Accidentally sent inappropriate email to program

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You could be in the clear, or they could just be kind of speechless that someone did something so foolish and are trying to figure out what, if anything, to do about it. They are obliged to train you for 45 days. After that, as outlined repeated above they have pretty broad ability to make your life unpleasant, all the way up to and including starting you on probation for "professionalism issues" and then finding reason to let you go.
I imagine the process to circulate this letter among the program director, DIO, legal, and possibly OP’s current program leadership and then schedule a meeting to figure out what one does with this situation takes a bit longer than 48 hours.
 
Just withdraw, you clearly hate the program to go the length that you did. It’s amazing that you hate the program so much without even being there yet.
I have very personal reasons for not liking them. I never liked them from the start but like I said needed a job.
 
Alight guys I think we’ve more or less made the point that most of us would not have done what the OP did, but what’s done is done. Probably not worth continuing to kick them while they’re down.

OP do please let us know what comes of this, if anything
 
Having not read through the entire thread, the first thing that comes to mind is the wisdom of posting such a thing on SDN. Ask your friends.
 
Sadly, your response to this makes matters worse. I agree with others that a hacked email is a ridiculous explanation. When people hack your account, they don't do things like this. The right choice was to be honest with your program. Now you've demonstrated that you don't want to be there, and under pressure you decide to be less than truthful. The first is something that the program can work with. The second is not.
Perhaps it was a bitter/maniacal partner who has now turned into an ex-bitter/maniacal partner due to hacking OP's personal e-mail?

Might as well delve further into the soap opera/telenovela situation... The ex-partner was vengeful because OP had dinner with a beautiful woman from Belize. But! She's actually his mother--he was meeting her for the first time. She was married at age 18 to the love of her life, a humble llama farmer, but when the Yakuzi (or Soviets? Can't use Americans because that would be bad for ratings...) came to town they zealously attacked any townspeople who were left-handed. The OP's mother barely made it out with her life after crossing through rivers, gullies, and deserts, but not until after loosing the love of her life after he heroically sacrificed himself when a giant Iguana was ready to devour her for dinner. Through torrents of tears she made her way through the Darian Gap and up to the border, where at first Trump's border wall made her turn around. Then she felt sick--literally. Her doctor told her she was pregnant--twins! She delivered two healthy boys, but due to a cruel twist of fate she could only take one with her to the US for unexplained reasons (we'll find out in season 2!). She walked around the wall, where she raised son #1 with love and affection. Little did she know he would someday turn into the evil and murderous Lord Business (TM, Lego Group). She searched for her other long-lost son, knowing her was the Galaxy's only hope. By a sweet twist of fate, he had entered the US too! A caring single father migrant worker took pity on the poor newborn, found beside a burning bush (?sign from above?) and took him into the US--also walking around Trump's border wall. The father quickly became embittered because his canning business failed miserably, taking his anger out on his adopted son, who grew up with the love and compassion that always accompanies childhood trauma (like Snow White). His adopted son, who will call Affiche Originale (AO), grew up knowing he was destined to love and save all of mankind. So when he saw a beautiful and kind woman staring at him while eating at a generic outdoor cafe, he knew that she MUST be his real mother! She told him about his evil twin's plot to create the Death Star (TM, Disney), and that AO was their only hope--he only had to use the secret plans she stole to destroy it. But as AO set off on his mission, little did he know that his girlfriend, whom he thought so devoting and loving, was actually in love with his evil twin Lord Business! She sabotaged him, by hacking into his e-mail and telling his residency administration how much he hated the program, when he truly just wanted to save babies for the rest of his life. Because of the betrayal, the plans fell apart (literally--the Death Star plans disintegrated before his eyes) and the universe was doomed. AO lost his job as a baby-saving doctor, and Lord Business went on to rule the galaxy after he showed the world his prowess by destroying the moon. This had the unfortunate side effect of making surfing impossibly dangerous (shouldn't we have no waves without the Moon? Blast science and it's reasoning!). But who is that! Who is that handsome gentleman catching a slick 200ft wave, which such chiseled abs and a chiseled jaw? Why its.... (tune in for next season as Messiah, AO's step-brother, joins the fight for the galaxy...)

As others have said before, if this is accurate best thing to do is (was) just come clean about the incident. I'm not totally sure what the best path is after sending the follow-up "e-mail hacked" e-mail since as others said above, no one hacks into someone's e-mail to write something like that. Except pre-med gunners?
 
In good news, just found out I was one of the four nominees for intern of the year at my current program. Won't find out to April of I get it though. So contrary to what everyone thinks here I'm not a terrible resident or hard to work with
 
I imagine the process to circulate this letter among the program director, DIO, legal, and possibly OP’s current program leadership and then schedule a meeting to figure out what one does with this situation takes a bit longer than 48 hours.
I wondered if this was a possibility.
 
