When do guys in medicine start thinking about marriage?

[e30ftw]

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You have had sex with over 200 women, or you have had sex 200 times with the same one? If the former, I applaud you, if the latter, I feel sorry for you.

possibly the most pathetic thing i have ever read.

<- love my girl, take care of her, am faithful to her. It's called being a man.

i kill big mastadon, bring home carcass.

rest of you watch too much tv.

 

[514901]

possibly the most pathetic thing i have ever read.

<- love my girl, take care of her, am faithful to her. It's called being a man.



rest of you watch too much tv.

It's called being a tool, not a man

 

[Anastomoses]

It's called being a tool, not a man

I'd say any woman ever reading your thoughts would call you a trashbag. Hands down. Not an alpha, not a winner, not anything close. You're kinda ill.

Nobody wants to see those icky old men leering around trying to hit on younger women...are those the alphas? hahaha. I think somebody has their alphas and gammas confused.

 

[514901]

I'd say any woman ever reading your thoughts would call you a trashbag. Hands down. Not an alpha, not a winner, not anything close. You're kinda ill.

Nobody wants to see those icky old men leering around trying to hit on younger women...are those the alphas? hahaha. I think somebody has their alphas and gammas confused.

I think you're confused. I'm not talking about being alpha or beta or whatever and I am not talking about having sex with as many women as possible (though I will admit it's a goal of mine). Just because I find marriage outdated, obsolete, and worthless doesn't mean I am at the other spectrum. It simply means I prefer personal freedom and independence.

I mean, seriously, who the hell spends their 20s married? Your 20s should be all about yourself. Honestly. You'd need to have almost zero perspective or life interests outside of medicine to want to get married that young.

Also, I am in Australia so I am essentially living in a paradise...I live on the southernmost point of the Great Barrier Reef currently...so if you're living in Chicago or NYC or something like that I could see why you'd think marriage is a great achievement. I guess at the end of the day I just feel there is too much in life to experience, to live, to read, and to attain to ever settle down. That makes me mentally ill, though, right?

 

[KnuxNole]

I think you're confused. I'm not talking about being alpha or beta or whatever and I am not talking about having sex with as many women as possible (though I will admit it's a goal of mine). Just because I find marriage outdated, obsolete, and worthless doesn't mean I am at the other spectrum. It simply means I prefer personal freedom and independence.

I mean, seriously, who the hell spends their 20s married? Your 20s should be all about yourself. Honestly. You'd need to have almost zero perspective or life interests outside of medicine to want to get married that young.

Also, I am in Australia so I am essentially living in a paradise...I live on the southernmost point of the Great Barrier Reef currently...so if you're living in Chicago or NYC or something like that I could see why you'd think marriage is a great achievement. I guess at the end of the day I just feel there is too much in life to experience, to live, to read, and to attain to ever settle down. That makes me mentally ill, though, right?

Maybe it's a difference in culture, but in America, you will see tons and tons and tons of people in their 20s married. In some parts of the nation, they will think you are crazy(and make fun of you) if you are in your late 20s and still haven't tied the knot.

I STILL don't get why you are saying that you have to have zero life interests to get married. You do know that you can 100% do all your interests with a LTR and/or marriage right? Name one thing you can't do(other than random sex)? You can spend so much time living, reading, experiencing AND being married haha. It's not like being married = having no fun. If it is, you married the wrong person. After all, the married person should be someone you want to spend as much time with, since if its not, why the hell did you make the personal decision to marry them in the first place?

 

[514901]

Maybe it's a difference in culture, but in America, you will see tons and tons and tons of people in their 20s married. In some parts of the nation, they will think you are crazy if you are in your late 20s and still single.

I STILL don't get why you are saying that you have to have zero life interests to get married. You do know that you can 100% do all your interests with a LTR and/or marriage right? Name one thing you can't do(other than random sex)?

I think it's the whole Facebook phenomenon, to be honest. Many in their 20s do that here as well.

Well I enjoy the outdoors. When you're single you can drive out to the beach or go out at night and do whatever you want...when you get home you don't have to answer to anyone...you can go out to a restaurant and read...you can talk to local patrons and shoot the ****...none of these things you can really do if you're married. I can move anywhere whenever I want. You might say that someone in a marriage or LTR can do the same but you know as well as I do that it never works that way in reality. It simply doesn't.

Most married people are just fine but you can tell they aren't particularly ambitious---their goals are basically to have combined incomes, have a nuclear family, and send their kids to private school and owning a house with a white picket fenced. And that's cool.


