Wasted five years. Should i quit ?

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Still stuck in 1st year. long story short i am a wreck and i am stuck .My real dream was to be an animator but my parents denied it so i chose the next thing i had a slight interest on and thats the worst decision of my life. I have been lying to them for the past five years i don't know what to do.
 
Confused but I don't think any school would let a student repeat 5 times?
 
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Jayvee123 said:
Still stuck in 1st year. long story short i am a wreck and i am stuck .My real dream was to be an animator but my parents denied it so i chose the next thing i had a slight interest on and thats the worst decision of my life. I have been lying to them for the past five years i don't know what to do.
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If money isn't an issue, and if you can reasonably get past the ire of your family, then yes it sounds like you should quit.
 
yes i am from india which is why the judgement for quitting is off the charts. which is why i thought i could force myself to finish it off somehow.
 
Jayvee123 said:
yes i am from india which is why the judgement for quitting is off the charts. which is why i thought i could force myself to finish it off somehow.
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So are you saying your primary concern is what your family and friends will think? You don't have any other concerns (e.g., financial)? I just want to make sure I understand you correctly.
 
bashwell said:
So are you saying your primary concern is what your family and friends will think? You don't have any other concerns (e.g., financial)? I just want to make sure I understand you correctly.
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Yes that is a primary concern and the fact that i lied to my parents all these years is just unforgivable even though i have stated twice i just can't have this as my career for which they turned a deaf ear. Finacially i am dependant on my parents still, which is embarrassing for a 24 year old. So the only actual important primary concerns are what my parents would think and i have to ask them for money.
 
Unless india is literally the opposite of the US, 5 tries to pass the first year means you are done. You won't be a doctor.

Yes, it's crappy to take money from your parents while lying. That sucks and you need to come clean

Yes it's embarrassing to be living off them at 24 with nothing to show for it. Put on your big boy britches and pay for yourself now

Talk to your parents. Confess. Apologize. Now. You are stealing from them dishonestly and it's not ok
 
Jayvee123 said:
Yes that is a primary concern and the fact that i lied to my parents all these years is just unforgivable even though i have stated twice i just can't have this as my career for which they turned a deaf ear. Finacially i am dependant on my parents still, which is embarrassing for a 24 year old. So the only actual important primary concerns are what my parents would think and i have to ask them for money.
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I don't know Indian culture, you would know how to better navigate it far more than I would as some random white dude on SDN, but one way or another it sounds like you need to come clean to your parents. Tell them you won't be continuing med school. Then find a job so you are making money. It doesn't have to be in animation initially, although that would be good. But any job. A job where you can start working, making money, so that your parents will see you are at least productive. In others words, you'll have to quit med school, but you need to find a job to replace it, both for yourself and your future, as well as to hopefully regain the good will of your parents.
 
Jayvee123 said:
Still stuck in 1st year. long story short i am a wreck and i am stuck .My real dream was to be an animator but my parents denied it so i chose the next thing i had a slight interest on and thats the worst decision of my life. I have been lying to them for the past five years i don't know what to do.
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Time to bail now before you get any more miserable and it wrecks your health.

Tell your parents that it's your life and you'll decide how to live it.

Get a job, any job, to save up money to then proceed with Plan B.
 
IslandStyle808 said:
I hope you are spiting coffee from your nose because you get the joke...
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No way you could know this -- I trained the 3 guys who took my last engineering project/job back to India and was laid off within a year later -- so yeah, I truly get that joke -- more than you will ever know....
 
JustPlainBill said:
No way you could know this -- I trained the 3 guys who took my last engineering project/job back to India and was laid off within a year later -- so yeah, I truly get that joke -- more than you will ever know....
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Looks like I opened a can of worms I shouldn't have... my apologies.
 
Call it a day bro. It's over. I love this and still think it blows most days. If you don't love it, it's going to blow every single day. Life is too short. Ain't nobody got time for that. No pithy comment. Above posters are much more witty.
 
You're more stoic than Zeno himself.
 
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