that you can't do anything about.

 

[lisichka]

Since I don't party too much or drink or anything, I get myself some ice cream. Kinda lame, but I'm ok with that. 😀

OMG. that's exactly what we did yesterday--> went to coldstone creamery.
I got myself cakebatter flavor ice cream w/ chocolate shavings. and i loooove their waffles. they are the best. i can smell their vanilla aroma from far far away😀 and of course all the problems melted away right there and then 😀 try it. it might work😉

 

[Aynsl156]

So far, I've only been rejected over email. Which, by the way, is teh lame. I usually just sigh and move on. Maybe get a coffee to make myself perk up.

 

[MassTransport]

Took me until :40 to figure out the video just repeats.

<-- *****

 

[Dendrite]

OMG. that's exactly what we did yesterday--> went to coldstone creamery.
I got myself cakebatter flavor ice cream w/ chocolate shavings. and i loooove their waffles. they are the best. i can smell their vanilla aroma from far far away😀 and of course all the problems melted away right there and then 😀 try it. it might work😉

One thing that could cheer me up is keep dropping tips into the tip jar and watch the servers sing songs - I'm sure they get annoyed, but it's fun to watch them embarrass themselves.

j/k.. I like putting the bananas in chocolate ice cream with kit kat pieces. It's the best.

 

[paradocs we are]

I am saving all the letters. Once I get into medical school, graduate as a physician, and am invited to speak as a guest speaker at one of the schools that rejected me, I will simply send them their rejection letter with two post-its. The first post-it will read, "Give me my $95 back. Oh, and I am too busy to consider your request seriously." The second post-it, underneath the first, will read, "And what goes around comes around."

Or maybe I should just do what another SDN poster suggested, send them a copy of Time magazine with my photo on the front cover and their rejection letter and write, "we all make mistakes"

 

[Dendrite]

I am saving all the letters. Once I get into medical school, graduate as a physician, and am invited to speak as a guest speaker at one of the schools that rejected me, I will simply send them their rejection letter with two post-its. The first post-it will read, "Give me my $95 back. Oh, and I am too busy to consider your request seriously." The second post-it, underneath the first, will read, "And what goes around comes around."

Or maybe I should just do what another SDN poster suggested, send them a copy of Time magazine with my photo on the front cover and their rejection letter and write, "we all make mistakes"

Very cool. I like the first idea. If a school that rejected me asks me to speak at a conference, I would send them their rejection letter and tell them "you can't reject me... I reject you!!!"

I've always wanted to say something like that.

 

[QofQuimica]

I kept files on all of the schools I was applying to, and I just put the letters in there, regardless of what they said. No drinking, no screaming fits--that's not my style. The letters are still in one of the boxes I have in my closet or living room that I haven't gotten around to unpacking yet. I don't know what I'll do with them once they turn up again, but I'm sure I'll figure something out when the time comes. After the initial disappointment of the first rejection letter, which came from my original top choice school, the others didn't bother me as much. By the time I started getting some acceptances, I didn't care very much about the rejections any more. There is something about that first acceptance that makes all the rejections in the world seem inconsequential. 🙂

For everyone who's still waiting for an acceptance, hang in there. The struggles you have now will only make you appreciate your future success all the more. to all the current applicants. 🙂

 

[Phenol312]

I am saving all the letters. Once I get into medical school, graduate as a physician, and am invited to speak as a guest speaker at one of the schools that rejected me, I will simply send them their rejection letter with two post-its. The first post-it will read, "Give me my $95 back. Oh, and I am too busy to consider your request seriously." The second post-it, underneath the first, will read, "And what goes around comes around."

Or maybe I should just do what another SDN poster suggested, send them a copy of Time magazine with my photo on the front cover and their rejection letter and write, "we all make mistakes"

 

[paradocs we are]

Very cool. I like the first idea. If a school that rejected me asks me to speak at a conference, I would send them their rejection letter and tell them "you can't reject me... I reject you!!!"

I've always wanted to say something like that.

😀 If we're both invited to the same conference, we can send them a double rejection...

 

[drizzt3117]

I guess I haven't taken the rejections personally. I just rejected more than 50 percent of the schools I applied to in one day, and I'm not done yet!

 

[Phoenix.]

