Tips on how to remain calm during the cycle

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Hello SDN,

It is only August 1st and I already have found myself constantly preoccupied about this cycle and if I will get any interviews, acceptances, waitlists, etc. Many of my secondaries are already submitted so now its just a waiting game.

I am wondering if anyone has any tips or suggestions on how to reduce anxiety/ stress about the application cycle while we all wait the long wait?

Thank you in advance and I wish everyone a successful application cycle! 🙂
 
First of all, I recommend doing your best to avoid talking to other applicants about the cycle (at school, or wherever you find other pre-med folks). During my cycle, I rarely discussed what was going on except w my best friend, parents, and my SO. The more people you talk about it with, the more it’s going to take over your life, and that’s not healthy, especially when so much of it requires waiting.

Second, I agree with @Skeletorr — stay off of SDN for now. There’s virtually nothing this site can do for you while you wait for II. (I personally never understood why people were so obsessed with reporting when they got their IIs, but I digress.) I think, while that may be somewhat helpful to someone, it mostly makes people feel like **** and get antsy. So yeah, stay off of this site for now.

Third, are you busy? I recommend you stay busy, with things that get you off of your computer and out into the world. If you get in, this is your last year before you begin your medical journey. Make the most of it. Have fun. Fill up your time with things that make you happy, and with things that will a) distract you, and b) make you feel more fulfilled and ready come matriculation.

Good luck and have fun this year!
 
Hello SDN,

It is only August 1st and I already have found myself constantly preoccupied about this cycle and if I will get any interviews, acceptances, waitlists, etc. Many of my secondaries are already submitted so now its just a waiting game.

I am wondering if anyone has any tips or suggestions on how to reduce anxiety/ stress about the application cycle while we all wait the long wait?

Thank you in advance and I wish everyone a successful application cycle! 🙂
Stay busy
 
First of all, I recommend doing your best to avoid talking to other applicants about the cycle (at school, or wherever you find other pre-med folks). During my cycle, I rarely discussed what was going on except w my best friend, parents, and my SO. The more people you talk about it with, the more it’s going to take over your life, and that’s not healthy, especially when so much of it requires waiting.

Second, I agree with @Skeletorr — stay off of SDN for now. There’s virtually nothing this site can do for you while you wait for II. (I personally never understood why people were so obsessed with reporting when they got their IIs, but I digress.) I think, while that may be somewhat helpful to someone, it mostly makes people feel like **** and get antsy. So yeah, stay off of this site for now.

Third, are you busy? I recommend you stay busy, with things that get you off of your computer and out into the world. If you get in, this is your last year before you begin your medical journey. Make the most of it. Have fun. Fill up your time with things that make you happy, and with things that will a) distract you, and b) make you feel more fulfilled and ready come matriculation.

Good luck and have fun this year!

Thank you for this great advice! SDN is oddly addictive but does provide some useful info (such as this advice 🙂)

My activities all involve my computer so I will have to strategize on how to keep my mind off of applications when I am involved with my other responsibilities. Perhaps I will take some time to go for a walk and make sure to not bring my phone!
 
Reduce your screen time. The more screen time you’ll have, the more you’ll think to check your emails / secondary portals / SDN etc. and the more you’ll find yourself looping back to exactly where you are currently.

If you’ve got a smart phone I’d suggest you put a time limit on apps you frequent most. This paired with more time spent around your non pre-med friends, gym, or whatever else you do in your non-occupied time should be a good way to generally reduce stress during the app cycle, at least it did for me last cycle.
 
Hello SDN,

It is only August 1st and I already have found myself constantly preoccupied about this cycle and if I will get any interviews, acceptances, waitlists, etc. Many of my secondaries are already submitted so now its just a waiting game.

I am wondering if anyone has any tips or suggestions on how to reduce anxiety/ stress about the application cycle while we all wait the long wait?

Thank you in advance and I wish everyone a successful application cycle! 🙂

Find a new TV show to binge (preferably one with many seasons) and make sure to get some exercise (preferably outside) every day.
 
