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Hi all,
I hope you are doing well on this fine Saturday morning, or at least a little better than I am. I'll apologize in advance for the long post. Earlier today, my boyfriend and I decided it would be best if we broke things off, largely due to our busy schedules. First, a little background info:
When we first started dating, we got serious fast. Meeting family just after two weeks of knowing each other, discussing holiday plans and birthdays together, even talking about supporting each other through grad school on the first date (far fetched, I know.) Going in, i fully realized that this was most likely going to end before I leave for medical school in a few years, because let's be honest, how many relationships last through that, residency, and fellowship, much less everything else? But at the same time, this was the first relationship I have ever been in since leaving my abusive ex three years ago and experiencing additional sexual assault since then. The first time I've actually felt...loved. Ever. So I got attached like i shouldn't have. Our relationship was perfect, with the exception that he didn't prioritize me after the beginning, something that he completely agreed with and was ultimately the reason why we said to call it quits.
What hurts the most is the fact that we had so much in common and got along like best friends. It hurts knowing that I lost someone who treated me so well, because no one really ever has in that way. My problem however, is this:
We'll be going to the same school in November, right when I have one of my most important finals due. I've already found it difficult to focus on studying for this one, and I am so stressed and worried that I won't pass, which would most likely cause me to fail the class that I really really need...right as he's transferring in. How do I move on from this and don't let this impact my grades? Please tell me that some of you have gone through similar situations and have advice to give. Have you ever broken up with someone right before med school or around important test dates? How did you handle it? Please help.
I hope you are doing well on this fine Saturday morning, or at least a little better than I am. I'll apologize in advance for the long post. Earlier today, my boyfriend and I decided it would be best if we broke things off, largely due to our busy schedules. First, a little background info:
When we first started dating, we got serious fast. Meeting family just after two weeks of knowing each other, discussing holiday plans and birthdays together, even talking about supporting each other through grad school on the first date (far fetched, I know.) Going in, i fully realized that this was most likely going to end before I leave for medical school in a few years, because let's be honest, how many relationships last through that, residency, and fellowship, much less everything else? But at the same time, this was the first relationship I have ever been in since leaving my abusive ex three years ago and experiencing additional sexual assault since then. The first time I've actually felt...loved. Ever. So I got attached like i shouldn't have. Our relationship was perfect, with the exception that he didn't prioritize me after the beginning, something that he completely agreed with and was ultimately the reason why we said to call it quits.
What hurts the most is the fact that we had so much in common and got along like best friends. It hurts knowing that I lost someone who treated me so well, because no one really ever has in that way. My problem however, is this:
We'll be going to the same school in November, right when I have one of my most important finals due. I've already found it difficult to focus on studying for this one, and I am so stressed and worried that I won't pass, which would most likely cause me to fail the class that I really really need...right as he's transferring in. How do I move on from this and don't let this impact my grades? Please tell me that some of you have gone through similar situations and have advice to give. Have you ever broken up with someone right before med school or around important test dates? How did you handle it? Please help.