I guess I haven't taken the rejections personally. I just rejected more than 50 percent of the schools I applied to in one day, and I'm not done yet!

I think rejections are easier for those of us that have multiple acceptances. Especially if the rejections are pre-interview. Not as invested. I think that the only one that's gonna really hurt (me) is a post-interview rejection to a school that I really really really want to go to.

 

[Dendrite]

😀 If we're both invited to the same conference, we can send them a double rejection...

Deal. 🙂

 

[prettymonkey]

i ate some chocolate. and when i was almost done with a piece i smeared the rest of it across the letter so that it looked like poop. very immature but it made me giggle. i wanted to send it back to them. but i threw it out.

 

[olemissbabydoc]

yeah. I got a bit down, then I started preparing for next interview season. 🙂

 

[Aynsl156]

I think rejections are easier for those of us that have multiple acceptances. Especially if the rejections are pre-interview. Not as invested. I think that the only one that's gonna really hurt (me) is a post-interview rejection to a school that I really really really want to go to.

Agreed. I think I'm gonna start crying and laughing randomly like a crazy person once March rolls around, since my big schools are non-rolling.

 

[DulyNoted]

I frame them and place them in high traffic areas of my residence so that I'm constantly reminded that I am not, in fact, a beautiful, gifted snowflake. Just kidding. They're collecting dust under the car seat, behind my dresser, etc. I expect that, before it's all over, I'll collect them all and torture myself with reading them all one more time before throwing them away.

 

[sawood]

I almost am grateful for the schools that just rip the bandaid off and reject me. Then I don't spend months checking my status, hoping when there is no hope.

Of course, getting rejected presecondary from my #1 instate school that would have allowed me to stay with my boyfriend of 2.5 years while I watch as people with the same stats get interviews makes me want to drink, cry, lash out, and repeat. Apparently paying taxes in California still means certain california schools don't give a sh** and won't even grant a f***ing secondary.....bastards.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[armybound]

I think rejections are easier for those of us that have multiple acceptances. Especially if the rejections are pre-interview. Not as invested. I think that the only one that's gonna really hurt (me) is a post-interview rejection to a school that I really really really want to go to.

i've only gotten 1 rejection and it was from the school you just described.. post-interview, top choice... it's really painful

well ok it was a wait-list, but good enough.

 

[154241]

i ate some chocolate. and when i was almost done with a piece i smeared the rest of it across the letter so that it looked like poop. very immature but it made me giggle. i wanted to send it back to them. but i threw it out.

haha i like your style. 👍

 

[MsJLewis]

Violence...certainly not the most constructive but it feels a little better after i tape a rejection letter to the punching bag and reduce it to shreds 🙂

if im not in that kind of mood i watch this

[youtube]UX6e7sO1ss0[/youtube]

just try to be depressed about a rejection letter after watching that. you will smile. i guarantee. unless youre a robot then all bets are off.

Thank you for that! This song just went right on my ipod under "Workout Music"!

 

[darkelven29]

I cope by writing rejection letters to med schools to let them know that I am not interested in going to their schools anymore

 

[Phenol312]

Thank you for that! This song just went right on my ipod under "Workout Music"!

you're welcome!

[YOUTUBE]http://youtube.com/watch?v=FzSR_TFMirs&feature=related[/YOUTUBE]

got another one for you...this one actually is in japanese...

the vocals are kinda...grating. theres another version with a female vocalist thats much better.

 

[BrokenGlass]

I feed my thin envelopes (spinach works best) and only open them after they become thick. Sometimes they refuse to eat.

 

[Phosphorus]

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[Phoenix.]

i've only gotten 1 rejection and it was from the school you just described.. post-interview, top choice... it's really painful

well ok it was a wait-list, but good enough.

I'm so sorry! That's horrible. But on the bright side, at least you've still got a shot. I'd think that getting waitlisted earlier means a higher chance of getting accepted off the waitlist earlier than others. But truth be told, I have no idea what I'm talking about. It probably has nothing to do with anything. Just trying to think of something positive to say.

 

[Phoenix.]

god, shut up already

Care to elaborate in a more polite fashion?

 

[lisichka]

I feed my thin envelopes (spinach works best) and only open them after they become thick. Sometimes they refuse to eat.

lolz "i just ate all your acceptences" 🙂

 

[Phenol312]

lolz

wow...fat cat is...fat.

