As I read your story I'm thinking "you already moved OUT OF THE COUNTRY for medical school..why is this guy now so tied to a certain geographical area inside the US???" I truly lament your situation, but I think you need to take a step back and regroup here. I think if I moved my family outside the US to pursue my career and then gave up when it got difficult..that's when my wife would think I'm a loser. !
Gosh Napolean, girls love a guy with skills - bo staff skills, numchuck skills, - the CIA already offered me a job because of my secret bo-staff skills.
I think my wife decided I was a loser when I filled my daughter's birthday pinata with dogfood (dog biscuits) as a joke instead of candy.
I tried to go into the scramble with the attitude I did not care, and that I would not take a position outside of our geographical area - but within an hour I was emailing every specialty within reason (think psyche, not ENT) in every location - including Puerto Rico and ports even more foreign and 3rd world (such as West Virginia). I really don't want to do psyche (it may be the only rotation I did not like) but I was contacting psyche residencies everywhere. Like I said I got a couple of calls from Franklin FP in Maryland, and the surprise call from Mayo but that was it. I think it just seems evident that if I cannot scramble to a FP position in the Dakotas or WV, its not likely I am going to get in anywhere ...and when do you say when.
But for years my family of 5, my wife was pregnant with our youngest when I returned to school - lived in 900 square feet (including garage)- all my kids shared one bedroom. We now live in a house where the girls have their own bedrooms, and my sons share a room, pool and on the lake. They are pretty happy. Its an amazing house we were soooo lucky to get, thanks to great contacts at a lending institution. Do I want to move them to bumf**k New Jersey to live in an apartment for 3 more years (my oldest son graduates HS in 2 years- do I want all his years to be in some rappy living environment?)?
During the scramble we tried everything - I mean, even Puerto Rico - which can be great and exotic when you are single - but living anywhere but the USA gets old after a short while. Do you know on the island there was a KFC - and we ate there and I know, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt as someone who has taken many hours of biology and comparative anatomy that what they fed us in that KFC was not chicken. But during the scramble we applied to everything in all locations (except for a couple like Oklahoma - Oklamhoma now requires that every single rotation a FMG performs as a student are in ACGME approved hospitals - and 3 of my electives such as dermatology were not in ACGME hospitals so I could not get a temp license in Oklahoma). We tried everything in every location that would have me - so please do not feel I or my wife were not willing to relocate - even though now in retrospect it was probably a blessing to my family - I am not single and cannot just live for my dreams - I want my kids to have great teen years, they are such great kids - I finished school a year ago - so my son has been able to do last year and this year at a great US high school and has a great many friends, done well in sports and exceeds in scholastics. He is a ton more than I was at his age.
I submitted 100 apps to match this year exactly, 39 in FP (the rest were in things like pedes, IM) - my wife tries to tell me its just because there are so many other good applicants this year - but (and I am not trolling for soothing words here, but honest replies) it just seems to me that ALL the residencies that have had an opportunity can't ALL be wrong. I can even see if I got overlooked in the match - okay maybe all 100 match programs might have just overlooked my good points, but by this time a great many more have had the chance to look my application over and it seems pretty obvious its a unanimous rejection - can they ALL be wrong. I don't think so.
I mean seriously, would you recommend I keep trying or be thankful what I have and not throw good money and time after bad?????
Maybe its all my previous arrests??? just kidding.