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I thought we needed a place to vent and whine - so we don't clog all those other "official" threads....not that I help with my witticisms and various other remarks



cornell sucks (i know they don't really but i'm just bitter and still haven't received ANYTHING from them)

who's next?
 
I'm going to fail biophysical chemistry (and by fail I mean B). It sucks and I'm not happy about it. Also, I'm EXHAUSTED from three interviews in a week and a half and just want to sleep. But oh no, it's finals :barf:
 
j-weezy, I'm going to take a guess and say that you're done with finals. Am I correct?
 
ignore pickle's de-stress thread - mine is OBVIOUSLY superior (it contains the word whine)

actually, i'm just bitter pickles has the creative prowess to make threads that become so popular (i've seen pre-allo....)


people who don't understand that md/phd interviews are MORE exhausting than normal interviews - they suck (but only a little)
 
OncDoc19 said:
I'm going to fail biophysical chemistry (and by fail I mean B). It sucks and I'm not happy about it. Also, I'm EXHAUSTED from three interviews in a week and a half and just want to sleep. But oh no, it's finals :barf:
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Lol about the "by fail I mean B." So true. And I hear you on the 3 interviews in a week and a half. I did that not too long ago, and my first day back in school, I slept through all my classes. 🙁
 
revaldo29 said:
j-weezy, I'm going to take a guess and say that you're done with finals. Am I correct?
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nope

one more next monday (post - penn) and although I only need an 82 or 83 to keep my A - if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen (OMG did i just write that???)
 
Oh, and I tried to take a statistics midterm on Monday without a calculator (left it at home by mistake). First time I've ever done something that stupid. 🙁 I'm not looking forward to getting that one back.
 
Dodo23 said:
Lol about the "by fail I mean B." So true. And I hear you on the 3 interviews in a week and a half. I did that not too long ago, and my first day back in school, I slept through all my classes. 🙁
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I was lucky today actually. There was a huge ice storm in Iowa and I used that as an excuse to skip my one class of the day (which normally puts me to sleep). However, I spent all day studying not sleeping 🙁
 
yeah great school. I didn't really like the city though. $150 a month just to park my car! I've spent too much time in the south to not have a car.
 
revaldo29 said:
yeah great school. I didn't really like the city though. $150 a month just to park my car! I've spent too much time in the south to not have a car.
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As a nearly four-year resident of Philadelphia and lifetime resident of its environs (and moreover one who did not much like the city either before living there), I must say it should be given a chance. No, it's not New York or LA...but it does have a multitude of its own charms and I've really come to love it there. Plus, in New York, the Amish don't come twice a week to sell vegetables they picked themselves and homemade pies!

Yes, the parking is a pain (I'm trying to reduce my carbon footprint so I sold my car), but you don't really need it in Philly (and to be honest driving around town is a big hassle). But I suppose there are pros and cons in all things...
 
My chief complaint for the evening:

Interviewers, who are on the admissions committee no less, that tell you "there's no way you won't get in", and then send you the thin envelope a few months later.
 
solitude said:
My chief complaint for the evening:

Interviewers, who are on the admissions committee no less, that tell you "there's no way you won't get in", and then send you the thin envelope a few months later.
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i think they mean the best and really like you, it just means that they weren't able to convince their peers. yea they should stop saying it but i think it makes themselves feel better...and they say it with the best intentions to make you feel better.
 
Allow me to register a general complaint against schools that accept less than half of the candidates they interview, or (more specifically and less fairly) against schools that interview and don't accept me. Don't drag me away from my work and halfway across the country for that.
 
no complaint, just nostalgia.

Wooing Hopkins is an unrequited love affair.
 
I'm going to vent against all the schools that are TORTURING ME by taking FOREVER to get back to me. (Right now I have 8 of these. 8!) I spent a damn long time on those secondaries, the least they could do is read them damnit... And schools that don't bother to send the actual rejection letter until well after you have already realized that you've been rejected (Cornell, Pitt so far in my experience.)

