Transferred to new university, first two weeks of classes, social life issue

[Short Term User]

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So this is a pickup from my last thread where I said I was worried about social life.

Here is the deal:

- I am a junior (probably have 3 or 4 more semesters of college left after this one)
- Tomorrow will finish my second week of classes
- Have managed to meet quite a few people through meal plan and managed to get a lot of numbers and such
- Noticed that on campus I mainly meet a lot of freshmen and sophomores, rarely meet juniors and seniors

I know it is just the first two weeks but there are days where I am sitting alone at a lunch table. I mean my university is division 1a and it is great and everything but this weekend I won't have anything to do.

Most of the partying is in bars downtown and I don't have a fake ID (not 21 yet) and other than that I don't know what else there is to on campus during the weekends.

It is the first two weeks of college, do I need to give it more time?

past thread

http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=975106

 

[Hemorrage]

Focus on getting into medical school and you won't be worrying about this

 

[touchpause13]

does your campus have greek life? i met so many people and formed great friendships because i decided to go greek, also i was able to take on a lot of leadership roles i wouldn't have otherwise

 

[MusicJunkie]

Give it more time. It's only been two weeks.

Get involved in clubs (the greek group at my school was super close, if you'd like to pledge), contact the people whose numbers you got and see if they wanna meet up sometime. Even if they are freshman and sophomores, there is a possibility you could meet third and forth years through them. Also, when you guys go out, you'll most likely meet a wide range of age groups, so don't worry about that.

 

[Short Term User]

I don't think upperclassmen at my university can go greek

 

[Doudline]

As a premed you are probably better alone anyway. It is our destiny.

 

[MicroSteph]

Usually during the first few weeks of a semester there will be some clubs that are trying to recruit members. Maybe find a club you're interested in joining?

 

[wholeheartedly]

Honestly, just search for a club based on something you're interested in. If you like cycling, search out a cycling club, if you like chess, go with chess. They might be school sponsored or just an unofficial group of enthusiasts. There were always way more of these things to participate in than I had time for, always posters that had something cool advertised etc.

check those out and disregard those telling you to skip socializing because you're premed.

 

[RCPreMD]

As a junior I think your priorities should be shifting from social to academic if that has not already happened.

 

[OCDOCDOCD]

So let me get this straight: You're having a major life crisis because you've spent a grand total of two weeks at your new college and still don't have a huge number of friends, just a lot of phone numbers of people who said they'd like to hang out more? Even worse, you've actually found yourself having to eat alone on a few occasions 😱.

Congrats on being one of the few SDN posters neurotic about something other than academics.

 

[BABSstudent]

What about your class labs? I didn't really know anyone in my classes that didn't have labs, but my lab mates and I have been friends since being partners. I am not talking about chem 105 lab partners, I mean like upper division biology lab partners. By that time, you make friends with the people in the same field as you.

 

[TangoDown]

Some days you sit at the lunch table alone? Welcome to real life, where you won't have someone immediately with you to talk to 24/7.

You've got a bunch of freshman and sophomores numbers...I don't see the issue with that seeing as they're what, 6 months to 2 years younger than you? And you're only two weeks in. If you're really in crisis mode because you can't meet people who are exactly your age, go join a club, or a frat, or hell...I don't know...talk to people in your class? Turn to someone next to you and say "Hey, what's your name?" There's gotta be Juniors and Seniors in your classes.

You're sad that you can't get into bars because you're 20? You have the next 80 years to go to bars.

If you absolutely don't have anything to do on the weekend, MAKE something to do. Do something productive...get a volunteering gig conducive to applying to med school. Or get a weekend job and make some cash on the side.

You really don't know how lucky you are, anyway. I go to community college (2nd semester, I'm also 20 though), and there's absolutely no "community" there. People go to class, and then go home/go to work/hang out with people they know from high school/wherever else. There is no party scene, and the only people, at large, who congregate in masses that have met at my CC are potheads that spend the entire day smoking and drinking. At least you have freshman and sophomores that want to hang out with you...