In good news, just found out I was one of the four nominees for intern of the year at my current program. Won't find out to April of I get it though. So contrary to what everyone thinks here I'm not a terrible resident or hard to work with
You matched in 2 different places? I’m still learning how the match works. I’m a little confused. I thought you could only match at a single institution? I was under the impression that residency hadn’t started for you yet but you’ve done an intern year?
 
You matched in 2 different places? I’m still learning how the match works. I’m a little confused. I thought you could only match at a single institution? I was under the impression that residency hadn’t started for you yet but you’ve done an intern year?
There are a handful of specialties where you need to do an intern year in either medicine or surgery and then you move on to your advanced specialty. You match to both programs at the same time, your intern year for immediately post graduation and then do the advanced program after your intern year.
 
There are a handful of specialties where you need to do an intern year in either medicine or surgery and then you move on to your advanced specialty. You match to both programs at the same time, your intern year for immediately post graduation and then do the advanced program after your intern year.
Thanks for the explanation!
 
Okay so I work up this morning with a Google event invite title "Meeting with Qpworueury" for a date in January. No other information sent, no other emails. It's location is set to the address of the hosptial. Could this be an informational meeting for prelims to transition into their advanced program? The Google invite just gives me a prompt regarding attendance,
click yes or no.
 
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Okay so I work up this morning with a Google event invite title "Meeting with Qpworueury" for a date in January. No other information sent, no other emails. It's location is set to the address of the hosptial. Could this be an informational meeting for prelims to transition into their advanced program? The Google invite just gives me a prompt regarding attendance,
click yes or no.
Whatever the topic of the meeting, being untruthful in that meeting would be strike 3, so please be careful.
 
Okay so I work up this morning with a Google event invite title "Meeting with Qpworueury" for a date in January. No other information sent, no other emails. It's location is set to the address of the hosptial. Could this be an informational meeting for prelims to transition into their advanced program? The Google invite just gives me a prompt regarding attendance,
click yes or no.
Who knows. Are you able to view who else was invited? If it's just you, that's probably a bad sign.

Regardless, figure out what you're going to say if this is a meeting to discuss your emails. Can't advise you to double down on what was a ridiculous explanation, but I also think you're going to have a very hard time walking that back now.
 
Who knows. Are you able to view who else was invited? If it's just you, that's probably a bad sign.

Regardless, figure out what you're going to say if this is a meeting to discuss your emails. Can't advise you to double down on what was a ridiculous explanation, but I also think you're going to have a very hard time walking that back now.
I can't even see who sent it or the host. Maybe it was a mistake?
 
I can't even see who sent it or the host. Maybe it was a mistake?
That seems unlikely.

Youre asking us to speculate. You really don’t have much choice but to show up and be prepared for just about anything. Hopefully they will send you some more information.
 
Ok they just sent me another invite and there's like 7people on this?? PD, 3 faculty members (one of which I interviewed with), 2 current residents and a couple adminstrators I think. can't tell if there's any incoming residents.Stilll no information on what this is? What's the plan here? Don't respond untill I have more information.
 
Okay so I work up this morning with a Google event invite title "Meeting with Qpworueury" for a date in January. No other information sent, no other emails. It's location is set to the address of the hosptial. Could this be an informational meeting for prelims to transition into their advanced program? The Google invite just gives me a prompt regarding attendance,
click yes or no.
@Qpworueury great bait.
 
If it has current residents then it’s probably a meet and greet. When you are in trouble in residency, they keep it with just leadership.
 
Unless they are chiefs. I'm not aware that it's typical for advanced programs to have meet and greets with an individual future resident 6 months ahead of their start date...
Hmm it’s a possibility that its with chiefs but real trouble also tends to keep them out of the initial meetings because leadership knows it’s more likely to get back to the residents if chiefs are involved. We had senior year chiefs though. It may be different for post-residency chief year.

Granted I agree it’s weird being a meet and greet but covid times are weird lol. We have had weirder stuff happen. At my program, we had a virtual second look where leadership and current residents were invited to attend that was held around this time of year. But also it would be weird to invite a matched resident that hasn’t even rotated yet.
 
I was a senior year chief, obviously YMMV from program to program/specialty to specialty but our chiefs would have almost certainly been aware of/involved with something like this to make sure the person transitioned well into residency and had a non-faculty person as a touch point for when they needed support. My co chief and I were often made aware of residents having performance or personal issues to keep an eye on them, check in regularly, give some additional support/feedback, etc. My program also has a virtual second look as it gets closer to rank list time but all our stuff for actual new matches is in like May/June once they're finished with their other responsibilities. Just seems odd.

