Wrong. Not to pull out the ol' Line Officer Card, but it feels appropriate here. I was TAD to a carrier staff in the Gulf as the Air Defense liaison and the carrier CO (under the aegis of the strike group commander - a RDML) is a very big fish and party to discussions with foreign military and civilian leaders. In fact, much of a staff and carrier CO's time is accommodating foreign civilian and military DV's. I was personally involved in an exercise in the western pacific which involved 3 carriers and their associated strike groups, and the carrier CO was the host to a full contingent of military and civilian leaders from a eastern hemisphere power that is rapidly expanding their naval reach. Oh, and PACCOM was there as well, along with associated big wigs (Aussie minister of defense, UK ambassadors, etc, etc). There is no way that the Navy is sending that man on deployment, as good of a captain and as nice of a guy as he is (from what I have heard).
The real story here is that this is a cultural difference that dominates a lot of personnel decisions in the Navy. Surface Warfare culture vs. Aviation culture (it is even mentioned in the video's, where he calls SWO's f_gs). Surface Warfare is very regulation and appearance oriented and risk averse, while Aviation culture is less risk averse (although still very safety oriented) and what many would call "cooler." This behavior is pretty acceptable in squadrons, but totally unacceptable on ships (for those who don't know, carriers the only ships that only have aviator co's - these CO's must command amphibs before they command a carrier).
He may or may not have have been counseled during the event, but either way it stayed within the lifelines of the ship. Unfortunately for him, his behavior is totally unacceptable to the wider culture of the Navy which includes tightwads like SWO's and Sub officers. I know a lot of SWO's who are pissed like nothing else about being insulted in that video.
As a SWO, or former SWO, I have no problem with him getting fired, because you just have to be smarter than that - my friends and I made plenty of videos on deployment of us doing stupid ****, we did not broadcast them. On the other hand, as someone has gone through a Captain being relieved for cause I feel for the crew and especially the wardroom because it is very traumatic to go through and can really tear a tight crew apart.