csgirl,
After you've given birth to your first child and held her in your arms for the first time....then lets talk....
There is NO perfect world and we are such a mobile society that that isn't realistic for most of us...and to top it off, medical spouses, who are moving with their husband's for med school, residency, fellowship, etc..lose their family support......Maybe it worked in the days of Little House on the Prairie, but it doesn't today...so who would be caring for your kids then?
And Madanraj, "compassionate" or not...yes, I do cook and clean for my family, but I also take care of children and some of my own needs, and if my husband has something to say about it if I don't always manage to get it all done perfectly, then he can get over it...I am his wife, his best friend and his lover...not his maid....

If that means I lose the award...well, I'm sorry...I'm still a compassionate person....but I am also a human being with my own hopes and aspirations...It is my job to take care of his emotional ...and physical needs (and mine

) but there isn't always dinner on the table...and hey...who knows when he is going to be home anyway?
I will say though, if this redeems me at all, that when he was a resident, I went up with the kids to the cafeteria every night that he was "on" and we had a family dinner.....When he was on a hard rotation (ICU) I bought him a little surprise, wrapped it, and snuck it up to his desk....and I sometimes showed up with a surprise home cooked meal...but if criticizes me for not getting the house cleaned one day or the dinner on the table...well...he's in the doghouse!
Kris