What to do?

[HopefulDent]

I have been a relationship ever since i was 16 in high school. My girlfriend and I have basically grown up together these last 5 years. We spent the first two years together, then attended separate undergraduate institutions 3 hours apart. We have been successful in maintaining our relationship thus far. We are both applying to different programs. I'm applying to dental and her to veterinary school. It has been one of my most difficult growing times. We love each other, but veterinary schools are limited. We have only a few options where we can both attend. The most promising school as a California resident would be western. Nonetheless, i have been offered the opportunity to interview at my dream school, UCSF. Although nothing is in stone, and no acceptances have been given, what would you do? Keep a long distance relationship for the sake of a more established school and save money? Attend the newer school and enrich the relationship? I have been struggling for longer than hell being in a long distance. My heart knows that my girl is right for me, while my logic says to pick my dream if it is made available. What to do?

 

[drumingboy]

Your most important goal in life is to ensure that your are happy before anyone else. Whenever one person in a relationship makes a big sacrifice for the other person, they end up blaming or resenting the other person if the choice doesn't end up being satisfying. Having been in a similar experience when it came to undergrad, it is best if you follow your dream. On top of that, if you know that this is the girl for you and you both have been making long distance work thus far, then what does 4 more years matter to ensure that both of you get your dreams.

 

[flask2blast]

Follow your logic HopefulDent. If the girl is right for you like you've described then not only she'll understand but also support you. Don't ever turn down a great opportunity or a step closer to your dream school because of a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It might be all perfect between you two now (and I don't doubt it'll continue that way) but keep in mind circumstances and feelings change, especially when you're both still young. Good luck.

 

[UFRalo]

Wow. It's as if I wrote this post, except I am from Florida and my girlfriend and I go to the same school.

We have also had this discussion and have come to the conclusion that we need to do what is best for our careers. There is absolutely no reason why you should jeopardize you dream for your relationship. If you two are meant to be together, then it will work out. You also should realize that both of you will be going through some very demanding schooling and that it may not be in your best interest to be at the same school.

Personally, I know what it is like to have some resentment towards your partner. I did not want to go to the school I am at now and felt that I was forced to because of my relationship. I think it has all worked out in the end, but there were times when I was very unhappy with my decision. I realize now that you must do what is best for you and consider what you want before making a decision based on your relationship.

 

[HopefulDent]

Thanks for the advice guys, i really appreciate it. I have just been in a really deep slum thinking about these things. I will definitely consider what was told to me here.