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I agree with their general point in regard to the particular comments I liked. Agreeing with someone and discussing things with them some of the time doesn't mean you want to agree with them and converse with them all of the time. Don't take differences in opinion (or likes, for that matter, which are fractions of a difference in opinion, if that) personally.

I will definitely take it personally when it someone is directly insulting me and you are liking it. I don't expect you to agree with me or enjoy conversing with me all the time, just to appreciate that enjoying reading and talking about current events does not make me insufferable. If I like something you say it has to do with how I feel about strictly the comment you are making.
 
But if you don't want me to be part of the conversation I don't need to be part of it
Before you turn probationary into banned (assuming you are not a troll, if you are then 10/10) I am going to try and giving you some actual advice. There seems to be a bit of an age gap in the conversation. The way you are responding to things feels like you are trying very hard to act mature and be a grown up, but it's evident through these responses that the way you are reading and interpreting things is not really the way they are intended and leads a lot of people to be like wtf or just take people by surprise which is why you are getting a lot of hints indicating that people aren't really sure where you are coming from. I believe this is because you are younger, and still have to gain a little bit of experience of the humor/ back and forth banter that takes place often times in conversations. In your trying to be more mature and "converse with intelligent people" you are missing some very important social cues. More importantly, being educated from reading books, doesn't mean you have the same social skills to match. What I am trying to say as nicely as possible is you need to work on your interactions with others and not take everything so personally or as an attack. I believe a lot of this will come with more experience and maturity in the coming years but in the mean time, I fear if you continue to post in the Medical Student Allopathic forum you are going to continue to receive a lot of "unecessary" flak and you may not understand why. I quote unecessary to highlight that you bring it upon yourself unecessarily, not because the people who are giving you the flack do so unwarranted.

I honestly think you would be better served posting on hSDN if you are in highschool or in the Pre-Allopathic forum if you are in college so that you can get a better handle of the social dynamic. A better idea may even be to just take a break from the computer all together and relax and have a drink with friends and just enjoy life, especially with summer upon you (if you are in college). Sometimes people become wound up very tightly and so concentrated on academic studies that they forget to live a little and relax so they can enjoy life the way its meant to be enjoyed. Go out enjoy the sun, joke around, be lighthearted. Have confidence in yourself.
 
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Before you turn probationary into banned (assuming you are not a troll, if you are then 10/10) I am going to try and giving you some actual advice. There seems to be a bit of an age gap in the conversation. The way you are respond to things feels like you are trying very hard to act mature and be a grown up, but it's evident through these responses that the way you are reading and interpreting things is not really the way they are intended and leads a lot of people to be like wtf or just take people by surprise which is why you are getting a lot of hints indicating that people aren't really sure where you are coming from. I believe this is because you are younger, and still have to gain a little bit of experience of the humor/ back and forth banter that takes place often times in conversations. In your trying to be more mature and converse with intelligent people you are missing some very important social cues. More importantly, being educated from reading books, doesn't mean you are have the same social skills to match. What I am trying to say as nicely as possible is you need to work on your interactions with others and not take everything so personally or as an attack. I believe a lot of this will come with more experience and maturity in the coming years but in the mean time, I fear if you continue to post in the Medical Student Allopathic forum you are going to continue to receive a lot of "unecessary" flak and you may not understand why. I quote unecessary to highlight that you bring it upon yourself unecessarily, not because the people who are giving you the flack do so unwarranted.

I honestly think you would be better served posting on hSDN if you are in highschool or in the Pre-Allopathic forum so that you can get a better handle of the social dynamic. A better idea may even be to just take a break from the computer all together and relax and have a drink with friends and just enjoy life, especially with summer upon you (if you are in college). Sometimes people become wound up very tightly and so concentrated on academic studies that they forget to live a little and relax so they can enjoy life the way its meant to be enjoyed. Go out enjoy the sun, joke around, be lighthearted. Have confidence in yourself.

You are misreading me. I am not in high school and I am probably older than you.
 
You are misreading me. I am not in high school and I am probably older than you.
I didnt specifically say that you were in high school, I implied either high-school or likely early 1st or 2nd year of college. I doubt you are older then me. I graduated college a couple of years ago. If you are, then I feel bad for you as that would mean your most social years (college) are behind you and there is suddenly a lot less hope for you.
 
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I didnt specifically say that you were in highschool, I implied either high-school or likely early 1st or 2nd year of college. I doubt you are older then me. I graduated college a couple of years ago. If you are, then I feel bad for you.

I don't appreciate your advice or your insulting me while telling me to have confidence. I would appreciate it if you would not. I have a great deal of life experience you could not possibly understand.
 