Then there's other philosophical ****. We all know that evolutionarily, man is hard wired to have sex with as many women as he can and to increase his fitness. It's only because of the ills of Christianity that for the past 2,000 years we have tried to re-wire our mental circuits and the consequences have been disastrous.

 

[Anastomoses]

I think it's the whole Facebook phenomenon, to be honest. Many in their 20s do that here as well.

Then there's other philosophical ****. We all know that evolutionarily, man is hard wired to have sex with as many women as he can and to increase his fitness. It's only because of the ills of Christianity that for the past 2,000 years we have tried to re-wire our mental circuits and the consequences have been disastrous.

Bizarre. I know plenty of women who seem to be wired to have sex with as many men as they can too...but they are kind of...um, poorly wired. Or less desirably wired. Just like those men. At least from my perspective.

There are plenty of us who get nothing but the cheapest nauseating thrill from bumping and grinding against random individuals who hold no real value for us. That we'd rather engage with others who are high value and we adore. You're just not in that club and that's fine.

I wouldn't be against a national bank which would help the two promiscuous groups find one another more easily so we could all sort through you more easily. 🙂 Now that would be real advancement.

 

[514901]

Bizarre. I know plenty of women who seem to be wired to have sex with as many men as they can too...but they are kind of...um, poorly wired. Or less desirably wired. Just like those men. At least from my perspective.

There are plenty of us who get nothing but the cheapest nauseating thrill from bumping and grinding against random individuals who hold no real value for us. That we'd rather engage with others who are high value and we adore. You're just not in that club and that's fine.

I wouldn't be against a national bank which would help the two promiscuous groups find one another more easily so we could all sort through you more easily. 🙂 Now that would be real advancement.

Yeah, you're a conventional person. I can't even tell if you're male or female. You're bland. And you can't understand my viewpoint. It's not about having sex with random people. it's about having personal freedom and independence and the realization that marriage holds no benefit to anyone who desires those two quantities.

 

[Moose A Moose]

When you knock up a nurse and she keeps it.

Bahahaha !

 

[Wordead]

Yeah, you're a conventional person. I can't even tell if you're male or female. You're bland. And you can't understand my viewpoint. It's not about having sex with random people. it's about having personal freedom and independence and the realization that marriage holds no benefit to anyone who desires those two quantities.

No, actually, everyone understands you much better than you understand yourself. You're about having sex with random people. That's obvious. There's nothing about personal freedom and independence in anything you've said; just that you can't sleep with as many women in a marriage. Which is fine, you do you, but blaming this on personal freedoms is just a smokescreen.

And if you really think having sex 10 times with multiple people is better than 200 times with one person I don't even know what to say. I don't think you even like sex; you just like validation. Which is really sad.

 

[Anastomoses]

Yeah, you're a conventional person. I can't even tell if you're male or female. You're bland. And you can't understand my viewpoint. It's not about having sex with random people. it's about having personal freedom and independence and the realization that marriage holds no benefit to anyone who desires those two quantities.

Conventional? I think you made me laugh back into my throat. Because I'd rather rub one out than spread my legs and chance fluid exchange and awkward good byes with an irrelevant schmuck? Because I'd only be into someone whose winks and wordplay keep me thinking hours after they aren't around? I'm not really sure there's much hope for you.

Independence to grow and experience and travel and learn...aren't mitigated by an amazing partner, but rather enhanced. Certain people put the world in technicolor. Others make it gray. You have the weirdest bleak perspective on what it is to be partnered up. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't benefit anyone to partner up anyhow. Maybe you're at least good in bed or something and leave those nice ladies with a glow. Keep spreading the dream.

 

[fancymylotus]

Nah bro, that's how we do in India. Plus, Indian dudes aren't exactly what women want here in the US, so the whole arranged marriage thing is pretty much by best option to score a quality woman.

Yeah..in like India of the 1950's or something. My parents had an arranged marriage in India in the 70's....I wasnt aware this was still so widely done.

 

[Arkangeloid]

Yeah..in like India of the 1950's or something. My parents had an arranged marriage in India in the 70's....I wasnt aware this was still so widely done.

The majority of India is, economically and socially, stuck in the 1950s lol. Both of us come from the wealthy, westernized uppercrust, so we don't realize it.

Arranged marriage is still a thing, and will likely still be a thing for a very long time. Most people either favor it, or have no problem with it.

