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I did a search using "ring" but was unable to find anything that would address my question.
I'm a 3rd year medstudent. She's a 2nd year resident. We've been dating for 3+ years now and have every intention of getting married. We were actually engaged once, but had to break it off due to some family conflict on her side. I won't go into it since it's not necessary for this question to be answered, though it was financially related.
How, as a 3rd year medstudent who is living from loan check to loan check, be expected to pay for an engagement ring? I've ring shopped before and they run on average $3G and up. The first one I bought I actually had to take out a private loan. When my girlfriend found out, she felt it was unwise and said she rather me not take out a loan for the second time around, and should save up my money instead. Save?? We all know how difficult that is, especially with the little money we get to begin with. At the same time, I try my best to keep our relationship active by taking her out on dates, paying for some of our weekend vacations, etc. As of now, I'm literally doing the transferring balances between credit cards. Not only that, but I also have to save for the wedding and honeymoon expenses.
So my question to all who have done it before me...did you take out a private loan? Borrow money from relatives? (which to me is essentially the same thing) or did you manage to do so with savings? I see no other option. How do medstudents marry without the help from their parents?
I'm a 3rd year medstudent. She's a 2nd year resident. We've been dating for 3+ years now and have every intention of getting married. We were actually engaged once, but had to break it off due to some family conflict on her side. I won't go into it since it's not necessary for this question to be answered, though it was financially related.
How, as a 3rd year medstudent who is living from loan check to loan check, be expected to pay for an engagement ring? I've ring shopped before and they run on average $3G and up. The first one I bought I actually had to take out a private loan. When my girlfriend found out, she felt it was unwise and said she rather me not take out a loan for the second time around, and should save up my money instead. Save?? We all know how difficult that is, especially with the little money we get to begin with. At the same time, I try my best to keep our relationship active by taking her out on dates, paying for some of our weekend vacations, etc. As of now, I'm literally doing the transferring balances between credit cards. Not only that, but I also have to save for the wedding and honeymoon expenses.
So my question to all who have done it before me...did you take out a private loan? Borrow money from relatives? (which to me is essentially the same thing) or did you manage to do so with savings? I see no other option. How do medstudents marry without the help from their parents?