If someone calls me baby girl I will think they are a man and I will likely think they are making a pass at me
 
I don't appreciate your advice or your insulting me while telling me to have confidence. I would appreciate it if you would not. I have a great deal of life experience you could not possibly understand.
Thank goodness I do not understand crazy.
If someone calls me baby girl I will think they are a man and I will likely think they are making a pass at me
Who are you!? Lol. I give up on you. You deserve everything you receive from here on out. Don't say you were not warned.

edit: It also just occurred to me that I never even called you baby girl.... I can't even....

It's a shame because I was enjoying this thread so much. I had a list of all the things I was going to do once I had doctor monies. I already decided on Seychelles and some Loubs for the wife! @fancymylotus
 
Nah. He gets in the way of my shoe collecting occasionally but besides that, scotch car parts and red meat can't really send me into debt.

It's incredible how many shoes one can collect. My wife was out of town for work a few weeks ago, and, while procrastinating studying neuro, I decided to build a rather large shoe rack to display/organize her shoes. I counted the shoes in the closet, accounted for space for a few extra pairs, and built a nice shoe rack to accommodate what I thought was all of her shoes...She came home and was really excited, then proceeded to gather more shoes from places unknown...
 
It's incredible how many shoes one can collect. My wife was out of town for work a few weeks ago, and, while procrastinating studying neuro, I decided to build a rather large shoe rack to display/organize her shoes. I counted the shoes in the closet, accounted for space for a few extra pairs, and built a nice shoe rack to accommodate what I thought was all of her shoes...She came home and was really excited, then proceeded to gather more shoes from places unknown...

Pics of shoe rack or it didn't happen
 
If someone calls me baby girl I will think they are a man and I will likely think they are making a pass at me
Most people around here will use it as a motherly insult. The sorts of guys that call girls they don't know "baby girl" don't have great overlap with the SDN population. And there was also so much unintended hilarity with regard to your statemwnts at WZ and FML you almost owed me a new keyboard.

In any case, I think this whole thing got way out of hand for no good reason. Let's get back on topic.
 
I was mainly just interested in what that guy or girl meant when they said their wife earned the jewelry I should have just asked what they meant
I meant being married to a successful physician that has to do things like take call, do some admin stuff at home after hours, stay late, miss school recitals, go to far away meetings for days at a time, all while keeping our family together, managing nannies, moving forward with her own professional career, etc. is challenging and warrants getting some nice jewelry and spa days if she wants them. We can certainly afford it.
My wife is not a hooker that I have to pay with jewelry for sexual favors.
Are you really thinking that's what I meant? I thought it was a stupid joke, now I wonder if you have Aspergers?
 
Give and take in your relationship has nothing to do with whether or not you are married
You can have a good give and take relationship without being married but you can't have a good marriage without give and take. The legal aspects of a marriage just make it a little bit harder to simply walk away so in theory it makes people work harder at it, but in reality it probably just means that both people were as into being committed to working at it so some non legal ceremony would do the trick too.
 
It's incredible how many shoes one can collect. My wife was out of town for work a few weeks ago, and, while procrastinating studying neuro, I decided to build a rather large shoe rack to display/organize her shoes. I counted the shoes in the closet, accounted for space for a few extra pairs, and built a nice shoe rack to accommodate what I thought was all of her shoes...She came home and was really excited, then proceeded to gather more shoes from places unknown...


I have somewhere around 150 pairs. BUT. With fancy shooz, I can make my spandex yoga pants look like dress up clothes so they're a good investment.
 
If someone calls me baby girl I will think they are a man and I will likely think they are making a pass at me

Not sure if serious...

...Have you ever actually been hit on?

Like, asked out on a real date, not schmucked on by some dbag who has no real interest in you. (Huge difference.)
 
I meant being married to a successful physician that has to do things like take call, do some admin stuff at home after hours, stay late, miss school recitals, go to far away meetings for days at a time, all while keeping our family together, managing nannies, moving forward with her own professional career, etc. is challenging and warrants getting some nice jewelry and spa days if she wants them. We can certainly afford it.
My wife is not a hooker that I have to pay with jewelry for sexual favors.
Are you really thinking that's what I meant? I thought it was a stupid joke, now I wonder if you have Aspergers?

I didn't think it was likely that is what you meant. I just have kind of a dark sense of humor. That's nice that you buy your wife jewelry but it's great if you just get her gifts because you love her. I don't particularly agree with getting someone gifts as consolation or because they deserve it.

