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Well, sadly my dear wife was rejected on 3/5 from UCSF, for the second year in a row. The reason stated in the letter was that her oral/written english was not up to their standard. She immigrated to this country 3 years ago from Taiwan, and as such was clearly at a disadvantage in this regard. (This was after traveling around the world twice, once alone for 6 months and again with me for about 9).
I have to say, I'm disappointed because for two years I honestly and truly held on to this almost religious belief that UCSF would eventually see that what she lacked in native fluency, she would make up for with her broad international perspective, drive, compassion and enthusiasm for the profession (and life). For two years I held on to the belief that UCSF would see that her ability to articulate in English was already very good, and would only get better during the course of her education and her life in the United States. (Certainly her communication ability was good enough for two other pharmacy schools to accept her.) I had faith that UCSF would understand the cultural factor, that Chinese society all but forbids bragging about one's accomplishments, and that this is one of the hardest things for my wife to do (though she does it extremely well in her pre written essays, which she was of course able to polish and perfect). And I really though this time, the second application and the second interview, they would know her well enough to see what I see in her... that she has massive potential to reach the greatest heights in this profession-- she just needs to be given a chance. I really thought that UCSF would be the one to identify her spark and offer her that opportunity. It's a sad thing to wake up one day and realize that your perceptions are wrong, that you've been praying at the wrong altar, that you've built up an idea about something that may never have really existed.
Anyway, I suppose that's all from me-- take care, everyone and good luck to all the rest of you in achieving your dreams.
schleima,
Don't worry about it. Your wife will be fine. She was accepted to two other schools and that's what matters. Focus on that. If UCSF stresses her language so much then take it for what it is. The school may be great, but it is no altar. It is probably very difficult to look at it this way right now because we want what we want, but this can be a positive too. Perhaps you can draw some inspiration from this. Perhaps you can even try and trust their judgement given their reputation and expertise. Perhaps this will all be for the best. Just look forward to what you have and be happy with your wife's acceptance to the other schools.
I want to go to UCSF. I want to start a new life in California. But I look at it a little differently. Being 30, I'm probably older than most of you young whippersnappers here. I feel that if I don't get accepted, it really is out of my hands. It really wasn't the "right fit." I'll trust them with the decision even if I'll be disappointed. I'm fortunate to have been accepted to a couple of schools too and I can live with that. UB for example seems like a fine choice, even if Buffalo is so dreary when you put it side by side with SF. I know that I've done my best and I'm proud of myself at this point.
It sounds like your wife, schleima, also put a ton of work into this and at the end of the day, she is better for it and should be proud of it. She has become a better person as a result of this struggle and I'm sure she will succeed wherever she will end up.