Failed case of helicopter parenting right here, either that or narcissistic parenting. At this point I wonder, helicopter parent, narcissistic, or sadists that takes a lot of pleasure in killing the career of their kids.
Dad wasn't good enough to be a doctor so he did all he could do to try and make me into a doctor. Instead of going to a regular high school, I was sent to some specialized science school where the education was not even all that great (most kids did not get into a respectable university, hardly any did and average SAT scores were low). Worst years of my life hands down. Parents were overly protective maniacs too, that made matters much worse.
Did manage to get into a decent university but got sweet-talked into commuting instead. Thought okay, maybe I get a high GPA and get into an even better university as a transfer (that is what he tried to push on to me). Could have fought against him and went away for college, those would have been the best 4 years of my life. Commuting sucks and I went to a commuter campus where it was hard to make friends or have much of a social life.
Thought okay why not, little did I know the guy made me major in Biochem and after 2 semester of a GPA well below med school standards, he kept on pushing me into it and said it was my only way of having a future or getting a job. Like the girl in OP's dad, my dad is also a maniac who throws temper tantrums when he does not get what he wants, the type to bring up doomsday scenarios if med school does not happen.
Long story short, after horrible grades in upper level sciences, I graduated with a 2.4 GPA (upward trend though! Hence the name!!!). Well, here I sit having graduated college recently and severely depressed.
It's one thing to graduate college with a poor GPA knowing that you messed around too much, it is another graduating college with a low GPA as a science major knowing that it was never really your preference in the first place. I am in my early 20s and even though I graduated college, I feel like my life is practically over because that number is going to follow me around everywhere. Forget med school, even business, law, and any job that I could have made a lot of money from will not look twice at me. Some days I literally do wish that I die because I lost life on both counts, poor grades that will haunt me forever on one and lack of a fun social life due to helicopter parents on another.
I've learned that the most unfair advantage a person can ever have in life are good parents, I was not fortunate enough to have those. My friends had parents that let them pursue their passions in life and they are enjoying life right now. Some of them had easier majors in college and are working decent jobs in big cities as consultants and for non-profits.
The worst part about it all, my parents literally had no idea about how any of this works. They wanted me to be a doctor so they could brag to their friends about how their son was a doctor. No idea what doctors do other than the fact that they make a lot of money, such awful human beings that some days I wish I was raised in an orphanage.
Ya I know, everyone here will think I am some ungrateful brat but I literally do wish I had parents that gave me more freedom past the age of 18 rather than these god awful monsters who have ruined me. Not something I like to say but life is so unfair. I want to break into finance as that has always been my passion but unfortunately, Wall Street cares a lot about my low GPA in science classes to where I will never work there.
