Especially since such comments are seldom, if ever, made to my fiance. It really annoys me.••
Surprisingly, I will agree with you. There is a double standard when it comes to raising children. No one ever questioned my husband's dedication as a father or his love for his family when he was working 100 hours a week. When we moved yet again and my son struggled to adjust, the schools assumed it was due to a flaw in my mothering, and not the fact that my husband's job had taken us away from family and friends. However, when he was identified as being a first grader doing 3rd grade math, I was told "like father like son"...forget the fact that I am the one that does all homework with him and homeschools during the summers.....
If you are fortunate enough to have family around that will help you in the care of your child, I say that is great for you!!! The reality of that happening, in my very limited experience as a mother is fairly slim. But you are right..it can happen....
I assure you that there is no magical feeling for a 25 year old starving Nigerian woman giving birth to her 8th child... or for a 13 year old girl living with her single mother who can barely support herself. ••
Well, I don't know that that is true or untrue, csgirl....I can imagine that social issues certainly do play a role...but the experience of pregnancy and childbirth is the most incredible thing a woman will ever experience...
Kris