Thank you for this great advice! SDN is oddly addictive but does provide some useful info (such as this advice 🙂)

My activities all involve my computer so I will have to strategize on how to keep my mind off of applications when I am involved with my other responsibilities. Perhaps I will take some time to go for a walk and make sure to not bring my phone!

You’re welcome! I agree, it is oddly addictive... my roommate and SO shame me whenever they find out I’ve spent time on here.

Anyway, I’m a big fan of the leave-the-phone-at-home strategy 🙂
 
Gonna be honest - learning how to manage stress related to your career is a really good skill to develop NOW, because once you're in med school, it never really goes away. Right now it might feel like "once I get my interviews I'll be good" or "I'll stop stressing once I get accepted somewhere," but that's only the beginning. Then the med student anxiety revolves around Step 1. Then it revolves around clinical grades. Then it revolves around matching. Then it revolves around, you know, being responsible for the life of another human being. I only say this to emphasize that establishing good habits of managing stress is huge, so work on forming them now. Cook for yourself. Work out regularly. Spend time with your friends and family. This is your life, after all! Don't waste your time worrying about things once they're out of your hands.
 
Thank you all for the replies and suggestions! :happy: I will implement some of these strategies. This is a great community for knowledge and support.

Gonna be honest - learning how to manage stress related to your career is a really good skill to develop NOW, because once you're in med school, it never really goes away. Right now it might feel like "once I get my interviews I'll be good" or "I'll stop stressing once I get accepted somewhere," but that's only the beginning. Then the med student anxiety revolves around Step 1. Then it revolves around clinical grades. Then it revolves around matching. Then it revolves around, you know, being responsible for the life of another human being. I only say this to emphasize that establishing good habits of managing stress is huge, so work on forming them now. Cook for yourself. Work out regularly. Spend time with your friends and family. This is your life, after all! Don't waste your time worrying about things once they're out of your hands.

I agree with you @salpinx minx. However, I find this experience a bit different than preparing/ taking the MCAT (i thought that was exciting/fun). I would imagine Step is a similar experience (but idk)??
I was in complete control over the outcome of my MCAT scores (based on my preparation, it's pretty black and white you either know the answer or you don't). With this application, there is some luck as to who reviews your app. Perhaps, as you said, this is more comparable to the match process.

I think the reason I find this process particularly stressful is because of the extremely long wait, the "limbo" like state, and lack of control.
 
Thank you all for the replies and suggestions! :happy: I will implement some of these strategies. This is a great community for knowledge and support.



I agree with you @salpinx minx. However, I find this experience a bit different than preparing/ taking the MCAT (i thought that was exciting/fun). I would imagine Step is a similar experience (but idk)??
I was in complete control over the outcome of my MCAT scores (based on my preparation, it's pretty black and white you either know the answer or you don't). With this application, there is some luck as to who reviews your app. Perhaps, as you said, this is more comparable to the match process.

I think the reason I find this process particularly stressful is because of the extremely long wait, the "limbo" like state, and lack of control.


LOL I don't want to freak you out, but preparing for Step 1 is NOTHING like the MCAT. The amount of information you need to know for the MCAT is a drop in the ocean compared to what you need to know for Step 1. Trust me, you will feel a lack of control when studying for that exam at a certain point. Your brain can just only hold so much information at once. And, you will again feel in "limbo" as you're waiting for your score.

Again, I'm not trying to scare you. I'm just reinforcing the point I made earlier, which is - learn to manage stress/feeling of lack of control/feeling like you're in limbo now, because those things will keep coming up throughout your clinical training in new, more challenging ways.

I don't want to diminish what you're feeling at the moment. I remember that feeling of uncertainty about my future - it sucks. I just don't want you, or any premed, to put off any important things in your life because you feel like you're in a temporary stressful situation. It's not temporary. There will be tons of stressful situations in the next few decades of your career that you feel like are out of your control. This is the new normal. And that's okay! Embrace it, manage it, keep living your life.
 
