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doctors are crazy thats why
Imaginary?...spends hours and hours writing to his imaginary friends on the forums and his blog...
Imaginary?
Lady, we may be a lot of things, but imaginary isn't one of them. You might want to look up the definitions of "Virtual" and "Imaginary" and compare how they can be applied in this situation.
Imaginary?
Lady, we may be a lot of things, but imaginary isn't one of them. You might want to look up the definitions of "Virtual" and "Imaginary" and compare how they can be applied in this situation.
I am Mrs Panda Bear. I have been researching what my husband has been posting on the forums. I thought he had stopped when our son was 1 year old. I was saddened when I first saw he had over 4,000 posts way back then and now I am troubled by his blog and recent discovery of almost 10,000 posts on this network.
My husband's training has not been so difficult. The long hours I have spent at home alone are now filled with reading, painting, saber fencing, hiking, talking with friends, antique shopping, gardening, mowing my own lawn, shopping for groceries, paying the bills, managing our debt, laundry, keeping up with the children's activities, advocating for my children, bow and arrow target practice, renovating part of my basement with my own two hands, stripping and refinishing my kitchen cabinets, polishing stones and refereeing and playing with my children.
The most unpleasant thing I have had to cope with is the lack of connection to my spouse. He is tired and worn out from the hospital, has very little to say about his day, complains about how messy our house is, and then spends hours and hours writing to his imaginary friends on the forums and his blog. We had at one time 5 dogs and 4 children. Our house is messy, wild and chaotic.
So here I am writing to his imaginary friends on the forum; expressing my side of the story. If I had the choice to do it over again, I would never have encouraged him to attend medical school. It has changed him greatly. He was happier in our marriage when he didn't like his job so much. The career change was my sacrifice to give him professional satisfaction. I believed in traditional marriage. I believed he would always be stong and meet my emotional needs; he pursued me for years and wrote me many letters in order to win me over. Now that he has the ultimate professional satisfaction of being a high paying EM doctor, I am not as valuable. He has all the adoration he can ever need from the staff at the hospital, his happy patients, and his forum and blog groupies. If he chooses not to resolve a conflict there is little to no recourse I have. Such a pitty.
And you all have loved my husband's writing at my and my children's expense. I acknowledge he is a great writer. His blog is a great piece of work with over 1,000,000 pages. However there was a cost. Those words didn't just sudenly appear. It has taken many long hours to entertain you all. Time he should have been focusing on learning relationship skills, parenting skills, dog training and our family.
Mrs Panda Bear
Physicians who were members of an academic honor society in medical school had a lower divorce rate, although there was no difference in divorce rates according to class rank.
I feel really voyeuristic and deflated after reading this. I loved Mr. Panda Bear's blog; am I a cold cold person that my instinct is to defend Mr. Panda Bear here?
The ortho surg doctor that I worked with said that literally 60% of married couples while in his med school divorced. Another one told me that about half of his class divorced before the 3 yr. I can speak from experience. My ex-husbsand (who is a pharmacist) divorced me b/c he could not handle the hours when i was in pre-med!
This thread was first posted in 2001, came back in 2005, then again in 2009...and here we are- 2010.
I feel really voyeuristic and deflated after reading this. I loved Mr. Panda Bear's blog; am I a cold cold person that my instinct is to defend Mr. Panda Bear here?
Yes you are. Shame on the all of you for encouraging the forum/ blog addiction.
Medicine gave pandabear great professional satisfaction yet it cost him his family.
You can probably find panda bear on match.com....
former Mrs. Pandabear.
Yes you are. Shame on the all of you for encouraging the forum/ blog addiction.
Medicine gave pandabear great professional satisfaction yet it cost him his family.
You can probably find panda bear on match.com....
former Mrs. Pandabear.
Off topic, but what is the controversy behind the panda blogs? Someone care to explain please?
Yes you are. Shame on the all of you for encouraging the forum/ blog addiction.
Medicine gave pandabear great professional satisfaction yet it cost him his family.
You can probably find panda bear on match.com....
former Mrs. Pandabear.
Yes you are. Shame on the all of you for encouraging the forum/ blog addiction.
Medicine gave pandabear great professional satisfaction yet it cost him his family.
You can probably find panda bear on match.com....
former Mrs. Pandabear.
true love can withstand any storm...
seconded. just as a rainbow would never be without the first rain, true love gains strength in adversity.
seriously?seconded. Just as a rainbow would never be without the first rain, true love gains strength in adversity.
seriously?
Lol. TS, you've really started something here.
Lol. TS, you've really started something here.
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Join us. This is going to be a fantastic grassroots operation for SDN. WE ARE TIRED OF NEGATIVITY and WE ARE TAKING IT TO THE STREETS.
screw itive never been more serious about anything in my entire life.
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That's a great question, Drako. From personal experience (and the desire for it to be true!), physicians and med students I've talked to and know have a higher break-up/divorce rate when the spouse was not in a medical profession. Also, the physician couples we know show no signs of stoppin'. Each person understands the other's demands. I think physician divorces are prevalent because the spouse doesn't understand what the med student/resident/doc is going through. My husband an I hope to start together at MCO next fall, and that's the biggest reason for us going together.
I hope you come across some stats, though, I'd be interested to see them!