I don't think you're being unreasonable. This attending is providing terrible post-op care, IMHO. Is he one of those guys who just runs the list with the chief every day in lieu of actually seeing his own patients?
Probably as he seems to know very little about what happened.
The story gets better...
1) my family member goes to see him today post-op; he doesn't have the path report because it isn't ready yet, but tells him the tumor is high grade clear cell and to "Google it" to read up on it;
2) apparently they haven't decided whether its T1 or T2 (the CT scan and his operative impression was that the lesion was 3.5 cm; a T2 is > 7 cm) but says "its academic" and that it doesn't matter. No its not *******; it upstages him to a Stage 2 and decreases the OS.
3) tells the family member that they will have the path in 3 days and will mail it to him; if they don't, "you should call us"; I am appalled and disgusted that he would mail a path report showing a malignancy and not review it with the patient, discuss staging and prognosis.
4) doesn't make another followup appointment to go over path when available but instead makes a F/U for 6 months;
5) complains about the pain medication that the residents gave him (
well, perhaps you should have been there to oversee these things);
6) tells us that he doesn't know anything about any difficulty the family member had with breathing in the hospital, the "air on the lungs" or the suggestion by the Chief resident to repeat a CXR in 2 weeks to see if it had resolved (
again, maybe if you were there)
7) and finally, doesn't examine him. He hasn't seen the incision since surgery.
My family member's wife is in tears and very frustrated. I cannot get anyone in the Dept of Surgery or Administration to tell me whether their surgeons are required to round on their patients. Looking for someone to take over his care.
Colleagues, please let this be a lesson to you:
we are not just technicians. We are supposed to provide peri-operative care to patients. We have a duty to do so and not just cut and run.