I'm not good at waiting...🙁
 
my complaint is directed towards duke who i really want to love me. please love me, duke.

also about the $100 of presents that were stolen from my front porch after fedex left them there. dammit.
 
solitude said:
My chief complaint for the evening:

Interviewers, who are on the admissions committee no less, that tell you "there's no way you won't get in", and then send you the thin envelope a few months later.
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who was this interviewer?
 
that was inappropriate of them...i'm so sorry. you're really an awesome candidate, and washu is a top md/phd program, so no worries.
 
pkr said:
that was inappropriate of them...i'm so sorry. you're really an awesome candidate, and washu is a top md/phd program, so no worries.
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Thank you for your compliments. I agree, WashU is amazing, and I may very well end up there. I hope everything is going well for you!
 
Try not to take it too hard solitude, I am sure that I am not the only one who would seriously consider torturing kittens if it meant that I could go to Wash U. I know that it's disappointing, but you're really not doing too bad so far. Although I would certainly support an attack directed at the people that said you would get in. I know that feeling. (I was once told, literally, that I would have to turn into an axe murderer not to be accepted at one school, and got a thin letter only a week later.)

meowkat... you might want to look at the perks of your credit card. The same thing happened to my SO last year ($400 video camera he ordered for his family because he wasn't going to be there for Christmas stolen off the porch) and because of some replacement clause on his credit card that I had never heard of, he got a new one for free. That's always a good thing.
 
magwi11 said:
Try not to take it too hard solitude, I am sure that I am not the only one who would seriously consider torturing kittens if it meant that I could go to Wash U. I know that it's disappointing, but you're really not doing too bad so far. Although I would certainly support an attack directed at the people that said you would get in. I know that feeling. (I was once told, literally, that I would have to turn into an axe murderer not to be accepted at one school, and got a thin letter only a week later.)

meowkat... you might want to look at the perks of your credit card. The same thing happened to my SO last year ($400 video camera he ordered for his family because he wasn't going to be there for Christmas stolen off the porch) and because of some replacement clause on his credit card that I had never heard of, he got a new one for free. That's always a good thing.
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Torture kittens 😱 I think I would give you my acceptance to save the poor critters from you. But I do appreciate your consolation. And the story about the axe murderer thing, that's just evil. Why do they do this to us? 🙁
 
solitude said:
My chief complaint for the evening:

Interviewers, who are on the admissions committee no less, that tell you "there's no way you won't get in", and then send you the thin envelope a few months later.
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Aaaaaah! Now I'm really scared about all the schools where I got similar feedback during my interviews. Are they all going to turn into rejections? I agree with you; why do they do this to us? It's cruel, like leading us down the garden path, only to turn around and...

Ok, deep breath, rant over.
 
Um, I am getting panicked that I won't even get an interview at Penn.

I actually LIKE philly! Shouldn't that count for something? lol
 
this thread is awesome - it's a little more than halfway and I think we're all just suffering from sheer exhaustion (amongst other feelings)

ah - hang in there everyone!
 
cornell, for sending me a rejection two months later than they said they did

and now sinai, for their reticence. make a decision, youve had since late july.

new york schools have been cold to me, save einstein and columbia
 
Dodo23 said:
Aaaaaah! Now I'm really scared about all the schools where I got similar feedback during my interviews. Are they all going to turn into rejections? I agree with you; why do they do this to us? It's cruel, like leading us down the garden path, only to turn around and...

Ok, deep breath, rant over.
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Ok, now I'm scared too. I have not been grilled once at an interview. Generally, the interviewers are very nice and complimentary and tell me they hope I will come to their school. AHHHHHH

What I'm most scared about though is an email I got last week from the director of a program. She basically said that though they don't have rolling admissions, she wanted to let me know that the committee was "very enthusiastic" about my application and went on to reassure me about deferrals for scholarships and supporting my PhD. I am canceling interviews now based on time constraints and feeling like I am very likely to get in to that school (which is one of my top choices). :scared::scared::scared:
 
j-weezy said:
ignore pickle's de-stress thread - mine is OBVIOUSLY superior (it contains the word whine)

actually, i'm just bitter pickles has the creative prowess to make threads that become so popular (i've seen pre-allo....)


people who don't understand that md/phd interviews are MORE exhausting than normal interviews - they suck (but only a little)
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Haha J :laugh:

I'll whine a little -

Yesterday I had to turn in 5 lab reports (this is MY fault, not the prof's), and I had two finals...AND a stomach virus!!!!

