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[Bond]

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Hi and congragulations to all who got accepted

well i posted a thread month ago about UIC i just wanted some general information , no one replied so i asumed that no one has any info about this university and then after coupled of days i got 5 personal messeges about what my score,gpa were and when did i applied i replied to all of them and asked thoes people what there status was but no one bothered to reply. May be my score wasnt good enough for them to even reply and now suddenly i see so many people mentioing that they got a interview call or had a interview in UIC . Well it bothers me that u can PM some one and ask info but u dont want to share what u know. I know HENNA mentioned in a thread that no one is forced to share their status but i think it is the general curtisy that if u can ask a question then u can reply to one too.

I know i sound bitter and trust me i am, just makes me frustated that u can use this place to get all the info u want but r not willing to help anyone else.

i am glad that there r so many of u like meggs, sam , kajal ......... who r always willing to share any thing and everything Thanx guys and keep up the good work.

BOND

 

[Meggs]

Originally posted by Bond
...... Well it bothers me that u can PM some one and ask info but u dont want to share what u know. I know HENNA mentioned in a thread that no one is forced to share their status but i think it is the general curtisy that if u can ask a question then u can reply to one too.

I know i sound bitter and trust me i am, just makes me frustated that u can use this place to get all the info u want but r not willing to help anyone else.....

See how it feels??? I doesn't feel good at all!!!

Thanks Bond for your post, this proves that nalini and me are not only "purile" people around here, expecting everyone to chip in.

Oh Bond and remember there's always the Ignore option.

I wish I could help you!

 

[Henna]

Get off your high horse, meggs.
Yes, everyone should chip in that'll be great, but it doesnt mean that you should single people out when they don't submit to your ideas.

 

[Henna]

Originally posted by Bond

well i posted a thread month ago about UIC i just wanted some general information , no one replied so i asumed that no one has any info about this university and then after coupled of days i got 5 personal messeges about what my score,gpa were and when did i applied i replied to all of them and asked thoes people what there status was but no one bothered to reply.BOND

This was partly what I was referring to when I asked others not to ask for scores.

I know i sound bitter and trust me i am, just makes me frustated that u can use this place to get all the info u want but r not willing to help anyone else.

That was not my intention at all. I just want didn't people to force others into giving away info they were not comfortable with.
If someone right way asks only about your score you should get an idea about what their intention and motivation actually is.
This is a forum where info is shared. Everyone here is in a way or the other seeking support and that what I want it focused on.

 

[sam3]

Hi :

I faced the same thing when I applied to BU last October ,someone PMed me and started asking questions in a childesh way.She just wanted to have answers for her questions like someone giving me orders .


She was amoung the first candidates to be interviewd at BU.I guess this was in the bigining of October/2003 . When she knew that I only got 85 & I do not have part-2 like her ,she started looking down on me & did not respond to my PMs any more.

Believe me my friend these greedy people will give you a headache ,just forget about them .

 

[Henna]

Originally posted by sam3
Hi :

I faced the same thing when I applied to BU last October ,someone PMed me and started asking questions in a childesh way.She just wanted to have answers for her questions like someone giving me orders .


She was amoung the first candidates to be interviewd at BU.I guess this was in the bigining of October/2003 . When she knew that I only got 85 & I do noy have part-2 like her ,she started looking down on me & did not respond to my PMs any more.

Believe me my friend these greedy people will give you a headache ,just forget about them .

Case and point.

 

[Meggs]

Originally posted by Henna
Get off your high horse, meggs.
Yes, everyone should chip in that'll be great, but it doesnt mean that you should single people out when they don't submit to your ideas.

This was partly what I was referring to when I asked others not to ask for scores.

Why should they submit to yours???? Most people around here ask other for scores, so what's soooo wrong about the rest asking theirs???? If they're not comfortable with sharing such information, they shouldn't ask it in the first place.