You can have a good give and take relationship without being married but you can't have a good marriage without give and take. The legal aspects of a marriage just make it a little bit harder to simply walk away so in theory it makes people work harder at it, but in reality it probably just means that both people were as into being committed to working at it so some non legal ceremony would do the trick too.

Yeah I just think if you love someone you wouldn't walk away so there is no need for paper. I'd want the partnership to be consensual and not based on a legal agreement.
 
Not sure if serious...

...Have you ever actually been hit on?

Like, asked out on a real date, not schmucked on by some dbag who has no real interest in you. (Huge difference.)

This is so insulting that I am not giving the question decency. But if someone calls me baby girl I will think that they are both schmucking on me and a dbag and a man.
 
Not sure if serious...

...Have you ever actually been hit on?

Like, asked out on a real date, not schmucked on by some dbag who has no real interest in you. (Huge difference.)

Please don't direct anymore questions at me because I do not have interest in engaging with you further
 
Pics of shoe rack or it didn't happen

There's a reason why I don't give my last name to psych patients; that reason is the same reason why I will not show you a picture of my house (inside or out). Beyond the conversation with the crazy people, I want them to know as little about me as possible. Because they're crazy.
 
I didn't think it was likely that is what you meant. I just have kind of a dark sense of humor. That's nice that you buy your wife jewelry but it's great if you just get her gifts because you love her. I don't particularly agree with getting someone gifts as consolation or because they deserve it.

The circle of understanding: you are not inside of it.

Or: TROLL OF THE WEEK AWARD.
 
There's a reason why I don't give my last name to psych patients; that reason is the same reason why I will not show you a picture of my house (inside or out). Beyond the conversation with the crazy people, I want them to know as little about me as possible. Because they're crazy.

Who is crazy me or guy who thinks I care about what his house looks like
 
I think i have under 25 pairs. 3 of which are the only ones in regular use (2 pairs clogs and a pair of athletic shoes)

I probably have 15-20 pairs of shoes. My favorites are my ballet flats, my Minnetonka moccasins, my chuck taylors, my running sneakers, my rainbow sandals, my ugg boots, and my Sam Edelman sandals. Oh and I have these patent leather and metallic ankle strap flats which are the best.
 
I didn't think it was likely that is what you meant. I just have kind of a dark sense of humor. That's nice that you buy your wife jewelry but it's great if you just get her gifts because you love her. I don't particularly agree with getting someone gifts as consolation or because they deserve it.

Yeah I just think if you love someone you wouldn't walk away so there is no need for paper. I'd want the partnership to be consensual and not based on a legal agreement.

I agree and disagree with the first bold. If I deserve a gift, you better believe I want my gift, However, gifts I dont deserve are nice too (and always welcome)

Second bold: Are you implying that just because its a legal agreement the partnership is no longer consensual? Additionally, there also exist religious ceremonies where it is not a matter of legality but you are securing your partnership forever in the eyes of god. Lastly, there are many financial and logistical reasons why a legal marriage makes sense. Taxes and international customs sheets to name an easy couple.
 
I agree and disagree with the first bold. If I deserve a gift, you better believe I want my gift, However, gifts I dont deserve are nice too (and always welcome)

Second bold: Are you implying that just because its a legal agreement the partnership is no longer consensual? Additionally, there also exist religious ceremonies where it is not a matter of legality but you are securing your partnership forever in the eyes of god. Lastly, there are many financial and logistical reasons why a legal marriage makes sense. Taxes and international customs sheets to name an easy couple.

Sort of.
 
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The person who asks to see a picture of someone's house, then turns around and says I don't want to see a picture of your house.

I thought pics of or it didn't happen was something I'd seen around the threads people saying that I thought was normal to say. I was interested in what the shoe rack looks like, not the inside of his house. It seemed like a very touching thing to do and artistic.
 
Sort of. I want to wake up every day and decide to be with my man every day. And be with him for that reason and that reason alone. Simply because I want to. And I want the same of him.
And a marriage stops this from being the case how?
 
Sort of. I want to wake up every day and decide to be with my man every day. And be with him for that reason and that reason alone. Simply because I want to. And I want the same of him.

I haven't actually had a girlfriend, but based on my deep knowledge gained from sitcoms and japanese comics, I can assure you a woman cannot make up her mind from one day to the next.
 
I thought pics of or it didn't happen was something I'd seen around the threads people saying that I thought was normal to say. I was interested in what the shoe rack looks like, not the inside of his house. It seemed like a very touching thing to do and artistic.
Then say that as your defense, don't back track and be all like " I didn't want to see your house anyway, what are you talking about!?"