 

[fancymylotus]

The majority of India is, economically and socially, stuck in the 1950s lol. Both of us come from the wealthy, westernized uppercrust, so we don't realize it.

Arranged marriage is still a thing, and will likely still be a thing for a very long time. Most people either favor it, or have no problem with it.

My parents tried "introducing" me to some "nice Indian boys" awhile back. And by nice I mean pompous, alpha-male *******s.

Which is when I decided I would never date one again.

 

[IlDestriero]

My parents tried "introducing" me to some "nice Indian boys" awhile back. And by nice I mean pompous, alpha-male *******s.

Which is when I decided I would never date one again.

Though you wanted an intro to my wealthy single Indian friend...
😉

 

[fancymylotus]

Though you wanted an intro to my wealthy single Indian friend...
😉

Wait, he's single now? This changes things.

 

[514901]

No, actually, everyone understands you much better than you understand yourself. You're about having sex with random people. That's obvious. There's nothing about personal freedom and independence in anything you've said; just that you can't sleep with as many women in a marriage. Which is fine, you do you, but blaming this on personal freedoms is just a smokescreen.

And if you really think having sex 10 times with multiple people is better than 200 times with one person I don't even know what to say. I don't think you even like sex; you just like validation. Which is really sad.

I listed above other reasons why I prefer being single. I have a fair amount of friends who have recently married and not one is happy, yet they for some reason are always telling me I should do it---it's sick and I don't understand it. Plus as other people here have mentioned, you don't have to be married to have a kid and/or a partner.

I think most heterosexual enjoy the thrill of the chase every now and then--going out and meeting new women.

And definitely, sex with 200 hot women sounds far better sex 200 times with the same woman. No doubt about it.

 

[yehhhboiii]

I listed above other reasons why I prefer being single. I have a fair amount of friends who have recently married and not one is happy, yet they for some reason are always telling me I should do it---it's sick and I don't understand it. Plus as other people here have mentioned, you don't have to be married to have a kid and/or a partner.

I think most heterosexual enjoy the thrill of the chase every now and then--going out and meeting new women.

And definitely, sex with 200 hot women sounds far better sex 200 times with the same woman. No doubt about it.

until you start feeling a burning sensation when you pee

 

[514901]

until you start feeling a burning sensation when you pee

I lived on the Sunshine Coast for years (where Chlamydia supposedly runs rampant) and not once did I get an STD despite rolling out raw. This just doesn't happen in Australia. I'd be more worried about it if I lived in America though.

 

[fancymylotus]

I listed above other reasons why I prefer being single. I have a fair amount of friends who have recently married and not one is happy, yet they for some reason are always telling me I should do it---it's sick and I don't understand it. Plus as other people here have mentioned, you don't have to be married to have a kid and/or a partner.

I think most heterosexual enjoy the thrill of the chase every now and then--going out and meeting new women.

And definitely, sex with 200 hot women sounds far better sex 200 times with the same woman. No doubt about it.

at some point chasing gets 1)old 2)boring 3)tiring. and when everyone else is going home to someone, you'll be going home to an empty house. sounds like a lonely life to me.

 

[514901]

at some point chasing gets 1)old 2)boring 3)tiring. and when everyone else is going home to someone, you'll be going home to an empty house. sounds like a lonely life to me.

Until then I will keep enjoying my life. I'm early 30s and having the time of my life. My married friends on the other hand are all depressed and bored.

 

[Wordead]

I listed above other reasons why I prefer being single. I have a fair amount of friends who have recently married and not one is happy, yet they for some reason are always telling me I should do it---it's sick and I don't understand it. Plus as other people here have mentioned, you don't have to be married to have a kid and/or a partner.

I think most heterosexual enjoy the thrill of the chase every now and then--going out and meeting new women.

And definitely, sex with 200 hot women sounds far better sex 200 times with the same woman. No doubt about it.

That's not the comparison, herpderp. You said you'd rather have sex 10 times with different partners than 200 times (that's 20 times more since apparently it has to be spelled out for you) with one person.

 

[MedWonk]

Until then I will keep enjoying my life. I'm early 30s and having the time of my life. My married friends on the other hand are all depressed and bored.

The Australian spouse is depressing and boring. Marriage leaves it without ambition, libido or any joie de vivre. It has nothing to do with marrying someone it is not compatible with and it is simply unique to their species. True story.

I lived on the Sunshine Coast for years (where Chlamydia supposedly runs rampant) and not once did I get an STD despite rolling out raw. This just doesn't happen in Australia. I'd be more worried about it if I lived in America though.

