Hey all,
I know similar stories to this have been posted. Mine is slightly different, as I'm currently a first-year and there is potential for change. Please hear me out and let me know your thoughts.
Last year, I interviewed to work with my advisor. I advertised myself as doing 2 things in particular- a & b. They took me on the premise of a, but never expressed that they only had interests in me doing a.
Upon my arrival, I expressed that my interests have grown and I'm more interested in doing B. They seemed okay with this and we developed my projects on the basis of B, my role in the lab on the basis of b.
Over the course of the year, they started dropping subtle hints that they want me to do research in a. I actively express that my interests have changed, and that it's not something I'd like to continue dedicating my time to. My masters thesis on B, i'm research coordinating the project on B, and am planning my f31 on B.
Progressively, my meetings with my advisor have gotten completely hostile and inappropriate. They have actively told me on two occasions that they "wouldn't have taken me" in retrospect, among a variety of other comments (about my personal appearance, personality [i'm quiet, she called me "interpersonally ineffective", "obstinate"-- and has called other students "less bright", etc]). Other grad students in my lab have had serious issues as well- my advisor's made inappropriate comments about appearance, mental health, race, other students, etc. Faculty members (both within and outside of the dept) have had similar issues with my advisor and boundary issues, respect, etc.
At this point, I don't know how to handle the situation, my advisor's unrealistic expectations, idealized version of me, etc. I feel unwanted in the lab, and like my advisor resents having me here. It has been especially disheartening because I was very excited to come to this program.
One other student in the lab has spoke up about the way they've been treated, and it made them an active target and actively disliked/ talked about by my advisor, both openly, in personal meetings, and greater discussions with the lab. Our advisor now actively picks on this grad student and makes it completely transparent that they think this student is not competent/productive, etc.
At this point, there is one other advisor in the department I could see myself working with. The potential mentor is new, recently tenured, less research productive, THOUGH they carry out research on B.
What is everyone's advice on the situation? How would older students, people that have been through similar situations resolve it (in retrospect), and knowing how they've responded to other students who have brought up problems? Do you think I should switch advisors, stay, etc?
I know similar stories to this have been posted. Mine is slightly different, as I'm currently a first-year and there is potential for change. Please hear me out and let me know your thoughts.
Last year, I interviewed to work with my advisor. I advertised myself as doing 2 things in particular- a & b. They took me on the premise of a, but never expressed that they only had interests in me doing a.
Upon my arrival, I expressed that my interests have grown and I'm more interested in doing B. They seemed okay with this and we developed my projects on the basis of B, my role in the lab on the basis of b.
Over the course of the year, they started dropping subtle hints that they want me to do research in a. I actively express that my interests have changed, and that it's not something I'd like to continue dedicating my time to. My masters thesis on B, i'm research coordinating the project on B, and am planning my f31 on B.
Progressively, my meetings with my advisor have gotten completely hostile and inappropriate. They have actively told me on two occasions that they "wouldn't have taken me" in retrospect, among a variety of other comments (about my personal appearance, personality [i'm quiet, she called me "interpersonally ineffective", "obstinate"-- and has called other students "less bright", etc]). Other grad students in my lab have had serious issues as well- my advisor's made inappropriate comments about appearance, mental health, race, other students, etc. Faculty members (both within and outside of the dept) have had similar issues with my advisor and boundary issues, respect, etc.
At this point, I don't know how to handle the situation, my advisor's unrealistic expectations, idealized version of me, etc. I feel unwanted in the lab, and like my advisor resents having me here. It has been especially disheartening because I was very excited to come to this program.
One other student in the lab has spoke up about the way they've been treated, and it made them an active target and actively disliked/ talked about by my advisor, both openly, in personal meetings, and greater discussions with the lab. Our advisor now actively picks on this grad student and makes it completely transparent that they think this student is not competent/productive, etc.
At this point, there is one other advisor in the department I could see myself working with. The potential mentor is new, recently tenured, less research productive, THOUGH they carry out research on B.
What is everyone's advice on the situation? How would older students, people that have been through similar situations resolve it (in retrospect), and knowing how they've responded to other students who have brought up problems? Do you think I should switch advisors, stay, etc?