Do I break up with her?

[Dr Yiot]

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Glad some people without a stick up their ass decided to chime in...I have a couple of comments to the replies:

a) I am completely serious when asking this question.
b) I attempted to use some humor in my presentation, but I guess most of you take life way too seriously.
c) David Yurman is a reference to the amount of money I would need to spend at Christmas, valentines day, etc. Nothing in the store is cheaper than $400.
d) The dudes that respond so negatively in this thread--I know exactly who you are. You are the whipped guys that would ditch your frat brothers every night of the week to cuddle with your GF. If you did go out, you would call your GF every 25 minutes to update her where you were and how much you missed her. You would write her poems for fun and the only way you have sex is missionary.
e) To the girl that got offended by the guy that called me a *****--You are a joke. People like you (with your politically correctness sensitivities) are why terrorists are not pre-screened and able to board our flights and why waterboarding is now banned from interrogations. I really do feel bad for you and think you will be trampled on all over in your life if you don't toughen up a little bit.
f) My GF is cool as ****. I care a lot about her and do not use her. I am questioning whether to spend the rest of my life with her, that's all. For me, that is a scary thought. I am faithful when I date her.
g) Yes you can still love and respect someone while binging drinking your ass off, gambling on college football, and going to strip clubs. Raging when you are young and still can is harmless fun. I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

we can not answer this for you. You need to answer this for yourself. IMO this isn't something were you can write a pro's and con's list about. You just have to know. The reason why is because , you can find another girl who has money, or is hot, or loves sex, or is cool as **** and is fine with you "raging". However there is more to those things than chosing someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. you should just know man. do you have a connection etc. The fact that your coming here onto an internet forumn looking for reasons to be with your gf long distance is a big shot at your relationship. You should have it in your ming that your going to stick it out with her through med school or not. now would be the time to cut it off if you want but you are the only one who knows and you have to figure it out. IMO though you should probobly just know.

 

[Trexate]

I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

You're about to. She's called MS-1. From what I hear she's a b---- to people like you.

 

[kami333]

This thread is useless without pics.

 

[jtanch2]

g) Yes you can still love and respect someone while binging drinking your ass off, gambling on college football, and going to strip clubs. Raging when you are young and still can is harmless fun. I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

 

[Sammich117]

If you have to ask if you should spend the rest of your life with her, the answer is no.

 

[junjinie]

wait until medical school to find out how she reacts.
if you find that she can't understand your time commitment and is being selfish, then its time to move on.
on the flip side, you should also try to make time for her.

in any case, i hope things work out.

but yeah, dont make any hasty decisions right now.

 

[coldweatherblue]

people are ragging on you because your OP was a little focused on superficial sides to the relationship.. but more than that, you're coming from a lifestyle.. that, as you'll find out in med school, most people going into medicine are not familiar with. so if you act like yourself people will call you out for it. Most med students have no idea what it's like to party, and when they think they're getting crazy compared to the way we did it in college, it's nothing. For better or worse cause you gotta be responsible/professional, etc and that lifestyle is not healthy. for real though, if you feel tired of her **** right now, it's not gonna get easier. no way are you gonna wanna talk on the phone while studying for boards or after getting home from the hospital. Certain relationships work good with that, others don't.

no one can make that decision for you though, it's just an abstract impression that you put together from everything you know based on your time together and what you both want out of life, then put into motion events that ultimately decide what happens.

 

[He2]

To the girl that got offended by the guy that called me a *****--You are a joke. People like you (with your politically correctness sensitivities) are why terrorists are not pre-screened and able to board our flights and why waterboarding is now banned from interrogations. I really do feel bad for you and think you will be trampled on all over in your life if you don't toughen up a little bit.

😕😕 ..... in order to be realistic about women you have to be a raging republican?

Yes you can still love and respect someone while binging drinking your ass off, gambling on college football, and going to strip clubs. Raging when you are young and still can is harmless fun. I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

👍. gotta be a man.

wait until medical school to find out how she reacts.
if you find that she can't understand your time commitment and is being selfish, then its time to move on.
on the flip side, you should also try to make time for her.

in any case, i hope things work out.

but yeah, dont make any hasty decisions right now.

it is waay easier to get along with new people untethered...