And I sure didn't single them out in an offensive way (or at least I don't think so), you're the one getting sensitive around here, and saying "purile" to those that disagree with you.

That was not my intention at all. I just want didn't people to force others into giving away info they were not comfortable with......
......This is a forum where info is shared. Everyone here is in a way or the other seeking support and that what I want it focused on.

Henna you moderate this forum, you don't own it. The only person with the power to "ask to submit to their own ideas" and "want it X way" is Lee.

I have nothing else to say on this topic, my point is clear.
Good night.

 

[sam3]

Originally posted by Henna
Case and point.

 

[pinktooth]

Originally posted by Bond
Hi and congragulations to all who got accepted

well i posted a thread month ago about UIC i just wanted some general information , no one replied so i asumed that no one has any info about this university and then after coupled of days i got 5 personal messeges about what my score,gpa were and when did i applied i replied to all of them and asked thoes people what there status was but no one bothered to reply. May be my score wasnt good enough for them to even reply and now suddenly i see so many people mentioing that they got a interview call or had a interview in UIC . Well it bothers me that u can PM some one and ask info but u dont want to share what u know. I know HENNA mentioned in a thread that no one is forced to share their status but i think it is the general curtisy that if u can ask a question then u can reply to one too.

I know i sound bitter and trust me i am, just makes me frustated that u can use this place to get all the info u want but r not willing to help anyone else.

i am glad that there r so many of u like meggs, sam , kajal ......... who r always willing to share any thing and everything Thanx guys and keep up the good work.

BOND

Hi Bond,
Now that few people have 'admitted' that they have applied at UIC ,you can PM them or better ask them directly on the forum.
Maybe they'll come forward and share their experiences..

 

[Athene]

hi pinktooth....
well di......
this reminds me of a guy ...he whose name not to be taken.....you know who.......who wants us to send him encouraging words without him sharing anything......


b/wbond i am sorry for what happened to u............well this world is not perfect and all the people are not just......i believe in being true to my conscience and forget the rest...............


b/w.meggs no doubt ur one of the most helpful and friendly people in the forum...........keep it up...

 

[mrinalini]

Hi everyone,
Since my exam is on Monday, I havent been checking SDN regularly, but I see a disagreement coming up and a lot of people are irritated.

Let me first say that smitha30 who got accepted into UIC has already sent me her stats, via pm without me asking her. I have never spoken to her before and it was very very nice of her to do so. I will be adding her to the list today. So just bear with for a few hrs. I would have put up her stats here but I dont know whether I can do that without her permission, she sent them for the list and I will put it on that.

Now to Henna's point. I have full respect for Henna as a moderator and I know that on SDN moderators are people who respect democratic wishes. I have seen this on all the other forums as well, especially(Dr. Mom). She handles all such issues extremely smoothly and to the satisfaction of all members so I'm sure Henna will do the same.

Both Meggs and Sam are not complaining about people who are uncomfortable about sharing their stats. I think most of the people here in this forum are curious to know about other people stats, so they ask. But the problem meggs and sam have are with people who ask other people for information but refuse to share theirs own stats or interview experiences or any advice or reply to PMs. This is bad behaviour in any sense, so I fully agree with meggs and sam about their point.

No one here has ever badmouthed or penalised anyone who is uncomfortable about sharing their stats. I'm sure there are a few people like that and we all fully appreciate their feelings. If you dont want to share your stats, dont post it. I can take one eg. of tweety( I hope you dont mind tweety) who was uncomfortable initially about sharing her stats and she honeslty said so on the forum, and no one penalised her for that. Later on when she was comfortable she voluntarily shared her stats. No one is here to judge anyone based on their stats. We are all eager anxious dentists, who want to get on with our lives and any help from friends along the way will make our journey a bit lighter.


But what can we do about people who do not want to share their stats? We cannot change human nature and some people are like that but because of those few people we should not penalise everyone else on this forum. Most of us freely share our stats and experiences for the benefit of each other and we all gain immensely from this. Banning the practise of asking and sharing information is like cutting off your nose to spite your face.