Here's a visual for you: :barf:

Today, I need to leave NOW to go to Case - but all I want to do is sleep! When I get back I have another final. When do I plan to study for this??

But what really makes me sad is that I TRULY bombed my UTSW interview so I will probably never have the honor of meeting you!!


(And about pre-allo: I'm addicted, it's a problem...I know!)
 
To all people who have gotten into any MSTP (to say nothing of the very top programs in the country): Count your blessings!

I have yet to get into /any/ MD/PhD program, MSTP or no. All that I have to my name so far is a Pitt MD-only acceptance. Even my state schools didn't want me. I feel like I am living in the Twilight Zone here. First, I get interviews at Penn/Harvard/Stanford, etc. and then it turns out I'm not even a good enough applicant to get into UMDNJ. Now I hear people grousing about "only" getting into WashU, Cornell, or wherever it is that has rolled out acceptances. Will Cher please come and slap me back into reality?

Also the weirdness doesn't end there: I interviewed at NYU the first week in SEPTEMBER and they still haven't gotten back to me...and certainly many have already heard aye or nay. I wrote to Rod Ulane to ask when I might get a decision over two weeks ago (I completely bombed one of my interviews there [it was my first med school interview so I guess I was nervous] so I figured it wouldn't injure me more than I already was) and I never got a response back. Just tell me to go scratch myself already...but at least give me the satisfaction of an actual /response/!!!
 
pennquaker08 said:
T Now I hear people grousing about "only" getting into WashU, Cornell, or wherever it is that has rolled out acceptances. Will Cher please come and slap me back into reality?
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I agree, it gets a little annoying when people complain that they got rejected from JHU and alike. I dont mean to be insulting, but its somewhat degrading to the rest of us when you have the assumption that you will get an acceptance to one of the premier and selective programs, even if told so by an interviewer, and are actually surprised when you are rejected. Please have some humility, and least in the forum.

Pennquaker - the NYU committee meets on Friday, as I was told on my interview last month, so perhaps an answer is forthcoming. Also, I can understand how discouraging the UMDNJ rejection was, but you have some sweet interviews, so cheer up, if only a little
 
Pennquaker and BoSoxMack -

I'm sorry if anything I've said came across as boastful or arrogant. That wasn't my intention at all, and I highly doubt anyone here intended their remarks to be read that way. This process is incredibly stressful for all of us, making it easy to lose perspective, and it does help to vent (thanks, j-weezy!). That said, I think I can speak for those of us with acceptances in saying that we are grateful for them. I vividly remember when my friends who were MD-only applicants were getting acceptances from top schools before I had an MSTP acceptance. Though I was happy for them, I did wonder (though only for a split second) if I should have just done the same thing and made things a lot easier on myself. I'm relieved that I can finally put that ghost to rest. So I can sympathize with what you must be going through. Anyway, best of luck to both of you; I'm really very sorry about UMDNJ, Pennquaker, and I'm sure it's only a matter of time before things work out for you. Hopefully we will all end up at places that are a good fit for us.

Cheers,

Dodo

MTA: And I can understand how disappointed some people here have been when they got positive feedback in an interview only to be rejected later; I think it is not unreasonable to feel that way. I guess the lesson in this for all of us MD-PhD/MSTP applicants is to take anything we hear in an interview setting with a healthy amount of skepticism, at least until we officially hear back from the schools in question, and not to set our hearts on any one school in particular, given the nature of the admissions process. This was advice that I received at the start of this whole process from my UG advisors and, given people's experiences off late, I'm especially inclined to take it seriously.
 