All of the advice given above is excellent. What I will do is something different. I will offer a perspective on what the cycle is likely to hold for most, if not all, applicants, IF it is anything like the last cycle. I do this so that you heed the advice offered.

All applicants this cycle are now entering a metaphorical killing field. This killing field will be long, extending possibly, for some, through July of 2020. Casualty statistics from previous cycles paint a grim picture. Sixty percent of applicants will not a receive an acceptance. The young, those applying between their 3rd and 4th UG years, are especially vulnerable. Of those receiving an acceptance, some will not receive an affordable acceptance. Of those who do get interviews, most will get no more than 2. @gonniff has all the gory statistics. Few comes out of this unscathed.

Unless one has experienced real emotional difficulties such as the loss of a loved, personal illness or other truly challenging life circumstances, what lies ahead is emotionally unfamiliar territory. Most have played the premed game pretty well and safely to this point, excruciatingly focused on putting the right points on the board. Nearly all are perfectionists; obsessiveness and compulsiveness are hallmarks, largely serving us well. Many have achieved notable success in multiple fields. This background and mindset is inconsistent with the raft of rejections that will come soon and continue for several months. Yes, for some there will be the occasional II, but they will be punctuated by many more pre-II Rs, made all the more painful because often they come from schools where "our stats" suggested a decent chance. Interviews, more often than not, turn into WLs. Acceptances are quite rare, and come, when then they do, at uneven intervals. Financial aid most often comes at the very end of the cycle. So even with an early acceptance, you many not know if you can afford to attend medical school until the cycle's nearly over.

The inordinate stress, and the duration with which it goes on, is, for many, pretty debilitating. All of the emotional issues you thought you had dealt with or, at least, effectively swept under the rug, well, they'll all resurface Obsessiveness, once a friend, will turn into a punishing tool for continuous self-doubt and self-questioning. Over time, this stress is damaging for some, akin to, if not in fact, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

On a personal note, while I was on paper a pretty strong applicant and, in the end, had an excellent outcome, my cycle never felt as if it was going well. Most of the time, it felt as if I was in perpetual failure mode. While I thought I was tough, I was unprepared for the difficult feelings this process engendered in me. When it is over, I feel didn't fell joy or even happiness, I just felt relieved it was over. Immediately afterwards, I resigned a pretty lucrative position because I needed to rest and repair. It has taken nearly 4 months to feel like myself again. I still wrestle with the fact that a little part of me died during this process, a little part of me I won't ever get back. It sometimes makes me sad. I steel myself with the knowledge that, perhaps, this process has prepared me for what lies ahead, for the even more difficult days I know I will have to confront.

To all engaged now, please heed the advice given here. Be patient. Be good to yourselves. Reach out to those who care for you. Seek strength in them. Learn self-care. Whatever happens, you will be just fine, if you take proper care.

you give me the creeps
 
LOL I don't want to freak you out, but preparing for Step 1 is NOTHING like the MCAT. The amount of information you need to know for the MCAT is a drop in the ocean compared to what you need to know for Step 1. Trust me, you will feel a lack of control when studying for that exam at a certain point. Your brain can just only hold so much information at once. And, you will again feel in "limbo" as you're waiting for your score.

Again, I'm not trying to scare you. I'm just reinforcing the point I made earlier, which is - learn to manage stress/feeling of lack of control/feeling like you're in limbo now, because those things will keep coming up throughout your clinical training in new, more challenging ways.

I don't want to diminish what you're feeling at the moment. I remember that feeling of uncertainty about my future - it sucks. I just don't want you, or any premed, to put off any important things in your life because you feel like you're in a temporary stressful situation. It's not temporary. There will be tons of stressful situations in the next few decades of your career that you feel like are out of your control. This is the new normal. And that's okay! Embrace it, manage it, keep living your life.

Thank you so much for your insight!! This is very helpful and helps put things into perspective!
 
or outsource SDN and stress it brings to your parents or SO 🙂
 
Anyone have recommendations to lessen the usage of the phone?

I want to get back into my reading habits because I actually enjoy reading but I find that I can't control how much I use my phone.
 
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