I am a guy, and it's people like you that give our gender a bad rap.

the "i'm a nice guy" syndrome strikes again. listen guys, its not a dichotomy between doing things guys like to do and being a nice guy. YOu can be nice, but that doesn't mean giving up your pair in a jar. Those that are so willing just make me think they are really, really, really desperate for female attention. sorry.

 

[Frazier]

Glad some people without a stick up their ass decided to chime in...I have a couple of comments to the replies:

a) I am completely serious when asking this question.
b) I attempted to use some humor in my presentation, but I guess most of you take life way too seriously.
c) David Yurman is a reference to the amount of money I would need to spend at Christmas, valentines day, etc. Nothing in the store is cheaper than $400.
d) The dudes that respond so negatively in this thread--I know exactly who you are. You are the whipped guys that would ditch your frat brothers every night of the week to cuddle with your GF. If you did go out, you would call your GF every 25 minutes to update her where you were and how much you missed her. You would write her poems for fun and the only way you have sex is missionary.
e) To the girl that got offended by the guy that called me a *****--You are a joke. People like you (with your politically correctness sensitivities) are why terrorists are not pre-screened and able to board our flights and why waterboarding is now banned from interrogations. I really do feel bad for you and think you will be trampled on all over in your life if you don't toughen up a little bit.
f) My GF is cool as ****. I care a lot about her and do not use her. I am questioning whether to spend the rest of my life with her, that's all. For me, that is a scary thought. I am faithful when I date her.
g) Yes you can still love and respect someone while binging drinking your ass off, gambling on college football, and going to strip clubs. Raging when you are young and still can is harmless fun. I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

You sound like the personification of all traits/characteristics hoped for in a Dr.

lol at most of these comebacks
and lol at the phrase "let me rage"

PS: break up - she's prob cheating on you with a NYC Klein model.

 

[alibai3ah]

Glad some people without a stick up their ass decided to chime in...I have a couple of comments to the replies:

a) I am completely serious when asking this question.
b) I attempted to use some humor in my presentation, but I guess most of you take life way too seriously.
c) David Yurman is a reference to the amount of money I would need to spend at Christmas, valentines day, etc. Nothing in the store is cheaper than $400.
d) The dudes that respond so negatively in this thread--I know exactly who you are. You are the whipped guys that would ditch your frat brothers every night of the week to cuddle with your GF. If you did go out, you would call your GF every 25 minutes to update her where you were and how much you missed her. You would write her poems for fun and the only way you have sex is missionary.
e) To the girl that got offended by the guy that called me a *****--You are a joke. People like you (with your politically correctness sensitivities) are why terrorists are not pre-screened and able to board our flights and why waterboarding is now banned from interrogations. I really do feel bad for you and think you will be trampled on all over in your life if you don't toughen up a little bit.
f) My GF is cool as ****. I care a lot about her and do not use her. I am questioning whether to spend the rest of my life with her, that's all. For me, that is a scary thought. I am faithful when I date her.
g) Yes you can still love and respect someone while binging drinking your ass off, gambling on college football, and going to strip clubs. Raging when you are young and still can is harmless fun. I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

The bolded part is hilarious. While I still think you are a douchebag, you are a funny guy. And I don't fall in this criteria at all, it's just sex becomes less of a priority if you really do care about this girl. And ALL guys start ditching their guy friends to be with their girlfriends, it's normal. Beer pong and flip cup can only last so long.

No one is saying you shouldn't be scared. All guys are worried about committment. But it's not like you are getting married today. If you can't picture a future with this girl, you should break up with her. It's simple as that. Looking at your PRO list, you haven't once mentioned anything about her you liked that wasn't physical and/or sex related....Don't you think that's weird.

 

[IDoIt4Love]

so you've been dating this girl for 2+ years, and this is your attitude towards her? doesn't sound like you love her at all.

"I don't know if I want this to be the last girl I hook up with"

^um, yeah, you're a tool. you sound more like a high school boy than a grown man. It doesn't really sound like you're mature enough to handle a serious relationship, so I would end it so that she doesn't need to waste any more of her time in a long-distance relationship with you.

 

[she woolf]

Thanks for all the encouraging remarks. I think this thread is full of idealistic, cliche-seeking women whose favorite things include The Notebook, long walks on the beach during sunset and dopio espressos outside a European cafe with wased-up authors. Oh, and a glass of Pinot Grigio by the fire.