The Australian is highly resistant to STDs. Several generations of sharing flora through the penal system has resulted in several beneficial epigenetic changes, notably the upregulation of the BMRNG gene. Conjugal relations between these wondrous creatures has evolved into a clean, free, and fun endeavor, and is often described as having notes of lime and vanilla with a hefty dose of eucalyptus yet balanced in acidity and body. They are highly sought after by those with most discerning of tastes. True story.

 

[PrideNeverDie]

My parents tried "introducing" me to some "nice Indian boys" awhile back. And by nice I mean pompous, alpha-male *******s.

Which is when I decided I would never date one again.

first time i've ever heard indian and alpha in the same sentence ROFL

 

[KnuxNole]

USA >>>>> Australia. Kangaroos and Koalas are the only good things about Aussie Land

inb4stuff

 

[e30ftw]

fantastic surf in OZ

 

[Arkangeloid]

My parents tried "introducing" me to some "nice Indian boys" awhile back. And by nice I mean pompous, alpha-male *******s.

Which is when I decided I would never date one again.

Alpha Indians?

Is such a thing even possible?

 

[JoeM]

Well I enjoy the outdoors. When you're single you can drive out to the beach or go out at night and do whatever you want...when you get home you don't have to answer to anyone...you can go out to a restaurant and read...you can talk to local patrons and shoot the ****...none of these things you can really do if you're married. I can move anywhere whenever I want.

Umm...I do all of these things.

All I can say is if your married friends are unhappy, they have problems. Maybe they aren't with the right person, maybe they got married for the wrong reason, maybe something else.

I am very happy, because I am married to my best friend.

 

[touchpause13]

Umm...I do all of these things.

All I can say is if your married friends are unhappy, they have problems. Maybe they aren't with the right person, maybe they got married for the wrong reason, maybe something else.

I am very happy, because I am married to my best friend.

+1 👍

agreed

 

[fancymylotus]

Alpha Indians?

Is such a thing even possible?

Yuuuup

The ones whose mommies have been telling them that most girls aren't good enough for them so they will find them a nice girl. And that most women are also after their doctor money. Ugh. They're pretty common here in NYC.

 

[blindpass]

I want to get me a wife from a foreign country that is really good looking. But so far I cannot even buy them a ticket to come here.. There are some "allied health professionals" that are pretty hot. But you know how it is at those small hospitals. 1 or 2 hot women, most likely married, and everybody salivating over them. And a bunch of mediocre older women with inferiority complexes. It's much more practical to do import/export.

 

[tantacles]

Unless you are generically referring to the transient-appearing fellow in my user picture, I have to admit that I fail to see what you are referring to. It's just a random picture off Google and if there's a story behind it I have no idea what it is.

Regardless...I don't think that happiness in marriage will necessarily disappear when one is finally able to enjoy some of the finer things in life, which is what you seem to have alluded to in your first post.

Unless, of course, it was a simply reference to some joke/back story/whatever in which my picture seems to be implicated. In which case, you can disregard my rebuttal. 😉

What backstory? The guy in your picture has no teeth.

Also, I think you're taking this Internet thing way too seriously.

 

[KnuxNole]

Umm...I do all of these things.

All I can say is if your married friends are unhappy, they have problems. Maybe they aren't with the right person, maybe they got married for the wrong reason, maybe something else.

I am very happy, because I am married to my best friend.

THIS.

When you get married or enter a LTR, it's with *gasp* someone you really love. If you don't wanna hang out with your spouse, or think it's horrid, why the hell did you even bother getting into a relationship. With certain couples, a lot of their friends are mutual.

I could never see myself getting into a relationship with someone I couldn't hang out with or spend a lot of time doing activities with. After all, it's someone I want to share love and time with, and that is, like JoeM mentioned, a "best friend". I like to go out for drinks, watch sports and play video games with friends. I also like to have a few drinks and snuggle with a guy and play videogames too. Which is a segway to other fun times 😀

 

[yehhhboiii]

THIS.

When you get married or enter a LTR, it's with *gasp* someone you really love. If you don't wanna hang out with your spouse, or think it's horrid, why the hell did you even bother getting into a relationship. With certain couples, a lot of their friends are mutual.