I'm would like to say a few words in defense of solitude and then I will say no more about it as I don't want our lovely forum to turn into pre-allo where all they do is make fun of each other. I think solitude has the right to be upset at the moment. JHU was his dream school. I think all of us would be heartbroken to be rejected post-interview by our dream school regardless of how many acceptances we had. I don't think he assumed he would get in, but was given encouragement by the interviewers. Right now if he wants to be pissed because he didn't get in to JHU, who are we to say he shouldn't be. I know I was a pathetic mess after loosing the Rhodes. And it wasn't because I thought I deserved it more or couldn't believe that they didn't pick me, it was because I wanted to go to Oxford so badly. Solitude wanted JHU and he didn't get it. If he wants to moan and complain for a few days he should be able to. I know I did even though in the back of my mind I still knew my other applications were going well. Let's be supportive of each other even if you think the other person is being silly. I'm sure he is grateful for his other acceptances, but sometimes it is hard to be grateful when the pain of rejection is so new.
 
BoSoxMack said:
I agree, it gets a little annoying when people complain that they got rejected from JHU and alike. I dont mean to be insulting, but its somewhat degrading to the rest of us when you have the assumption that you will get an acceptance to one of the premier and selective programs, even if told so by an interviewer, and are actually surprised when you are rejected. Please have some humility, and least in the forum.

Pennquaker - the NYU committee meets on Friday, as I was told on my interview last month, so perhaps an answer is forthcoming. Also, I can understand how discouraging the UMDNJ rejection was, but you have some sweet interviews, so cheer up, if only a little
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Thank you for your support BSM, I really appreciate it. And I of course wish you all the best in your quest!!!

And Dodo, I appreciate your words as well. I know that nobody means to come off as unbecomingly presumptuous, but certainly I have never lived through a process that has hit quite so close to home as wrangling a future for myself. I agree with OD that we ought to be supportive of one another. Indeed, I am proud of and truly happy for everybody who has beaten really scary odds and been accepted at all of the wonderful programs out there. At the same time, though, we should also bear in mind that what we say (or, as is often the case more important, how we say it) may be received by others in a far less comfortable position.
 
OncDoc19 said:
I'm would like to say a few words in defense of solitude and then I will say no more about it as I don't want our lovely forum to turn into pre-allo where all they do is make fun of each other. I think solitude has the right to be upset at the moment. JHU was his dream school. I think all of us would be heartbroken to be rejected post-interview by our dream school regardless of how many acceptances we had. I don't think he assumed he would get in, but was given encouragement by the interviewers. Right now if he wants to be pissed because he didn't get in to JHU, who are we to say he shouldn't be. I know I was a pathetic mess after loosing the Rhodes. And it wasn't because I thought I deserved it more or couldn't believe that they didn't pick me, it was because I wanted to go to Oxford so badly. Solitude wanted JHU and he didn't get it. If he wants to moan and complain for a few days he should be able to. I know I did even though in the back of my mind I still knew my other applications were going well. Let's be supportive of each other even if you think the other person is being silly. I'm sure he is grateful for his other acceptances, but sometimes it is hard to be grateful when the pain of rejection is so new.
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You said it all for me, OncDoc, and far better than I ever could. Hang in there, solitude!

And Pennquaker, thank you for being so understanding. I agree with you and OncDoc that we should all be supportive of each other, because I don't want this turning into the pre-allo forum either.

And now, I rest my case.
 
I don't hang around in the pre-allo forum...how bad is it over there?
 
I don't post very much over there, but it's pretty scary. :scared: If you ever have time to kill, you should pop over there for a bit just to see what it's like.
 
pennquaker08 said:
I don't hang around in the pre-allo forum...how bad is it over there?
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It's pretty bad. I remember one thread where a guy from California wanted to know how cold it needed to be before he would need a coat. So he asked something like "I have an interview at Yale next week. How cold outside is too cold to go without a coat?" People immediately jumped down his throat for saying he was interviewing at Yale. They though he was bragging and refused to answer his question. It's RIDICULOUS! The fact is that we are all applying for something very competitive (and I would argue that MSTP is more so) and that naturally leads to animosity. I think it's great that we have been able to be so supportive of one another even while competing for the same interviews and acceptances and I would love to see it remain that way especially as we get into the time for acceptances. That was my primary motivation for saying what I said earlier.
 
