I have grown to dislike people more and more over the last few years. Just tonight we got 2 meth abusers, 2 polysubstance, and an alcohol pancreatitis in the ICU. Every…single….admit/consult…. was drug related. Anyone have advice on balancing this **** out with volunteering or at least being exposed to the other side of society? The non suck side? Does it exist? I need more balance.
I’m going to give the same advice (with my unique flavor) as you’ve gotten upthread:
A lot of patients you meet are lovely people, often having horrible days. Find them. Spend an extra minute or 3 with them. Enjoy them. Let them re-energize you. Some patients will be horrible. Even if you and the rest of your staff are kind, compassionate and understanding they will curse, belittle, and try to harm you. This is the nature of the beast and cannot be changed. What CAN be changed is how you react and adapt to this insult.
It is your duty to care for them. Acknowledging that this is honorable, and that you do a service to humanity, is important. You need to give them excellent care without irretrievably harming yourself. Can you be zen, and let water roll of your back? Can you enjoy the challenge of efficIency and distance? Do you need to see them as RVUs, another achievement to unlock? Learn a way to maintain arms length distance from harm.
As far as balance, I’m not an expert but I think you need a couple outside things. Perhaps Mind/Body/Spirit—
(1) Physical. Exercise, HARD. I don’t think the type is important really, just something you enjoy. I’m a cyclist who likes to lift some weights and run a couple times a week.
(2) A creative, meditative, quiet, cerebral hobby / niche or two. Myself, I like making scale models (I mostly make historic tanks/armor, but occasionally planes or sci-fi things). I also like reading novels/history/sci-fi. I know people who wood-work, who write, who study literature, who publish in “real” journalism, travel to enjoy historic sites, paint, etc.
(3) Socialization. Outside of work (its fine if its with work people! We work with INCREDIBLE people).
You can mix these, and do social sport, or hobbies that have social aspects. But I think some of all 3 are important to keep your head straight (or MY head straight…)