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While I was a TA last semester, I sent out an email to the class after a particularly difficult exam with a really low average that told a little about my origin story and the difficulties I had during freshman year. That email led to me being a kind of sounding board for tons of young college kids, many of whom will be applying to medical school. While I don’t necessarily mind the emails, I sometimes just don’t know what to tell them. One of the emails I recently got made me feel kind of bad about the advice I gave, which was essentially just “suck it up.”
The issue was with volunteering hours and this student’s difficulty getting to them. The problem is that he doesn’t have a car and his parents are controlling his budget to the point that he doesn’t even have enough money to get a bus pass. I told him that he should try getting a job as a scribe, there are always posting for them at our school, and then he will have a little bit of income coming in so he can afford to get around, plus he’ll have the added benefit of some clinical experience. He said that his parents won’t let him do that because they are (I think really he is) afraid it will interfere with his studies. That’s when I basically said suck it up and get it done. Find a way. And that’s just not very good advice.
In the past, I’ve always compared them to what I have going on now, with kids, a wife, a mortgage, 20 credits a semester, etc. and I was still able to fit around 500 hours of volunteering in. But I never compared them to my situation when I was their age. Afterwards, I thought about it more, and I compared it to my situation when I was first an undergrad, and I realized how truly horrible that advice was. The worst part is, this wasn’t the first person I gave this bad advice to. Our situations were a bit different, but the end results were very similar. In my place, I ended up having a sudden need for income during my freshman year that made it so I had to work more than full time while attending school. I barely held it together then, but if I would’ve tried to add a large amount of volunteering into the mix, I just wouldn’t have been able to do it.
So what should I say to students who, for one reason or another, can’t get the required volunteer hours? This particular student called it a “classist policy that caters to rich kids” and he’s not exactly wrong. So what are the middle class kids, the ones who won’t qualify for any economic hardship status, but also can’t afford a car to get around, supposed to do?
The issue was with volunteering hours and this student’s difficulty getting to them. The problem is that he doesn’t have a car and his parents are controlling his budget to the point that he doesn’t even have enough money to get a bus pass. I told him that he should try getting a job as a scribe, there are always posting for them at our school, and then he will have a little bit of income coming in so he can afford to get around, plus he’ll have the added benefit of some clinical experience. He said that his parents won’t let him do that because they are (I think really he is) afraid it will interfere with his studies. That’s when I basically said suck it up and get it done. Find a way. And that’s just not very good advice.
In the past, I’ve always compared them to what I have going on now, with kids, a wife, a mortgage, 20 credits a semester, etc. and I was still able to fit around 500 hours of volunteering in. But I never compared them to my situation when I was their age. Afterwards, I thought about it more, and I compared it to my situation when I was first an undergrad, and I realized how truly horrible that advice was. The worst part is, this wasn’t the first person I gave this bad advice to. Our situations were a bit different, but the end results were very similar. In my place, I ended up having a sudden need for income during my freshman year that made it so I had to work more than full time while attending school. I barely held it together then, but if I would’ve tried to add a large amount of volunteering into the mix, I just wouldn’t have been able to do it.
So what should I say to students who, for one reason or another, can’t get the required volunteer hours? This particular student called it a “classist policy that caters to rich kids” and he’s not exactly wrong. So what are the middle class kids, the ones who won’t qualify for any economic hardship status, but also can’t afford a car to get around, supposed to do?