No one is saying people can't know one another. That is just a little figment of your imagination. The fact that you think everyone knows everyone and everything is yippy tells me how little you know about this things.
Look man, I obviously have no idea what happened concerning race relations that pissed you off so badly, but not everyone has such a hard time relating to people with a different skin color.
For myself, and I think for most people, this isn't even an issue about loosing "my spot" to a URM with lower stats. And everyone is aware that there are a ton of URM's who more than earned their place.Nor is this about slowing minorities down in their quest to better themselves or denying care to underserved populations. I oppose AA in medical school admissions and scholarships on principle alone. And it stimulates me intellectually to see what people of a different perspective have to say. But when I read posts like yours, it makes me concerned about issues bigger than AA, because it's obviously coming from a deep feeling of division between races. Not everyone thinks that way, and most of us going to med school are huge idealists. Though I oppose AA, I am still going to be working side by side with guys like you, serving the underserved (one has nothing to do with the other). But you need to be aware that a ton of people have a problem with the inherent inequality of AA for very valid, well articulated reasons. And we are the same people who are going to voice those opinions when we are your colleagues. So you might want to come up with better arguments than "you don't know me" and "you can't effectively treat the minorities of america". That just fuels the division that you are so upset about.
Actually, I would be a little worried about working with people like you. I am afraid you will become one of those doctors who lack a good grip on social issues. To be a good doctor across the board, you will have to understand racial issues and the implications they have on health care. Pretending to be idealistic (I say pretending because I find it hard to believe that you think "most people" will agree with you that everything is yippy) will not get you anywhere in medicine.
You said something about the medical profession being idealistic. I think you've been looking at the wrong profession. Medicine can afford to be anything but idealistic. Good medicine always takes social implications into account. Examples of this abounds.
In terms of me having a horrible experience and being very angry at the world. I guess people automatically become angry and frustrated when their opinions happen to be different from yours.
If you think this discussion is heated, then you need to head down and see some of the discussions I have with my (non black and often black) friends. We argue vigorously, feel the pain, resent each others opinion, enjoy the anticipation, move on and continue with our lives. It is part of the learning experience.
The fact that you think I have a difficult time relating to "other skin colors" just because I have a different view tells me that you yourself might be suffering from the illusion that you have great relationships with people of other colors. Perhaps your friends just don't discuss those issues with you because they don't think you would understand. This happens more often than you think. It is the same reason half of SDNers know "a rich black guy who has the same opportunity they had" when it is indeed (by far) more likely that you would meet a "a black guy who lacked half of the opportunities you had".