I think these are pretty normal thoughts for 24 year old guys starting med school. Sorry for having doubts about long distance relationships.

LOL LOL let's not sterotype here ^_^

You're 24. Your a man. Your in school. Like the lil wayne song goes....I wish I could f89k every girl in the world....do that. Shush up and focus on school.

You never loose women chasing money, you loose money chasing women...Their will be plenty of good girls for you when you're really ready to "settle down"😱 [i hate that phrase]

Take MY advice 😀 this girl doesn't seem like the love of your life anyway

 

[Hifey]

All personal thoughts about your post aside OP, it really does sound like you should break up with her. Not only will you not be able to see each other, you may want to "rage" (LOL) in ways that aren't appropriate to someone in a relationship after a test or whatever and then it would just be a lie. You sound like someone who would be better off single and having no responsibility to anyone else. Besides, if after TWO years, you haven't decided if you can see a future with her or not then it's most likely not happening. Besides, there's no need for her to hold up her life for a busy broke med student who will barely see her or talk to her. Good luck with your situation!

 

[CaptainSSO]

Thanks for all the encouraging remarks. I think this thread is full of idealistic, cliche-seeking women whose favorite things include The Notebook, long walks on the beach during sunset and dopio espressos outside a European cafe with wased-up authors. Oh, and a glass of Pinot Grigio by the fire.

I think these are pretty normal thoughts for 24 year old guys starting med school. Sorry for having doubts about long distance relationships.

Shut the **** up.

You are asking for life advice from to a bunch of random strangers on the internet.

Grow a ****ing pair of balls.

 

[Renaissance Man]

g) Yes you can still love and respect someone while binging drinking your ass off, gambling on college football, and going to strip clubs. Raging when you are young and still can is harmless fun. I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

How can I be more like you?...you are THE MAN

 

[CaptainSSO]

Here's some advice for you, OP:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2jAwiq6YsE

 

[IDoIt4Love]

Shut the **** up.

You are asking for life advice from to a bunch of random strangers on the internet.

Grow a ****ing pair of balls.

👍 this.

 

[apumic]

Thanks for all the encouraging remarks. I think this thread is full of idealistic, cliche-seeking women whose favorite things include The Notebook, long walks on the beach during sunset and dopio espressos outside a European cafe with wased-up authors. Oh, and a glass of Pinot Grigio by the fire.

I think these are pretty normal thoughts for 24 year old guys starting med school. Sorry for having doubts about long distance relationships.

Sounds like you need to mature a bit before dating. You are nowhere near ready for a girlfriend, much less a fiancée or a long-distance gf. Go hang out w/ some middle school kids and learn how to treat a woman from them because you come off more than a bit self-centered. Seriously, as a man, the fact that a guy would hold the kind of view of his girlfriend that you apparently do absolutely disgusts me. Further, you obviously don't even respect her enough to have this conversation with her (or maybe in private with a mentor) instead of posting it on a board or to keep your relationship somewhat private. (I mean, seriously? Posting a pros/cons list on a public forum about someone you presumably would claim to "love"?!) Finally, you went on to basically say you want to have sex with other women, so she's obviously not sufficient for your sexual satisfaction.

These aren't "normal questions" for someone about to go off to medical school, sorry. I certainly understand asking whether or not the relationship could work; how both you and her would handle it; whether or not she is the right girl. Those are all fine things. However, wanting her for sex (and really stating you want her for sex but you want the freedom of having it with other women) and money (literally what you said) and then insulting her personality (she's "moody," desires commitment, you dislike some of her interests, etc.) is totally unacceptable. Have the decency to actually love a woman instead of using her. I think you need to take some time away from "sex and money" (both this girl and every other) and develop some healthy relationships -- first with other men and then with women. You seem to be missing a huge part of what love is all about and a dating relationship lacking in consummate love is bound for failure eventually.

 

[Frazier]

Should I break up with my girl, gui's? She's a good lay and all, but there are so many other chicks trya get on it at the club.
Cuz I'm just sayin...

