Well anyways here's some fun stats:
Every day across America, millions of students from middle school to medical school face similar ethical quandaries–and research indicates that most choose to cheat. In a recent survey conducted by Who's Who Among American High School Students, 80 percent of high-achieving high schoolers admitted to having cheated at least once; half said they did not believe cheating was necessarily wrong–and 95 percent of the cheaters said they have never been caught. According to the Center for Academic Integrity at Duke University, three quarters of college students confess to cheating at least once. And a new U.S. News poll found 90 percent of college kids believe cheaters never pay the price.*
lol, so the OP should be pissed at 75% of all college students.
Most alarming to researchers is the pervasiveness of cheating among adolescents. What begins as penny-ante dishonesty in elementary school–stealing Pokémon cards or glancing at a neighbor's spelling test–snowballs into more serious cheating in middle and high school, as enrollments swell and students start moving from class to class, teacher to teacher. Professor Davis, who has gathered data on more than 17,000 students, notes that 50 years ago, only about 1 in 5 college students admitted to having cheated in high school. Today, a range of studies shows that figure has exploded, to anywhere from three quarters of students to an astonishing 98 percent.
This is from:
http://www.usnews.com/usnews/edu/college/articles/brief/cocheata_brief.php
Anyway, no it's not ok to cheat, and we shouldn't be OK with people cheating. But if you're really naive enough to treat this on cheater like she's some crazy evil freak you're delusional, because tons of people cheat.
Sometimes it's not even really cheating to cheat. For example, if a professor recycles questions on finals year in and year out, and you have old tests to study from, it's virtually cheating because you already did the exact same questions (and depending on how lazy they are they might not even change the figures). That's apparently why some fratboys can have insanely high grades when they're not even studying that much lol. But technically this isn't cheating, unless you specifically knew those questions were going to be on the test, since you're just practicing.
That happened to me once actually (I'm not a frat boy), where I was studying for my econ 101 class, and I had already done all the previous tests the teacher had put online. But my own notes weren't perfect so I borrowed my friend's notes. She had taken the class the previous year, but didn't just have the older tests I had access to because she had friends who had taken it the year before, etc. So suddenly had more tests to practice on, and I did.
Then I walked into the final and realized that I had already done the entire test-well most questions had different #'s (but the same kind of question), but I do remember one question had the exact same #'s even. Anyways, I had no idea the teacher was going to reuse the exact same questions so it wouldn't have been cheating regardless, but more or less all the frat-boys, or even just groups of friends who take the same classes, would be able to use this to their advantage.
BTW, I already had excellent grades in that econ class (like 95's), and wasn't trying to cheat in the least-just practice doing econ problems. But I did end up with a 100 on the final which was kinda insane-made me wish that I was in a frat so I could do that on all my tests, lol.
My point, btw, is that there are things that aren't even technically cheating that are pretty much the same as cheating (actually, I'd venture that studying like that would be even more effective than cheating since you'd actually understand what you were doing, versus trying to just memorize answers). And that sort of thing never even gets cracked down on, because you can't really disqualify someone's grades just because they studied on questions that ended up being very similar to those on the exam (or even identical). Of course this will only happen if you have a lazy professor who doesn't write new tests anyway.