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lots of ranting below:
So, I can think of 3-4 people I regularly interact with in class--not friends, just classmates--who like to comment on how tired I look, or how I shouldn't panic about XYZ (usually whatever we're talking about), or how I should stop working so hard. The funny thing is, I don't see or talk to them outside of class, so I don't get how they would know my sleep/study/stress patterns. I guess they're doing it to be helpful, but it feels condescending most of the time, and I honestly don't think I'm more stressed out than they are. We're all in med school, under the same time constraints with the same overload of material. The thing is, I know I can look stressed or unhappy, b/c that's just the way my face is built. As a kid, my parents were constantly berating me for pouting and looking like "the world owed me a million dollars."
Anyway, maybe I give some people the impression that I am working too hard. Maybe I really do always look panicked about tests, or always look tired, or whatever. Chances are, you have some classmates like that too. The thing is, unless you have real sympathy or constructive advice to give, I don't really want to hear about how tired you think I always look. It's not helping anything, and you're just bringing attention to something I'm already self-conscious about.
End of rant. I really am curious though...have any of you encountered classmates who seem to like to bring to attention the fact that you look stressed? It is so annoying, and the funny thing is, none of them are my friends or people who have any reason to care about me at all, so it seems almost malicious to be bringing attention to this. It's like, "Yeah, I already know how stressed or sleep-deprived I am. Thanks for the reminder that everyone else can tell too!"
So, I can think of 3-4 people I regularly interact with in class--not friends, just classmates--who like to comment on how tired I look, or how I shouldn't panic about XYZ (usually whatever we're talking about), or how I should stop working so hard. The funny thing is, I don't see or talk to them outside of class, so I don't get how they would know my sleep/study/stress patterns. I guess they're doing it to be helpful, but it feels condescending most of the time, and I honestly don't think I'm more stressed out than they are. We're all in med school, under the same time constraints with the same overload of material. The thing is, I know I can look stressed or unhappy, b/c that's just the way my face is built. As a kid, my parents were constantly berating me for pouting and looking like "the world owed me a million dollars."
Anyway, maybe I give some people the impression that I am working too hard. Maybe I really do always look panicked about tests, or always look tired, or whatever. Chances are, you have some classmates like that too. The thing is, unless you have real sympathy or constructive advice to give, I don't really want to hear about how tired you think I always look. It's not helping anything, and you're just bringing attention to something I'm already self-conscious about.
End of rant. I really am curious though...have any of you encountered classmates who seem to like to bring to attention the fact that you look stressed? It is so annoying, and the funny thing is, none of them are my friends or people who have any reason to care about me at all, so it seems almost malicious to be bringing attention to this. It's like, "Yeah, I already know how stressed or sleep-deprived I am. Thanks for the reminder that everyone else can tell too!"