 

[CaptainSSO]

hahahaha

 

[MisterStupid]

Glad some people without a stick up their ass decided to chime in...I have a couple of comments to the replies:

a) I am completely serious when asking this question.
b) I attempted to use some humor in my presentation, but I guess most of you take life way too seriously.
c) David Yurman is a reference to the amount of money I would need to spend at Christmas, valentines day, etc. Nothing in the store is cheaper than $400.
d) The dudes that respond so negatively in this thread--I know exactly who you are. You are the whipped guys that would ditch your frat brothers every night of the week to cuddle with your GF. If you did go out, you would call your GF every 25 minutes to update her where you were and how much you missed her. You would write her poems for fun and the only way you have sex is missionary.
e) To the girl that got offended by the guy that called me a *****--You are a joke. People like you (with your politically correctness sensitivities) are why terrorists are not pre-screened and able to board our flights and why waterboarding is now banned from interrogations. I really do feel bad for you and think you will be trampled on all over in your life if you don't toughen up a little bit.
f) My GF is cool as ****. I care a lot about her and do not use her. I am questioning whether to spend the rest of my life with her, that's all. For me, that is a scary thought. I am faithful when I date her.
g) Yes you can still love and respect someone while binging drinking your ass off, gambling on college football, and going to strip clubs. Raging when you are young and still can is harmless fun. I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

Solid post.

Bunch of beta whipped pu**ies in this thread.

I dunno bro, I dumped my GF because I'm leaving the state soon to start med school (I live in NYC too lol), and I regret it. I had a lot of the same feelings -- didn't want that girl to be the last girl I ever dated, etc. But in retrospect, she was pretty awesome, and its going to be hard to find another girl like her, especially in med school. Think about your choice.

 

[FluffyRabbit]

e) To the girl that got offended by the guy that called me a *****--You are a joke. People like you (with your politically correctness sensitivities) are why terrorists are not pre-screened and able to board our flights and why waterboarding is now banned from interrogations. I really do feel bad for you and think you will be trampled on all over in your life if you don't toughen up a little bit.

Wait, you think waterboarding during interrogations is okay? Not only is it pretty inhumane, you just going to extract false confessions...

the "i'm a nice guy" syndrome strikes again. listen guys, its not a dichotomy between doing things guys like to do and being a nice guy. YOu can be nice, but that doesn't mean giving up your pair in a jar. Those that are so willing just make me think they are really, really, really desperate for female attention. sorry.

I'm didn't think the original post was meant to be funny because sarcasm tends to fail over the internet and the topic is fairly serious.

"not sure if I want this to be the last girl I hook up with" doesn't exactly reflect well on the way he views her, so it definitely seemed like he was using her. Maybe it's okay in college when no one gives a crap, but in a serious relationship, that attitude doesn't fly, especially if you're going to have to do long distance.

How is disapproving of that mean I'm keeping my balls in a box at home? Way to jump to conclusions...

 

[rawman]

Raging when you are young and still can is harmless fun. I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

Agreed.

 

[Sammich117]

Solid post.

Bunch of beta whipped pu**ies in this thread.

I dunno bro, I dumped my GF because I'm leaving the state soon to start med school (I live in NYC too lol), and I regret it. I had a lot of the same feelings -- didn't want that girl to be the last girl I ever dated, etc. But in retrospect, she was pretty awesome, and its going to be hard to find another girl like her, especially in med school. Think about your choice.

Interesting choice of first post.

 

[Felted]

Couple more thoughts upon reflection:

a) Sex and money makes all guys happy. Period. In fact, I cannot think of 2 things that make me more happy. It seems like many of the guys on this thread enjoy such activities with their GFs such as talking into the night, watching the stars, hiking, cooking, and going down on her on top of a bed of rose petals. While I have done those things and they can be ok things to do, the 2 best are the aforementioned: sex and money.

b) Will this make me a bad doctor? No. I will still ball out as a surgeon. If a patient was dying or had a ctastrophic injury and came to me and he said "Cure me", and I said, I am the best surgeon in this hospital, but I like to slay chicks, I guarantee you he would be ok with that.

c) Apumic, please stop reading the literature cirriculum you got in high school and college--books such as The Awakening. Feminist novels are really clouding your judgment of practicality.

d) Again, just b/c I am a dude and like to rage does not mean I am incapable of a girlfriend. A lot of you may have been too busy studying or were in the pre-med sorority/honor societies to realize that people in their young 20's like to have fun and make bad decisions. Girls and guys. I don't want some girl that is going to be Mother Teresa. It would only depress me in school.

e) IDoItForLove and CaptainSSO. First of all, ironic screenname--your responses are very fitting. Second, lighten up a little bit. If you are offended that I said you like Pinot Grigio and moonlight beach walks, there is something seriously wrong with your childhood.