 

[Short Term User]

You really don't know how lucky you are, anyway. I go to community college (2nd semester, I'm also 20 though), and there's absolutely no "community" there. People go to class, and then go home/go to work/hang out with people they know from high school/wherever else. There is no party scene, and the only people, at large, who congregate in masses that have met at my CC are potheads that spend the entire day smoking and drinking. At least you have freshman and sophomores that want to hang out with you...

I had to go to that kind of place for my first two years of college, I know what you are talking about.

 

[Koosalagoosagoo]

Some days you sit at the lunch table alone? Welcome to real life, where you won't have someone immediately with you to talk to 24/7.

You've got a bunch of freshman and sophomores numbers...I don't see the issue with that seeing as they're what, 6 months to 2 years younger than you? And you're only two weeks in. If you're really in crisis mode because you can't meet people who are exactly your age, go join a club, or a frat, or hell...I don't know...talk to people in your class? Turn to someone next to you and say "Hey, what's your name?" There's gotta be Juniors and Seniors in your classes.

You're sad that you can't get into bars because you're 20? You have the next 80 years to go to bars.

If you absolutely don't have anything to do on the weekend, MAKE something to do. Do something productive...get a volunteering gig conducive to applying to med school. Or get a weekend job and make some cash on the side.

You really don't know how lucky you are, anyway. I go to community college (2nd semester, I'm also 20 though), and there's absolutely no "community" there. People go to class, and then go home/go to work/hang out with people they know from high school/wherever else. There is no party scene, and the only people, at large, who congregate in masses that have met at my CC are potheads that spend the entire day smoking and drinking. At least you have freshman and sophomores that want to hang out with you...

OH my god i know these feels, I cant wait till i am in my state university next fall...

 

[kgpremed11]

Focus on getting into medical school and you won't be worrying about this

He/she prob won't get in with that "I have to party" attitude.

 

[TangoDown]

OH my god i know these feels, I cant wait till i am in my state university next fall...

I am envious...stuck at CC for the next 3 years unless I transfer to a uni early. 👎

 

[Hemorrage]

He/she prob won't get in with that "I have to party" attitude.

Yeah. That attitude is the primary reason my freshman year GPA sucks. OP you are no longer in CC, you won't be able to scrape by and get easy grades at a 4 year university. Take school seriously and focus on getting good grades because that's what will really count in 2 years time for you.

 

[La Presse]

as a premed you are probably better alone anyway. It is our destiny.

+1

 

[Aerus]

Hang out with people on your floor or people who also care about academics (they don't necessarily have to be pre-med; in fact, for the sake of a chill friendship, it would be preferable if they weren't pre-med).

 

[Short Term User]

Actually, not worried as much about grades as sad as it sounds. I cannot live this life of misery and work work work. I want to have that moment of being at a wild and drunk partying and having a large social life, that is my main concern right now.

 

[survivordo]

He/she prob won't get in with that "I have to party" attitude.

Not to rustle anyone's feathers but I can't disagree with this more. There are PLENTY of people that get into med school every year with this "party" attitude, myself included. College is all about determining what your priorities are and managing your time well around them. If you're not having the time of your life, you're doing something wrong. If going out and partying 3 or 4 nights a week is your idea of fun than go for it, just recognize that you are going to have to make up for it at other times. Honestly, classes get out by 5 at the latest, no one goes out before 9 or 10. Be efficient and get your work done in those few hours and you're good to party like its 1999.

I do think you have gotten some other great suggestions, joining clubs is by far the best way to meet people with similar interests.

My own two cents,

Survivor DO

 

[Ajax16]

Actually, not worried as much about grades as sad as it sounds. I cannot live this life of misery and work work work. I want to have that moment of being at a wild and drunk partying and having a large social life, that is my main concern right now.

Main concern? And your a Junior??? Dude, I see why your name is "Short Term User." I hope you can get Academics to be your main concern if the Pre-Med journey is one you intend to embark on.

 

[chaii]

No friends = better grades and more sleep. But also a scrub life