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Im currently a 4th yr torn btw couples matching or attempting a LD relationship with my SO of 3 yrs. Both of us are originally from CA but met during med school on the East Coast. We had hoped to go back to CA for residency, but unfortunately my SO (who is going into ortho) did not receive any interviews on the West Coast. We discussed couples matching, but after interviewing on both coasts I realized how much I loved the programs out west and how much Ive missed being closer to my family. My SO and I are in a committed relationship and have discussed marriage in the future, although we've both agreed to wait until at least after intern year is over. I really dont want to be apart from him, but I know that if we couples matched, I might end up having to settle for a program that is far from my top choice and also far away from home. On the other hand, I also hate the idea of being in a LD relationship. Prior to med school, I had been in another serious relationship that had ended after attempting LD. Despite that, I am hoping that things might turn out differently this time and am willing to try if it means that we might both be happier in the future. He is supportive of this - he understands how hard we've both worked to get this far in our careers and told me that I should go wherever I will be most happy. If we attempt LD, the plan would be for me to complete my residency in CA (which would be 3yrs) and then move to wherever he is to work for 2 more years until he is done with residency. I was just wondering what other people thought about my situation and whether or not they thought this plan was crazy or doable? Thanks.