I would love to continue this debate. I am becoming closer to make a decision. Thanks for the input.

 

[The Poet Sings]

e) To the girl that got offended by the guy that called me a *****--You are a joke. People like you (with your politically correctness sensitivities) are why terrorists are not pre-screened and able to board our flights and why waterboarding is now banned from interrogations. I really do feel bad for you and think you will be trampled on all over in your life if you don't toughen up a little bit.

if i rolled my eyes with any more force they'd fall right out of my head. i said something to the other guy because i could tell that he would realize the error of his ways. i didn't bother saying anything to your stank @$$ because i knew you would be too thick-skulled to get it, based on your previous posts. you can't see beyond the privilege you were born with (i'm guessing that you're male, heterosexual, and probably white? aka a member of the majority and traditionally power holding groups in america) and swear the world revolves around you. people like me, who don't fit those categories, have to have MUCH thicker skins than you'll ever need (thanks to people like you who think fighting to be treated equally is a BAD thing). you try being a woman and having everything feminine frowned down upon. where "acting/talking/throwing like a girl/woman" is supposed to cause offense. that **** gets real old, real quick. i hope she leaves you. she could do so much better, and it's so sad she doesn't even know it. you are so blind to so many things, and it would take too much effort to deconstruct the rest of everything you've said on here.

 

[Slowpoke]

tom leykis, youtube it.

edit: the originator of the phrase "more ass than a toilet seat"

 

[StormingWynn]

Couple more thoughts upon reflection:

a) Sex and money makes all guys happy. Period. In fact, I cannot think of 2 things that make me more happy. It seems like many of the guys on this thread enjoy such activities with their GFs such as talking into the night, watching the stars, hiking, cooking, and going down on her on top of a bed of rose petals. While I have done those things and they can be ok things to do, the 2 best are the aforementioned: sex and money.

b) Will this make me a bad doctor? No. I will still ball out as a surgeon. If a patient was dying or had a ctastrophic injury and came to me and he said "Cure me", and I said, I am the best surgeon in this hospital, but I like to slay chicks, I guarantee you he would be ok with that.

c) Apumic, please stop reading the literature cirriculum you got in high school and college--books such as The Awakening. Feminist novels are really clouding your judgment of practicality.

d) Again, just b/c I am a dude and like to rage does not mean I am incapable of a girlfriend. A lot of you may have been too busy studying or were in the pre-med sorority/honor societies to realize that people in their young 20's like to have fun and make bad decisions. Girls and guys. I don't want some girl that is going to be Mother Teresa. It would only depress me in school.

e) IDoItForLove and CaptainSSO. First of all, ironic screenname--your responses are very fitting. Second, lighten up a little bit. If you are offended that I said you like Pinot Grigio and moonlight beach walks, there is something seriously wrong with your childhood.

I would love to continue this debate. I am becoming closer to make a decision. Thanks for the input.

Thank you for confirming my thoughts about you. You're an idiot.

 

[He2]

😕

 

[LuciusVorenus]

Glad some people without a stick up their ass decided to chime in...I have a couple of comments to the replies:

a) I am completely serious when asking this question.
b) I attempted to use some humor in my presentation, but I guess most of you take life way too seriously.
c) David Yurman is a reference to the amount of money I would need to spend at Christmas, valentines day, etc. Nothing in the store is cheaper than $400.
d) The dudes that respond so negatively in this thread--I know exactly who you are. You are the whipped guys that would ditch your frat brothers every night of the week to cuddle with your GF. If you did go out, you would call your GF every 25 minutes to update her where you were and how much you missed her. You would write her poems for fun and the only way you have sex is missionary.
e) To the girl that got offended by the guy that called me a *****--You are a joke. People like you (with your politically correctness sensitivities) are why terrorists are not pre-screened and able to board our flights and why waterboarding is now banned from interrogations. I really do feel bad for you and think you will be trampled on all over in your life if you don't toughen up a little bit.
f) My GF is cool as ****. I care a lot about her and do not use her. I am questioning whether to spend the rest of my life with her, that's all. For me, that is a scary thought. I am faithful when I date her.
g) Yes you can still love and respect someone while binging drinking your ass off, gambling on college football, and going to strip clubs. Raging when you are young and still can is harmless fun. I have never dated a girl that didn't let me rage.