Therefore I propose we handle this democratically and put up a poll about this issue. I'm sure then we will come to know what the majority on SDN want and we can put this issue to rest.So i'm putting up a poll, and everyone can voice their opinions through this poll. Then no one can be accused of imposing their own wishes on the rest of the forum members. I hope I have not offended anyone, that was not my intention.

Peace

Mrinalini

 

[sam3]

Thats it ,it is so simple :

Case : Selfish people

Point : forget about them


I did not point anyone at all .

 

[impression]

hi guys,
i strongly believe that when i person is asking for somebodyelses scores he should first offer to say his own scores, like my scores as such and such , then ask the other person to share there scores if they are willing.THATS THE MANNERS.oh... no ....in this world who cares manners......there is no point in discussing about the probable schools they can get in if they dont share there scores, as you know all the schools differ in there
approches as far as scores and gpa.it will help them if they tell the scores. BUT ITS ALL UP TO THEM , not only with scores,any personal or educational details. nobody can order them to say something, that too is not fair.......,but .....forum is for disussing things and get benifit to each other. those who are allready in dental school dont care much about scores.(they dont need to),but for people waiting to get into school it helps a lot
good luck to those who are trying to get in yhis last minutes in east coast schools and congrats to all those who are allready admitted
impression

 

[KAJALKIRAN]

wait..in the first case..why even ask anybody about their scores, admission, etc etc ? i just hate the idea of asking someone else's scores!! ive seen that it is common for people to first ask a stranger about his/her scores (shamelessly..) then compare their scores with the stranger's scores and then get depressed about the fact that they couldn't get accepted into a particular school though the person had similar scores! isn't this the saddest thing seen in this forum? well, yeah am not trying to say that i care a damn at other's scores...but if a person hasn't volunteered and listed his/her scores, admission etc then why even try??
yeah it sucks to get the feeling of being "cheated" when you have shared your personal info over pm and the person on the opposite side just dissappears, but that doesent mean you gotta feel bad about it....i mean you gave the person all the info at your own discretion right...?
so the basis of this in a summary is that....dont expect anything back...!! if you just wanna give out some info and are comfortable with it, go ahead and do it and dont expect back the same thing....; at the same time, if you are getting someone else's info at free-will acept it or reject it;
ps: not to mention, forget the scores, i even got a creepy pm way back, asking me how do i look etc etc....!

 

[Henna]

Originally posted by sam3

It?s case in point or case and point when some instance or example illustrates what is being discussed.

 

[mrinalini]

Hey Sam, that icon is really funny!!

 

[Meggs]

I found this very funny thread in the Lounge:

How many SDNers does it take to change a light bulb?
http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?s=&threadid=110232&perpage=20&pagenumber=1

I wonder how many International Dentists forum members will it take.....

 

[sam3]

sooooo coooool .

 

[31864]

One has to realize that there are people from different parts of the world in this discussion group. Questions which are quite ok to ask in other parts of the world without offending someone might not be acceptable in the US. It takes a while for some people to realize this expecially if they have limited contact with the people born and brought up in the US. I feel that if someone where to point out such etiquettes it should not be taken on a personal note. Rather it should be considered an advise. Having said this, I feel it might not quite happen so in most cases. What usually happens is person who posted the inappropriate question does not take criticism or being corrected well. That is where usually the friction starts. I think it is pointless to waste time trying to point out such inappropriate behaviour when dealing with such people. No good is going to come out of it. The best that can happen is someone who is more level headed enough to reason who would have thought that asking scores to strangers or people whom you met on the net will refrain from doing it in the future.

 

[pinktooth]

Originally posted by sam3


Thats it ,it is so simple :

Case : Selfish people

Point : forget about them


I did not point anyone at all .

Hi sam That dancing banana is soooooooooo cute..