I don't get why people think a sarcastic and apathetic attitude marks a veteran...it's almost as if some people aspire to become that kind of person to show everyone how experienced they are.
A veteran patient, or care provider?
'Cuz I've seen both, and they're both unpleasant when the attitude comes to the forefront, instead of just being present.
I think in the case of providers, part of the problem is how much fun it is in the Pit to chuckle at the wide-eyed niavete of the new people. "Aww son, the ED isn't like working on the wards upstairs; here we save lives... and we handle a lot of silly stuff." I've been the new kid, and I've been the quasi-grizzled veteran, so I'm not blameless, I'm just saying it's something we perpetuate even as we notice the downside. But there's more to it -- it doesn't have to be malignant.
In its benign form, the EM attitude is about expediency -- getting the resources to where they are most needed. The ED never has all the people to do all the stuff we'd love to do if we could, toward making patients comfortable. People are well-cared for medically, but we can't always do all the stuff that makes that apparent to patients from a... I hate using this term in this context...
customer service point of view.
Sure, the high school kid who's been an EMT for a week knows which end of the O2 mask to use, but she has no idea which patients are really in need of something her job class can help with, and which are just going to be time-sinks that keep her from helping the unit. A little detachment and clear-headedness is good; it shouldn't cross into actual apathy. I've chatted with patients about this and that, and discovered potentially important information the docs were happy to know, but I also learned how to extricate myself from a sweet old lady's room because other stuff has to get done.
The sarcasm part is related to dealing with the unpredictability; absurdity is far less threatening and easier to deal with than pure scary chaos. Patients love to ask complex medical questions of people who can only say "I don't know, but I can ask the doctor." They suddenly remember pertinent history info an hour after your workup is underway. Families throw another handful of crazy into the whirling mass that already exists. Trying to handle everything, one at a time, in order, is a sure way to go nuts and/or accomplish nothing.
It's not that we have to be heartless; we simply have to understand the tools that heartless people would use, and apply similar principles to our noble and conscientious work. Because those tools are so much more effective, sometimes. Bottom line, we're giving people what they need, not what they want. And we're doing it without any of the control and predictability that we might want.