Somebody should water-board you

By the way, terrorist are pre-screened, as is every black, brown, or off-white person who looks like a terrorist. It just doesn't work because people like you are in charge of the TSA.

 

[LuciusVorenus]

Interesting choice of first post.

I wonder if the two of them can post at the same time :O

 

[He2]

as a litmus test:

I ask everyone on this thread: do you believe that "when harry met sally" is a realistic portrayal of love?

 

[LuciusVorenus]

as a litmus test:

I ask everyone on this thread: do you believe that "when harry met sally" is a realistic portrayal of love?

No. I believe Bill Crystal cannot be loved.

 

[apumic]

Couple more thoughts upon reflection:

a) Sex and money makes all guys happy.

Sounds like a pretty meaningless existence to me if those are your two primary motivators in life.

b) Will this make me a bad doctor? No. I will still ball out as a surgeon. If a patient was dying or had a ctastrophic injury and came to me and he said "Cure me", and I said, I am the best surgeon in this hospital, but I like to slay chicks, I guarantee you he would be ok with that.

Did anyone say it would? OTOH, if you "like to slay chicks" (and state that) I think I'd tell you to get the he** away from me!!! No way in **** I'm letting you anywhere near me (or anyone else I care about) with a knife! (Esp. not while your victim is under anesthesia....)

c) Apumic, please stop reading the literature cirriculum you got in high school and college--books such as The Awakening. Feminist novels are really clouding your judgment of practicality.

lol.... wow, I never even would have known of a feminist novel to mention, TBH. Up on your feminist reading are we? As for me... can't say I've read any feminist literature -- and honestly I don't care to. Nevertheless, I find your attitude toward women very unbecoming for someone in a long-term relationship. I simply cannot imagine treating my gf that way. Yeah, she's hot but I wouldn't date her for the sex. As for money... you and I are the men in our relationships. What does it matter how much money she makes if you're the man? Is she taking you out to dinner? I guess I'm a bit traditional on this but I'd pay for my gf regardless of who makes more money.

d) Again, just b/c I am a dude and like to rage does not mean I am incapable of a girlfriend. A lot of you may have been too busy studying or were in the pre-med sorority/honor societies to realize that people in their young 20's like to have fun and make bad decisions. Girls and guys. I don't want some girl that is going to be Mother Teresa. It would only depress me in school.

Sounds like you should dump your gf and then wait outside planned parenthood near your med school for your next gf. Should be a good match.

 

[He2]

apumic, have you ever been in a relationship?

 

[Sammich117]

While we may not all agree with the OP, let's try to keep the personal attacks to a minimum, please.

 

[He2]

i'm sorry, not to be a dbag, but your posts come off like the high schoolers who ask about pre-studying the boards...incredibly naive

 

[morning]

Couple more thoughts upon reflection:

a) Sex and money makes all guys happy. Period. In fact, I cannot think of 2 things that make me more happy. It seems like many of the guys on this thread enjoy such activities with their GFs such as talking into the night, watching the stars, hiking, cooking, and going down on her on top of a bed of rose petals. While I have done those things and they can be ok things to do, the 2 best are the aforementioned: sex and money.

b) Will this make me a bad doctor? No. I will still ball out as a surgeon. If a patient was dying or had a ctastrophic injury and came to me and he said "Cure me", and I said, I am the best surgeon in this hospital, but I like to slay chicks, I guarantee you he would be ok with that.

c) Apumic, please stop reading the literature cirriculum you got in high school and college--books such as The Awakening. Feminist novels are really clouding your judgment of practicality.

d) Again, just b/c I am a dude and like to rage does not mean I am incapable of a girlfriend. A lot of you may have been too busy studying or were in the pre-med sorority/honor societies to realize that people in their young 20's like to have fun and make bad decisions. Girls and guys. I don't want some girl that is going to be Mother Teresa. It would only depress me in school.

e) IDoItForLove and CaptainSSO. First of all, ironic screenname--your responses are very fitting. Second, lighten up a little bit. If you are offended that I said you like Pinot Grigio and moonlight beach walks, there is something seriously wrong with your childhood.

I would love to continue this debate. I am becoming closer to make a decision. Thanks for the input.

Quit trying to justify yourself. If you don't give a sh** than stop giving a sh** so damn loudly.

