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These are indeed great stories to hear. However, just keep in mind that what CAN turn out to be a be benefit to many, can't and wont apply to everyone.
Some of us (myself actually...and I did match last year thank goodness) are probably a couple years older than than mean grad student and have a wife, a young family, and a MORTGAGE payment to think about (not to mention saving for retirement and college funds). Hanging around another year on 15k stipend, working for free, and putting off growing your family arent very pleasant options for people's lives...even if they do help your career a bit.
Totally agree.
I get that you're trying to point out the negative impact that psych training has on students' lives and attempting to empathize with it but I think your statements just add to the free-floating stress about not matching ("Oh man, it's awful, a real burden not to match.").
Keep in mind that many people's families (just like yours would have, most likely) will support someone who doesn't match, emotionally and probably financially to some degree. I have put off starting a family for a year and a half now due to not being sure what would happen with matching. It is ...annoying... but if waiting were truly a problem for me, I wouldn't have made the choice to put it off. I've got a husband and a mortgage. We're still paying the bills.
Lots of people who are unmatched get paying jobs, finish their dissertations, and sometimes get licensed at the masters level. It seems like having an adult "gap year" to pursue self-improvement before moving on. Have you ever heard someone who was unmatched say that the year they had was a waste of time or just awful, in hindsight? I never have. I think the vast majority of people make the best of it, even if it stings at first.
Well, then let me be the first. Not matching last year was terrible for me. I'm not going into all the details on this board, but it has been awful. My degree being up in the air until matching is a ridiculous circumstance. For some people, maybe not matching ended up being "better" but I suspect many choose to consider it as better because they desire a positive spin on something they couldn't control.
If someone participated in the match, it's because they WANTED to match. I haven't heard of anyone getting a bunch of interviews and deciding not to rank any sites because they wanted instead to "get licensed at the masters level, work on self improvement, get supported by their family, and put off starting their own family."
Why do you think their is so much outrage over the imbalance? If that year off and the uncertainty of matching was so great, people wouldn't be up in arms over the whole process. So let's be real, not matching is bad. Unfortunately, there is not a damned thing we can do about now, but try again. The world is not going to end, but I'm perfectly comfortable with saying not matching has been a horrible experience.