ETA- also OP said the event was titled "meeting with (name)" which implies to me he's the only one invited, and also it's not titled like "second look" or "orientation meeting" or something like that....
Ya def program to program. I was as well and I wouldn’t have been involved in the first meeting. Because they would’ve wanted the full story. I would’ve been involved in a subsequent meeting to determine what to do/course of action.

I agree with weird title and it would lead it more to a serious meeting. If that’s truly the title.
 
I was a senior year chief, obviously YMMV from program to program/specialty to specialty but our chiefs would have almost certainly been aware of/involved with something like this to make sure the person transitioned well into residency and had a non-faculty person as a touch point for when they needed support. My co chief and I were often made aware of residents having performance or personal issues to keep an eye on them, check in regularly, give some additional support/feedback, etc. My program also has a virtual second look as it gets closer to rank list time but all our stuff for actual new matches is in like May/June once they're finished with their other responsibilities. Just seems odd.

ETA- also OP said the event was titled "meeting with (name)" which implies to me he's the only one invited, and also it's not titled like "second look" or "orientation meeting" or something like that....
Yes. It's titled meeting with (my name). The initial email no one was on it, but then I got another invite with all those people attached. I'm hesitant to acknowledge receipt of this because I don't want them to say that I looked at this and didn't respond. If they have an issue I think it's fair for them to reach out and explain what their concerns are on.
 
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Ok they just sent me another invite and there's like 7people on this?? PD, 3 faculty members (one of which I interviewed with), 2 current residents and a couple adminstrators I think. can't tell if there's any incoming residents.Stilll no information on what this is? What's the plan here? Don't respond untill I have more information.
10/10 for entertainment value. You're up there with Ifailedatlife
 
10/10 for entertainment value. You're up there with Ifailedatlife
I wish this wasn't true. Imagine if I could redo last year, wouldn't even have been in this mess if I got a program I liked
 
Yes. It's titled meeting with (my name). The initial email no one was on it, but then I got another invite with all those people attached. I'm hesitant to acknowledge receipt of this because I don't want them to say that I looked at this and didn't respond. If they have an issue I think it's fair for them to reach out and explain what their concerns are on.
Sounds more and more like discipline
 
Yes. It's titled meeting with (my name). The initial email no one was on it, but then I got another invite with all those people attached. I'm hesitant to acknowledge receipt of this because I don't want them to say that I looked at this and didn't respond. If they have an issue I think it's fair for them to reach out and explain what their concerns are on.
So concretely, what exactly is your plan here? Show up for a meeting without knowing what it is about? Skip the meeting because nobody told you why you needed to show up?

Let's be real. One week after sending an unflattering email to your program, you got a request for a meeting with program leadership. To imagine that this meeting is about anything other than the email you sent is magical thinking.
 
So concretely, what exactly is your plan here? Show up for a meeting without knowing what it is about? Skip the meeting because nobody told you why you needed to show up?

Let's be real. One week after sending an unflattering email to your program, you got a request for a meeting with program leadership. To imagine that this meeting is about anything other than the email you sent is magical thinking.
Double down and create a new email and email the program “Disregard last email, I was hacked”.

EDIT: If this is real, please don’t do this…
 
if I hadn't sent a self-destructive email.
This is sounding more and more like a package without the recipient's name on it. OP, steer clear. Maybe you should get the feds involved, too
ETA: Will self-destruct in 5 minutes
 
Ignoring a summons from your program sounds like a great way to get back on the right foot with them… oh wait, no it doesn’t.
Is it technically a summons if they never actually wrote that out in words?

Everyone here seems to think this is a big joke but this been a week of terrible anxiety and lousy 8 months
 
Is it technically a summons if they never actually wrote that out in words?

Everyone here seems to think this is a big joke but this been a week of terrible anxiety and lousy 8 months

I'm not ortnakas, but I think she means summons in the non-technical sense of the word (i.e. a meeting request to talk about something serious).

I also want to stress that I'm not judging you at all and want to support you... Had you been drinking when you sent the original email? If so, I may suggest staying sober even during your off time. It goes without saying that people say and do things they otherwise wouldn't have when they have been drinking. I just don't want you to end up drinking too much and then saying something else you'll regret via email.
 
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Is it technically a summons if they never actually wrote that out in words?

Everyone here seems to think this is a big joke but this been a week of terrible anxiety and lousy 8 months
Maybe a dumb question. However, if this is true as you say why would you post this on an online forum? I doubt your program would have a difficult time finding this thread.
 