Go bang someone in a nest of $50s. Or "rage" or whatever it is you do. You obviously care about this way too much.

 

[He2]

While we may not all agree with the OP, let's try to keep the personal attacks to a minimum, please.

okok sorry

 

[FluffyRabbit]

as a litmus test:

I ask everyone on this thread: do you believe that "when harry met sally" is a realistic portrayal of love?

I have not seen this movie, but judging from the title I can't say I regret that this is the case.

 

[she woolf]

as a litmus test:

I ask everyone on this thread: do you believe that "when harry met sally" is a realistic portrayal of love?

I'm a girl and I watched that over hyped movie on Oxygen and literally wanted to GAUGE MY EYES OUT IT WAS SO BORING! chick flicks make me contemplate suicide.

 

[He2]

right, i'm just saying that the media tends to have a very idealistic way of thinking about love (but not sex). I don't think its somehow a dichotomy between realizing certain truths (guys like sex and money), and being able to love a girl. (just because its something you like doesn't mean its everything)

 

[cliffhuxtableDO]

I'm pretty disappointed in SDN right now.

 

[Slowpoke]

As for money... you and I are the men in our relationships. What does it matter how much money she makes if you're the man? Is she taking you out to dinner? I guess I'm a bit traditional on this but I'd pay for my gf regardless of who makes more money.

 

[schrizto]

as a litmus test:

I ask everyone on this thread: do you believe that "when harry met sally" is a realistic portrayal of love?

I've never even seen that movie. It's older then I am. People don't even name their kids Harry and Sally anymore. 😳

 

[LuciusVorenus]

I'm pretty disappointed in SDN right now.

:troll:

Really. Somebody makes a post which anyone with half a brain could realize wouldn't end up anywhere good. Then makes another account to agree with said post. Then sits there and watches the thread without every saying anything himself unless it's more "hilarious" crap.

🙄

 

[apumic]

apumic, have you ever been in a relationship?

Yes. Did you actually read my post? I indicated I am in a relationship currently. I simply don't see the value in a lot of what some think a relationship is about. The OP appears to have more use for a prostitute than his gf. If your relationship is based on sex and money... it sounds like what you'd do with a prostitute to me. To each his own, I suppose. I'd rather build a relationship with her and be sure she's someone I could spend the rest of my life with. I mean... for over half of a couple's marriage, she's not going to be particularly hot anyway so if his relationship with her is based on having sex with a hot, supermodel-quality body then I would propose one ought to reconsider his reasons for entering into that relationship. I say this as a guy who has been in both kinds of relationships and I can honestly say the less sexual is far more fulfilling.

 

[cliffhuxtableDO]

:troll:

Really. Somebody makes a post which anyone with half a brain could realize wouldn't end up anywhere good. Then makes another account to agree with said post. Then sits there and watches the thread without every saying anything himself unless it's more "hilarious" crap.

🙄

Are you serious? Get a life man. Everyone is so quick to judge the OP and make attacks on his character when he was just putting his situation out there because he thinks he might want to spend the rest of the life with his girlfriend, but he wants some reinforcement one way or the other, for whatever reason, and people just attack him. That's pathetic. Unless it's your sister he's dating what do you REALLY care about the way he treats his SO.

 

[LuciusVorenus]

Are you serious? Get a life man. Everyone is so quick to judge the OP and make attacks on his character when he was just putting his situation out there because he thinks he might want to spend the rest of the life with his girlfriend, but he wants some reinforcement one way or the other, for whatever reason, and people just attack him. That's pathetic. Unless it's your sister he's dating what do you REALLY care about the way he treats his SO.

Are you serious? Who the **** posts "should I break up with her or marry her" on an internet forum he's never posted on before? Why doesn't he ask his friends? Hell, why not start a poll while you're at it. 🙄

There are only 3 possibilities
1. He's a troll
2. He doesn't act like this in real life and just can't write without sounding like a dbag (see number 1)
3. He actually does act like this in real life, in which case I'm guessing his girlfriend is also a dbag and so they're probably perfect for each other (hurray for gender equality 😛 )

Whichever of the 3 it is, it's still hilarious that people take his question seriously

I <3 servers, and this thread does not deserve to get to 10+ pages.

 

[FrazzleSnazzle]

I'm pretty disappointed in SDN right now.