I have had many moments wondering how life would work "down the road".... my husband and I both being 3rd year med students. I think the most important thing is remembering why you got involved with the person to begin with (whether it is your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend)
Obviously medicine is important to us or we would not have gone into the field BUT obviously these people are important to us as well. Therefore, if you want your relationship to work you have to work at balancing it with medicine and your career.
It totally lifted me up to read the post by ESPNdeportes-- THANK YOU!
It's nice to hear a good story... bc you do hear a lot of "bad" ones.
Just a note: I actually came across a number of attendings married to another physician on my peds rotation (from those I can recall: one was married to a GI specialist and another to a surgeon)
I suppose picking a field where you can have more control over your schedule is important too, that is if having a family is important to you.
Just another quick note: Babies were totally on my mind during my OB-GYN rotation and when I was in the nursery on peds!! All I did was wonder when in this crazy life I would ever have time for it.... I was reminded all the time that it may not be for a long while.
The chief resident of OB was actually pregnant while I was there. She was married to the chief resident of anesthesia and they had two small children at home already!! So people do make it work.... they had help from her mom, I believe. And I think she was going to cut down on her hours once she finished residency.
Ok that's my two cents. I do think that in making relationships work, people deal with all kinds of situations and this is just another one of them!