Weighing in on the good parents vs. bad parents debate, I don't think my parents are
bad for making stay at home and pay for school. And goodness gracious, I relate to
@dechristine's story eerily well. At the time, 1) shelling out thousands would have made things rather uncomfortable for us and 2) my parents had a real culture clash with what college in the US is like vs. what they were used to. They were used to college being free and local. You lived at home, helped your family out, and maybe even got married. Their favourite quote is "
You don't go to college to have fun. You go to college to learn." Taking out
loans for me to go to some expensive school so I could make friends and study abroad and play inner-tube water polo and (hopefully) get an education was just not something they were used to.
I had poured my heart into my college apps, even netting Regents' scholarships at some of the UCs (gosh and I could have been a Triton with
@hoihaie ) but even scrounging up that 10K in living expenses would have put my family in a really difficult situation. They probably would have had to whip up an addition 10K in caretaker/babysitter fees for my sibling, so by staying at home and helping out I effectively saved them (10K+10K)*4= 80K. Most importantly, parents are under NO obligation to pay for college. NONE. My parents paid for my first semester and I am so so so grateful for that. My college experience wasn't "fun," but eh that's life. This is by no stretch of the imagination some terrible injustice. I just feel so frickin' lucky to have got a college education... and to have the opportunity to continue it.
Fortunately, things worked themselves out during college. Little Nutella no longer requires supervision, nonworking parent's health is stable, working parent's job is stable, and Hella Nutella learned a crap ton about "not-getting-what-you-want," etc. Things are peachy and (again) I got so damn lucky. I can't believe things have worked out this well. To quote Jurassic Park: "Life finds a way."
The icing on the cake is that now my parents are in such a situation that they can contribute to my med school education, effectively paying back some of the money I "saved" them. I won't be dodging the loan bullet, but very few do. Every little bit helps and while my parents and I may not see eye-to-eye on a number of issues, I'm grateful for their support and believe they truly do want the best for me... even if that means not donating every extra dollar towards my dreams/education.
/endstorytime
Sorry, this is like one of my defining experiences in life I have a tendency to ramble about it haha.
Are you the Class of 2019 Paul the Octopus?
I would ask for a prediction, but I don't think I can hold up my end of the bargain by posting a School X vs. School Y thread for everyone's entertainment. I love reading them too, but I don't think I'll post one. I can't put my finger on why exactly, but I'm just not that open with my decision-making.
EL PULPO PAUL. May he rest in cephalopod paradise.