(paraphrased quotes secondary to laziness)
 
Then say that as your defense, don't back track and be all like, I didn't want to see your house anyway, what are you talking about!?

I think I asked you to stop giving me advice. Given how you misread me it wouldn't make very much sense for me to take your advice.
 
It's incredible how many shoes one can collect. My wife was out of town for work a few weeks ago, and, while procrastinating studying neuro, I decided to build a rather large shoe rack to display/organize her shoes. I counted the shoes in the closet, accounted for space for a few extra pairs, and built a nice shoe rack to accommodate what I thought was all of her shoes...She came home and was really excited, then proceeded to gather more shoes from places unknown...

I think you meant "I built an entire new rack bigger than the one I just made for the pairs yet to be bought"

I have somewhere around 150 pairs. BUT. With fancy shooz, I can make my spandex yoga pants look like dress up clothes so they're a good investment.

Holy Balls. I'm going to marry a girl like you so I'll always have leverage when I want to expand my collection of military surplus rifles 😉
 
I think you meant "I built an entire new rack bigger than the one I just made for the pairs yet to be bought"



Holy Balls. I'm going to marry a girl like you so I'll always have leverage when I want to expand my collection of military surplus rifles 😉

Did you already talk about the rifles. Because I never thought I'd say this, but can you please go into detail about your rifles? I don't need pics.
 
I think i have under 25 pairs. 3 of which are the only ones in regular use (2 pairs clogs and a pair of athletic shoes)
I probably have 15 pairs, most worn in general are my sneakers and this one pair of sandals that I really should replace because they're so old...and then during the winter I cycle through my 3 pairs of boots. I think I walk around too much to be concerned with fancy shoes most of the time. Though I do admire those who can somehow do it without breaking their ankles 😀
 
Second bold: Are you implying that just because its a legal agreement the partnership is no longer consensual? Additionally, there also exist religious ceremonies where it is not a matter of legality but you are securing your partnership forever in the eyes of god. Lastly, there are many financial and logistical reasons why a legal marriage makes sense. Taxes and international customs sheets to name an easy couple.
I can see how some people would think that by making it "legal" you take away that voluntarily staying together each day thing. I don't agree with that but i think if someone is happy with the way their relationship plays out then it isn't any big deal. But for them to then say things about people who did choose to get married is ridiculous.
 
I can see how some people would think that by making it "legal" you take away that voluntarily staying together each day thing. I don't agree with that but i think if someone is happy with the way their relationship plays out then it isn't any big deal. But for them to then say things about people who did choose to get married is ridiculous.
That's where I take issue as well. If someone doesn't want to get married, cool. What do I care. But don't judge me about it if I choose to. Saying you don't believe in marriage is much different (and offensive) then saying personally I don't want to get married, or feel the need to.
 
I probably have 15 pairs, most worn in general are my sneakers and this one pair of sandals that I really should replace because they're so old...and then during the winter I cycle through my 3 pairs of boots. I think I walk around too much to be concerned with fancy shoes most of the time. Though I do admire those who can somehow do it without breaking their ankles 😀
That reminds me. I used to have this one pair of sandals that were perfect. Didn't hurt my feet even if i walked around a lot, were cute enough for a dress but casual enough not to look weird with shorts (some people can pull off the shorts with nice shoes thing but i can't), and were easy to put on and take off so were good at the beach. I worn them all the damn time and then they broke. I actually tried to keep wearing them broken but then they completely fell apart. I wish i knew when i bought them that i would love them because I think they were only 6 bucks at one of those doscount shoe places in downtown LA so I could have bought like 10 pairs and just cycled through them over the years.
 
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That reminds me. I used to have this one pair of sandals that were perfect. Didn't hurt my feet even if i walked around a lot, were cute enough for a dress but casual enough not to look weird with shorts (some people can pull off the shorts with nice shoes thing but i can't), and were easy to put on and take off so were good at the beach. I worn them all the damn time and then they broke. I actually tried to keep wearing them broken but then they completely fell apart. I wish i knew when i bought them that i would love them because I think they were only 6 bucks at one of those doscount shoe places in downtown LA so I could have bought like 10 pairs and just cycled through them over the years.
This sounds exactly like my favorite pair. They haven't broken yet but I have a feeling it will happen soon. I got them at Target way back, but of course they don't sell them anymore 🙁
 
I thought pics of or it didn't happen was something I'd seen around the threads people saying that I thought was normal to say. I was interested in what the shoe rack looks like, not the inside of his house. It seemed like a very touching thing to do and artistic.
How has this person not gotten banned yet? Definitely provoking people:poke:
 
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