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This isn't High school. You're there to learn what a doctors day is like, not to make friends.Hmm, okay. I do see how I could be overreacting. I'm just venting here (probably should have toned down on the all-caps). The problem is that whenever I try to be friendly, or volunteer to do something, or just try to mind my own business, they always make super snarky comments about how I'm "too important" to be bothered and so on. They've also all gotten close to each other and now conspicuously exclude me from any group activities during the shift, which is annoying. I guess I'll just keep shadowing while trying to find another doctor.
Okay, let me set the scene. You have me, your typical awkward neurotic premed trying to check off all the boxes and get some shadowing experience before I apply. After months of cold-calling nearby docs with increasing desperation, I finally get a family doc to agree to let me shadow. Plus he's open on weekends so I won't have to take time off classes!! JACKPOT right?
I show up to my first shadowing shift, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and ready to kiss some serious ass. Turns out there's like 6 other students because the practice is hosting externships(?) for nursing students and medical assistant students. Okay, cool, I get to meet new people and at least we can be confused students together!
One of the techs is giving us an orientation and she asks us all to introduce ourselves and what our goals are. The 6 other students go first and mention that they are nursing/MA students. Then it's my turn, so I say that I'm going to be applying to medical schools soon and want to be a doctor eventually. The tech says, "Oh! Okay, you're definitely more important than the other students! I'll make sure you're always in the room with the doctor!" OH GOD. WHAT. WHY. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY ELSE. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT EVER. WHYYYYYY?????
I did my best to salvage it and be all "nooooo I'm just a dumb student everyone is important" but obviously it didn't work. Now all the other students lowkey hate me. I don't even blame them, I'd probably hate me too if I were them. Whenever I talk with them, they're either super chilly or snarky. It's so awkward now and I dread going in every time.
Is this an unsalvageable situation? I already have ~8 hours with this doc (and tbh I don't even really like him) so I guess I could just stop shadowing him. But it was so hard for me to get shadowing in the first place! I don't know how else I could get any more shadowing.
Why on earth do you care what these other students think of you? Do your thing, act professionally, and get the most out of your experience. Your entire medical career, should you be fortunate enough to have one, is likely to be permeated with all kinds of interpersonal conundrums, so you might as well start dealings with the vagaries of human interaction now.Hmm, okay. I do see how I could be overreacting. I'm just venting here (probably should have toned down on the all-caps). The problem is that whenever I try to be friendly, or volunteer to do something, or just try to mind my own business, they always make super snarky comments about how I'm "too important" to be bothered and so on. They've also all gotten close to each other and now conspicuously exclude me from any group activities during the shift, which is annoying. I guess I'll just keep shadowing while trying to find another doctor.
This seems like really sensible advice, and I'd follow it.Why on earth do you care what these other students think of you? Do your thing, act professionally, and get the most out of your experience. Your entire medical career, should you be fortunate enough to have one, is likely to be permeated with all kinds of interpersonal conundrums, so you might as well start dealings with the vagaries of human interaction now.
Okay, let me set the scene. You have me, your typical awkward neurotic premed trying to check off all the boxes and get some shadowing experience before I apply. After months of cold-calling nearby docs with increasing desperation, I finally get a family doc to agree to let me shadow. Plus he's open on weekends so I won't have to take time off classes!! JACKPOT right?
I show up to my first shadowing shift, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and ready to kiss some serious ass. Turns out there's like 6 other students because the practice is hosting externships(?) for nursing students and medical assistant students. Okay, cool, I get to meet new people and at least we can be confused students together!
One of the techs is giving us an orientation and she asks us all to introduce ourselves and what our goals are. The 6 other students go first and mention that they are nursing/MA students. Then it's my turn, so I say that I'm going to be applying to medical schools soon and want to be a doctor eventually. The tech says, "Oh! Okay, you're definitely more important than the other students! I'll make sure you're always in the room with the doctor!" OH GOD. WHAT. WHY. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY ELSE. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT EVER. WHYYYYYY?????
I did my best to salvage it and be all "nooooo I'm just a dumb student everyone is important" but obviously it didn't work. Now all the other students lowkey hate me. I don't even blame them, I'd probably hate me too if I were them. Whenever I talk with them, they're either super chilly or snarky. It's so awkward now and I dread going in every time.
Is this an unsalvageable situation? I already have ~8 hours with this doc (and tbh I don't even really like him) so I guess I could just stop shadowing him. But it was so hard for me to get shadowing in the first place! I don't know how else I could get any more shadowing.
Okay, let me set the scene. You have me, your typical awkward neurotic premed trying to check off all the boxes and get some shadowing experience before I apply. After months of cold-calling nearby docs with increasing desperation, I finally get a family doc to agree to let me shadow. Plus he's open on weekends so I won't have to take time off classes!! JACKPOT right?
I show up to my first shadowing shift, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and ready to kiss some serious ass. Turns out there's like 6 other students because the practice is hosting externships(?) for nursing students and medical assistant students. Okay, cool, I get to meet new people and at least we can be confused students together!
One of the techs is giving us an orientation and she asks us all to introduce ourselves and what our goals are. The 6 other students go first and mention that they are nursing/MA students. Then it's my turn, so I say that I'm going to be applying to medical schools soon and want to be a doctor eventually. The tech says, "Oh! Okay, you're definitely more important than the other students! I'll make sure you're always in the room with the doctor!" OH GOD. WHAT. WHY. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY ELSE. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT EVER. WHYYYYYY?????
I did my best to salvage it and be all "nooooo I'm just a dumb student everyone is important" but obviously it didn't work. Now all the other students lowkey hate me. I don't even blame them, I'd probably hate me too if I were them. Whenever I talk with them, they're either super chilly or snarky. It's so awkward now and I dread going in every time.
Is this an unsalvageable situation? I already have ~8 hours with this doc (and tbh I don't even really like him) so I guess I could just stop shadowing him. But it was so hard for me to get shadowing in the first place! I don't know how else I could get any more shadowing.