Dodo23 said:
I don't want this turning into the pre-allo forum either.
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Yikes!, this is the last thing I want. Also, I admit I myself have yet to feel the sting of a post-interview rejection, but likewise I have yet to feel the exhilaration of an acceptance. I apologize for any harsh feelings, I was simply venting/complaining/whining myself. Although I might have abused the spirit of the thread by venting about other peoples vents/complaints/whines.

Anyway, good luck to all, and to all a good night

PS - any amount of Christmas music will undoubtedly make you happier, even when typing a literature paper in spanish
 
BoSoxMack said:
Yikes!, this is the last thing I want. Also, I admit I myself have yet to feel the sting of a post-interview rejection, but likewise I have yet to feel the exhilaration of an acceptance. I apologize for any harsh feelings, I was simply venting/complaining/whining myself. Although I might have abused the spirit of the thread by venting about other peoples vents/complaints/whines.

Anyway, good luck to all, and to all a good night

PS - any amount of Christmas music will undoubtedly make you happier, even when typing a literature paper in spanish
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I'm glad we can all agree on this and I think as long as we keep in mind that we want this place to be supportive it will remain that way. I love the fact that we do have a place to vent in this thread, but as you said I think it's best that we try not to complain about others on the board. Like you and pennquaker, I am also without acceptances so I know what you are going through.

Good luck with your paper and I hope that we join the accepted club soon!
 
back to whining: not only does duke not love me, but when i forwarded the response i got to my parents for sympathy (yeah, i really shouldn't do that, i'm 24), they jumped all down my throat about how my tone was all wrong and how i shouldn't give them reasons for wanting to know such as having to pay for more interviews etc.

NOT helpful. my inquiry email was short and fine, i thought.

it was very sweet of you guys to make suggestions re: my packages 🙂 i'm still working on it. credit card won't cover it, though, cuz it was left in a semi-public place.

to add on the last few, i've always been very happy to have this forum because it is less ruled by petty jealousy etc. of course it's understandable... sometimes it's hard to hear about how well other people are doing without being reminded of our own positions. but i think we generally do a good job here of trying to put ourselves in the other person's shoes and sympathizing/congratulating appropriately. in summary: go us.

however, petty thought--at this point i've met some of you in person and certainly have gotten to know you through typing, and i'm unreasonably afraid you'll all think i'm dumb when i get rejections. stupid? yes.
 
I don't know about you guys, but I'm certainly awesome...I hold the only acceptance to Stewart University's MSTP - they only accept one unaccredited slot a year and I get to study in public libraries next to the beach. :laugh:
 
At least people already know about my situation...in many cases before even having met me in the flesh. What a load off my mind!
 
I am sorry if I offended anybody with my disappointment or my public comments thereof. Good luck to everybody.
 
don't worry about it solitude and richardlo--you're certainly allowed to be frustrated, and it was crappy for those interviewers to do that. let's keep this a place where we can whine freely 🙂
 
Wow this is the most activity I've seen on this forum in a while...

But yea, I like hanging here better than the pre-allo forum cause this place has a better atmosphere...those pre-allo people are ruthless... It would be a shame if this thread ruins it... 🙁
 
just to keep the mood slightly less somber:

Back in September I was invited for an interview to a school that shall remain nameless in the South. They gave me a 5-business day notice, so I scrambled to look for flights on expedia. The only flights that were still available were some $700 flights. I was shocked, but I proceeded to make a reservation (Tickets are generally non-refundable on expedia). Two hours later I received a phone call from that school and they cancelled my interview 😱

I called expedia immediately and lucky enough I was charged for 5 dollars only for the booking fee. I would have been upset if I had lost my $700.
 
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