 

[Aynsl156]

god, shut up already

Oh come on, I'm sure she didn't mean that in a "look at me and my multiple acceptances" kinda way. The main point of her post is saying that pre-interview rejections are preferable to post-interview rejections because they hurt less.

 

[Phosphorus]

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[ChePibe]

Always opt for the high road:
I send thank you emails to the admissions office.
Classy? (Not if you are inside my mind when I get the news)

 

[lisichka]

I'm happy that you have acceptances to multiple schools, I really am, but we get it. You can stop posting about it in every thread.

please no more fights. she deserves every single one of them. i agree that post-interview rej. are worse than pre-interview.

 

[Phoenix.]

Oh come on, I'm sure she didn't mean that in a "look at me and my multiple acceptances" kinda way. The main point of her post is saying that pre-interview rejections are preferable to post-interview rejections because they hurt less.

👍 And anyway, I was responding to drizzt's post regarding why he hasn't taken his rejections personally. Because they're pre-interview rejections, and he already has some acceptances in his pocket. I was speaking in the collective "we" (or "us" for that matter). But since I'm so Mayo-obsessed, mid-way through my post it became about my worry over a (likely) Mayo rejection. I apologize if I worded it offensively in any way shape or form. But I still think your comment was a little uncalled for.

I'm happy that you have acceptances to multiple schools, I really am, but we get it. You can stop posting about it in every thread.

Again, that wasn't my point.

 

[Thurinus]

Dude, you've made this thread brilliant! First the video and now this.

 

[drizzt3117]

I can see where you are coming from, Phoenix, but I got all my rejections before I got in anywhere. I guess my attitude is that there are a lot of good schools and I wouldn't want to go to 32 interviews anyways. Btw, before my UC rejection I'd never gotten a rejection from a school before (but more than my fair share from the ladies) so I wasn't sure how I'd handle it, but it actually didn't bother me that much. Mayo was worse, because I really like it but whatever.

 

[paradocs we are]

👍 And anyway, I was responding to drizzt's post regarding why he hasn't taken his rejections personally. Because they're pre-interview rejections, and he already has some acceptances in his pocket. I was speaking in the collective "we" (or "us" for that matter). But since I'm so Mayo-obsessed, mid-way through my post it became about my worry over a (likely) Mayo rejection. I apologize if I worded it offensively in any way shape or form. But I still think your comment was a little uncalled for.



Again, that wasn't my point.

When I first read your original post, I really thought it sounded a bit like bragging. And I was pissed. But I chose not to respond to your post because I know that you were not intentionally writing things that would make other people feel like saying "shut up." But someone obviously wrote how they felt about the post. And although it was not polite, I can understand that if he didn't know you from your previous posts, I would have felt the exact same way. I know better, however, because you're very helpful and encouraging most of the time.

 

[shadowclaws]

You should send them back a letter saying that you are withdrawing their acceptance offer or saying something about asking for a better finaid package.

 

[drizzt3117]

Phoenix,

You don't have to apologize, you didn't do anything wrong. 15000+ ppl will be accepted to med school this cycle. If ppl are getting bent out of shape by one person talking about getting in then it's going to be a long cycle.

 

[paradocs we are]

🙄

 

[LaMusicienne]

I got my first rejection really early, like the first week of September. I wasn't even aware that schools handed out rejections that early, so initially I was shocked and very disappointed ("holy crap, I must've looked REALLY bad on paper!").

But then I got more and more amused by it and ended up hanging it on my wall 😎

 

[DrBubbles]

I got rejected from one school, then they sent me a postcard saying they were reviewing my application. Right.

A friend of mine got rejected from one school TWICE (they had a typo in the first letter). Nice.

I just filed them, figured it's one less school I have to research and call and write to try and finagle an interview, and it's close to $500 I saved by not booking the flight and staying overnight.

Seriously though? They suck. If you've already had at least one interview, they're easier to tolerate. If you have an acceptance, tears won't work on me anymore. Even if it's your #1 school. With no interviews yet, it's a learning experience--1) Interview season's only halfway over, so 2) you still have plenty of shots (only the superstars have interview invites so far), and 3) if you don't get in this year, think of all you can do in the next two years to enjoy life before being broke for ten years, and to beef up your application!