I could never see myself getting into a relationship with someone I couldn't hang out with or spend a lot of time doing activities with. After all, it's someone I want to share love and time with, and that is, like JoeM mentioned, a "best friend". I like to go out for drinks, watch sports and play video games with friends. I also like to have a few drinks and snuggle with a guy and play videogames too. Which is a segway to other fun times 😀

ASL?

btw maybe you meant segue. a segway is that dorky looking vehicle

 

[KnuxNole]

ASL?

btw maybe you meant segue. a segway is that dorky looking vehicle

yeah that's what I meant 😳

 

[eefen]

What backstory? The guy in your picture has no teeth.

Also, I think you're taking this Internet thing way too seriously.

A distinct possibility. 😎 I guess I misinterpreted what you were saying.

Umm...I do all of these things.

All I can say is if your married friends are unhappy, they have problems. Maybe they aren't with the right person, maybe they got married for the wrong reason, maybe something else.

I am very happy, because I am married to my best friend.

+1

 

[fancymylotus]

ASL?

btw maybe you meant segue. a segway is that dorky looking vehicle

I want a Segway. Or a Vespa. Pink. 😀

 

[IlDestriero]

I want a Segway. Or a Vespa. Pink. 😀

Segway Polo FTW!

 

[514901]

That's not the comparison, herpderp. You said you'd rather have sex 10 times with different partners than 200 times (that's 20 times more since apparently it has to be spelled out for you) with one person.

And I would. Sex with the same person consistently sucks.

 

[514901]

USA >>>>> Australia. Kangaroos and Koalas are the only good things about Aussie Land

inb4stuff

How about cassowaries and wombats? Those guys are cool.

 

[fancymylotus]

And I would. Sex with the same person consistently sucks.

Not true.

 

[fancymylotus]

Also Australians are an interesting bunch of people. I met a lot of them in Bali last month. Totally hot, totally weird. JS.

 

[514901]

Not true.

Yeah I guess the divorce rate is over 60% and incidence of cheating is at its highest because men love being with the same woman forever and no one else.

 

[fancymylotus]

Yeah I guess the divorce rate is over 60% and incidence of cheating is at its highest because men love being with the same woman forever and no one else.

Do whatever works for you, I guess. I'm more of the serial monogamist type.

 

[Anastomoses]

Also Australians are an interesting bunch of people. I met a lot of them in Bali last month. Totally hot, totally weird. JS.

When I was in Bali, it was mostly Australians and the guys came off more like rapists. You couldn't even dance near them.

Segway Polo FTW!

This is so much better on a horse.

Yeah I guess the divorce rate is over 60% and incidence of cheating is at its highest because men love being with the same woman forever and no one else.

Studies consistently indicate men are happier in marriage than when single. Ironically showing women being less happy post marriage.

 

[scorm]

Honestly I just feel sorry for you. What a lonely life you must lead.

You guys are taking this way too personal. It's not like the guy is 60 years old and still going to clubs, banging random 19 year olds (though I wouldn't be against it). At this time in his 20's, he chooses not to settle down and would rather pump and dump; there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[Wordead]

You guys are taking this way too personal. It's not like the guy is 60 years old and still going to clubs, banging random 19 year olds (though I wouldn't be against it). At this time in his 20's, he chooses not to settle down and would rather pump and dump; there's nothing wrong with that.

Well, he's in his 30s, not that it makes a huge difference. And there's a difference between wanting to bang 20 year olds (****, I still want to do that in every relationship I've had) and saying

1. I can't have sex with anyone more than once or I get bored, and
2. There is no benefit to being with one person long term.

The latter is just some autism spectrum ish.

 

[touchpause13]

Well, he's in his 30s, not that it makes a huge difference. And there's a difference between wanting to bang 20 year olds (****, I still want to do that in every relationship I've had) and saying

1. I can't have sex with anyone more than once or I get bored, and
2. There is no benefit to being with one person long term.

The latter is just some autism spectrum ish.

Truth.

 

[514901]

Well, he's in his 30s, not that it makes a huge difference. And there's a difference between wanting to bang 20 year olds (****, I still want to do that in every relationship I've had) and saying

1. I can't have sex with anyone more than once or I get bored, and
2. There is no benefit to being with one person long term.

The latter is just some autism spectrum ish.

Is that what you have concluded is the opposite of 'doesn't like monogamy/log term relationships'?

 

[Anastomoses]

Is that what you have concluded is the opposite of 'doesn't like monogamy/log term relationships'?

Pick 3 of your most disgusting offensive statements in just THIS thread...and try again. Talk about a person out of touch with reality.

Too bad the women you run into can't read your thoughts and values. You'd get really independent then.