Is it technically a summons if they never actually wrote that out in words?

Everyone here seems to think this is a big joke but this been a week of terrible anxiety and lousy 8 months
What else would you call an invite to speak with your program leadership?
 
Is it technically a summons if they never actually wrote that out in words?

Everyone here seems to think this is a big joke but this been a week of terrible anxiety and lousy 8 months
Not joking.
@RespectTheChemistry is right- I meant summons as meeting invite. Which, in medical training (medical school as well as residency), tend to be intended as mandatory. Even as an attending, if my medical director invites me to a meeting, I better have a decent reason to not go.

I do think you could get away with politely asking about the topic of the meeting. You can’t get away with ignoring/pretending not to see the invite.
 
I too am having trouble believing your story -- because you keep taking a bad situation and making unbelievably poor choices which makes the situation worse.

This meeting is not a meet and greet. It's not for all the PGY-2's that would be starting. If that's what it was, the emails would have been clear about that. This is, almost certainly, about the email you sent.

You solution appears to be to ignore it, or somehow pretend you didn't see it. This is crazy talk. If you actually ignore it, the situation will only get worse. They will call you on your cell phone. They will contact your current program. Ignoring it will only make it worse.

You need to hope that they are reaching out to you in support. That they like you, and they want to know what's going on. That they want to find out what they can do to support you. If you ignore them, it will only worsen the bad will being generated. Perhaps that's why they have so many people on the call.

Another possibility is that they want to reassess your professionalism. You should consider this another interview, and treat it as such. Your program is match-committed to you -- so even with your original email, they can't take your spot away, But, now that you're lying, they can impeach your professionalism. And if they do that, you might not get a medical license -- and hence lose your spot. If you want this spot, then you need to stop working to lose it. Stop lying, tell the truth, own up to it, ask for help.

I remain concerned that you're subconsciously undermining yourself. That deep down you've "decided" that you're not going, and you'd feel better if they fired you and you could blame it on this mistake. It's honestly the most reasonable explanation for your behavior IMHO.
 
Is it technically a summons if they never actually wrote that out in words?

Everyone here seems to think this is a big joke but this been a week of terrible anxiety and lousy 8 months
I'm gonna take the bait on the off chance this is real, since I've already gotten maximum personal entertainment value out of this. OP if this isn't an elaborate ruse, you need to immediately accept the invite and prepare an Oscar-worthy groveling speech. You gotta be completely honest. You tell them basically what you told us. You were disappointed in not matching higher on your rank list. Blinded by sadness and frustration, you tried to vent in possibly the stupidest possible way. You never intended for the message to be seen by any eyes other than your own, but by some freak mistake (muscle memory maybe?) you hit 'send'. You will apologize for the idiotic lie you told. Not because it was completely unbelievable, but because it was a lie, and lying is immensely unprofessional. Don't try to pretend that you're super stoked to be there all of a sudden. They know exactly what you think of them and aren't dumb enough to think you already did a complete 180. You tell them that even though this match result isn't what you wanted, you now soberly realize how grateful you are simply to have matched into an advanced position in the first place. You tell them that you will be a team player. You will show up to work everyday with a positive attitude. You will not complain. You will do whatever can be feasibly done to mend the professional relationships that you have gravely damaged. Then you will take your lumps, say you're sorry, and you thank them for hearing you out. Then, if you're not fired after the minimum time required by your contract, you go out of your way to thank your PD and the rest of your program faculty again.
 
@NotAProgDirector and others with knowledge of how GME functions - what are the odds of OP’s intern PD already having been looped in about this?

Asking as much for OP as for the edification of future prelim interns reading this future infamous thread who might do or plan to do something dumb in regards to their advanced program. And for my own curiosity.

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In general, employers shouldn't be talking to each other without a signed release.
Might be the best news I've heard all week. Was worried if my current program found out it would be incredibly embarrassing because I actually really like them.
 
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To clarify, the email wasn't necessarily vulgar and did not include any sort of inappropriate slang or racism. I'm just really really hoping they either believe me or maybe they didn't read it and they just saw the disregard message. Plus none of it was untrue. It contained real legitimate criticisms. I just wish they're was some way to unsend emails.

It's not necessarily a lie either about what happened. To be fair, I don't necessarily need them to 100% believe me, just to have some plausible deniability. Hypothetically, if I (wrongly) own up to it, I look like I was at fault. It reminds me of the jury system, you don't prove someone's innocent, just if there not guilty

I haven't heard anything all day, some hopefully I'm in the clear. My only question is what does "being a target" really look like during residency? Does that just amount to How soft does a program half to be to hold a grudge over this?
I wouldn't want you as my physician.
 
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